njersey
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Hypothetically assuming this person is acting sincerely in good faith, I think he sees himself as battling for recognition for homosexuals, for the immutability and innateness of the homosexual orientation. Arguing that homosexuals can be circumstantially comfortable with sexually interacting with members of the opposite sex introduces a fluidity to sexuality, which in turn opens a door for saying there actually is no discrete sexual orientation. This possibly poses problems for the social recognition of homosexuals, which at least appears to have been founded on and justified by the notions of innateness and immutability.
Well, if you assume that "gay" must mean the same thing as "purely homosexual", then you would be right about these responses voiding its use of meaning.
But what would it mean to be purely anything with respect to sexuality? As far as I can tell, sexual attraction is a modification of aesthetic appreciation (i.e. one responds to someone sexually because one finds them aesthetically pleasing), and aesthetic appreciation falls along an extensive continuum. Where exactly does one draw the line of where mere aesthetic appreciation stops, and sexual attraction begins? If I thought a certain woman's body looked very nice as a whole, would I have to say I'm not purely homosexual, even if I didn't necessarily want to have sex with her? If so, what do we do with the fact that regarding many of the men that I believe I find sexually attractive, I also do not want to have sex with them?
Biological reality? What are you referring to? Sexual orientation? What do you mean by calling it a biological reality?
Gay rights are the rights that pertain to gay people, which have a specialized sense because gay people are conditioned to live differently from straight people in certain respects, and everyone being assumed to have the same rights, these rights have to be applied in a way that adapts to this different condition. I don't know about the designation "gay marriage". "Same sex marriage" may be more appropriate, because what is distinctive about such a marriage is that both parties are of the same sex. Identity is not essential to such a marriage, but identity motivates granting same-sex marriage as a right, since gay people are excluded from being married without it, with respect to the relationships the differing condition leads gay people to have.
I'm with you on this, in part. Having some degree of significant attraction to the opposite sex, in addition to a predominant attraction to the same sex, qualifies some shade of bisexuality. Where I don't agree with you, to refer back to the distinction I made between the concepts of "gay" and "purely homosexual", is that "bisexual" and "gay" are absolutely mutually exclusively categories.
As far as I am concerned, being gay means that one is predominantly attracted to members of the same sex, such that one will feel driven to focus on them in the romantic/sexual dimension of one's life rather than members of the opposite sex, or, to put it in negative terms, that one will be unsatisfied if this drive is suppressed (e.g. closeted married men). So, being attracted to members of the same sex is central to being gay. But the relevant consideration is that one has a drive that shapes one's life and identity; purity needn't come into this picture. Additionally, a gay person would not be able to be satisfied, in the same way, if his/her romantic/sexual life only involved members of the opposite sex.
Notably, this way of looking at what being gay involves does not rule out secondary (i.e. not of the same degree or significance) interests in the opposite sex. From what I have observed of the way the terms "gay" and "straight" on the one hand, and "heterosexual" and "homosexual" on the other, are used, is that the former are chiefly personal identities, whereas the latter are clinical descriptions of a person's sexual behavior and inclinations. Further, I have observed that, though heterosexuality is related to and partially involved in being straight, and likewise homosexuality with being gay, that they are not treated as equivalent notions. Being straight involves being predominantly heterosexual, and how that shapes one's life and relation to the world, and likewise for being gay and predominantly homosexual. But, whether one is purely or just predominantly heterosexual or homosexual typically makes no necessary, critical difference for one's relation to the world. If a straight, married man occasionally checks out other guys, and thinks things like "oh, wow, his butt looks nice", but is entirely satisfied with his relationship with his wife, and never cares to stray into messing with other guys, there is no significant sense in which his identity is altered by that mild, passing attraction to members of the same sex. Sure, he is not purely heterosexual. But there is also no important reason to not apply straightness as an identity to him, given the way his predominant heterosexuality shapes his life.
As such, no, I don't think there is any clear, necessary reason why gay men passingly commenting that they have some sexual interest in female bodies should negate their gay identities, since it likely has no significant effect on their lifestyles and their relationships to society. If you want to argue about sexual orientation in the other sense (the more clinical sense), you're welcome to do that. But I think negating all the rest of what is involved and follows from being predominantly homosexuality, just because it's not pure, is reductive and unhelpful. Further, as I explored earlier in this post, I question how one would even explain an absolutely pure sexuality.
I'm not seeing this? You didn't even mention transsexuals explicitly before he responded. The notion of having a vagina not indicating a woman is still counterintuitive for many, so if you just mention having sex with a person who has a vagina, many will assume you're talking about a person who identifies as a woman, and you can't assume thereby that they're being transphobic.
There are some moderated posts you’re missing. lol