And who appointed you the defender of the definition of the word “gay”? I use it differently. Why does that matter? We all have largely the same experience of same-sex attraction and sexual activity. Why is my not-quite 100% all same-sex all the time difference so threatening to you? I don’t understand it.
I only speak for myself.
Your opinion is speaking for other people, so I feel that gives people a right to reply. Speaking for yourself and your own experiences is a completely different story.
It's not unnecessary & pointless if someone is trying to find like minded individuals to share their life & journey with. Why be with someone who doesn't fit the bill of what you want most in a partner? It's not fair or right for both parties involved. If a man in his past couldn't accept his attraction to men so he went as far as to have sex under false pretenses with women just to appease his family, friends or society then they are definitely not for me. Those types of men in my experience have far more baggage then I would ever want to deal with. In the end, no matter who you are trying to please you are still going to end up disappointing someone or not living up to their expectations or desires for you or your life. So why bother in the 1st place? Everyone should live their lives free of the burden of trying to be someone they are not or try to "fit" in. I will always stand by my belief for as long as I live that any man regardless of what they consider themselves currently - if you are capable of being turned on to the pointing of cumming during sex with a woman you are in fact bi but in denial. No one can convince me otherwise.Your opinion is speaking for other people, so I feel that gives people a right to reply. Speaking for yourself and your own experiences is a completely different story.
Your opinion completely ignores social pressures, let alone human curiosity. And honestly, it’s kind of silly to say. If someone said they were vegan, would you say they were liars or delusional because at one time in their lives they are meat?
Im not sure how it even affects you if someone says they are gay but used to have sex with women. It’s just, all this defending the gold star stuff seems unnecessary and kind of pointless. It’s really your loss to be that narrow minded to have such a purity test. I would love for you to tell me why you feel that way and where it comes from, because right now, I’m just like…
Where I agree with you when you say, “Everyone should live their lives free of the burden of trying to be someone they are not or try to ‘fit’ in,” not everyone is blessed enough to figure that out right away. Sometimes, it’s a journey.
At least we can agree on 1 thing. I do agree discovering & ultimately accepting ones sexuality is a journey. But... I do draw the line at someone allowing themselves to be brainwashed by others viewpoints (specifically from religion). It shows an inability to think for ones self or know how to be authentic without anyone else's input. I am compassionate when it makes sense. But in my experience, the ones who tried to be "straight" because of societal pressure or familial influence are the ones who come with way more drama & baggage then i'd ever care to deal with. I don't believe i'm excluding any great people because in the end i'm protecting my heart. There's nothing wrong with that. Race is a physical attribute, sexual identity is something else altogether. Although, I will admit I have heard some things being told or said to someone from their own race that was downright despicable.
Thanks for reading & allowing the agree to disagree on certain things occur. I'm always honest. Even when what I have to say isn't liked.
That's why I don't label myself anymore because any man can be gay just saying it out loud.
We are humans, we are not food. This analogy is ridiculousYour opinion is speaking for other people, so I feel that gives people a right to reply. Speaking for yourself and your own experiences is a completely different story.
Your opinion completely ignores social pressures, let alone human curiosity. And honestly, it’s kind of silly to say. If someone said they were vegan, would you say they were liars or delusional because at one time in their lives they are meat?
Im not sure how it even affects you if someone says they are gay but used to have sex with women. It’s just, all this defending the gold star stuff seems unnecessary and kind of pointless. It’s really your loss to be that narrow minded to have such a purity test. I would love for you to tell me why you feel that way and where it comes from, because right now, I’m just like…
For me I say I am super gay, I like men sexually and romantically.... but on the other hand if Supergay became a thing than all the "gay"men will be like I define as Super gay too even though I bang woman and you cant define my sexuality.
