Okay so me and a few friends got into a heated debate about how gay guys desire straight guys to the point that they are willing to lower their standards just to say they were with a straight guy. I'm gay and I do think that this is partially true because I've witnessed it more so when I was much younger where a bi-curious/straight guy is open to messing around and it's easy for him to get laid based on the sole fact that he doesn't identify as gay. I've also heard from one of my straight friends who self proclaims to be "unattractive" tell me how attractive gay guys come on to him pretty aggressively just because he has gay friends so they assume him to be curious. Chime in with your thoughts if you think this is true or not true.
I have seen a number of gay guys take special effort in hooking up with someone who was perceived as either borderline gay, confused, or by (their definition) straight.
The gay guy may often be seen doing this in order to:
--validate their personal attractiveness an desirability to both gay / straight community.
--demonstrate their seductive skills.
--overcome some personally held feeling of their own lower self worth.
-- experience the thrill of the chase.
--act on some actual feelings of concern for the ( would- be straight) guy and thoughts centered around leading him to some new level of self discovery.
--all of the above.
It is hard to say if any of these behaviors represent a “lowering of standards”. We would need to see that list.
This would make a good topic for another thread.