Not sure how any word I associate with myself can be considered "empowering." Speaking of labels, I've met many gay guys in my life that had had girlfriends, or at least had had a fair amount of sex with women. That, to me, is not "gay" but "bisexual," because, well, duh, to have had sex with those women their cocks had to get hard. A hard cock means, well, at least some amount of sexual attraction there. I would consider a man gay if he's absolutely never had sex with a female nor ever could picture himself doing so or even imagining himself having the desire to do so. Anything else to me, using his hard cock as the standard, is bisexual if he also has some interest in having sexual relations with men.