I agree with you about the exception but the topic said "experiences" not experience,if it happens once,then it's an experience,happened twice.... it's heading somewhere not to talk about it happening multiple times with the person enjoying it but choosing to label himself with the label that don't fit them,then I'm sorry for that person because they are definitely in denial
From your second point, it's obvious you lived your whole life as a straight man benefitting from straight privilege because a gay person will definitely know how changing of labels will arm homophobes with the "it's a choice" slogan,it either that or you are stuck in your American and eurocentric bubbles and you think the whole world is like that,go and check that privilege, there are worlds beyond America and Europe