Do gay men ever have straight experiences after they come out as gay?

[Kamilogaybogota]

As you yourself said in a previous message, if you feel sexual attraction for 2 and only 2 sex you are bisexual. There wasn't any attraction to the woman involved. Friction is enough to cause an erection, but an erection doesn't equal desire. Enjoying and appreciating the beauty of the female body doesn't equal sexual desire, nor does it make me bisexual or a victim of self-deception. Labeling other people with your own standards is nonsense and pretentious. I've had sex with well over a hundred men, yet two women negate all of that and make me bisexual? Is a gay man bisexual because he saw Sharon Stones vulva in Basic Instinct and didn't run screaming from the theater in terror? Do you consider men who have never touched a woman to be bisexual because they passed through a vagina when they were born, or are the true gay men those who were born by c-section? The whole idea of someone else defining my sexuality is nonsense. I know exactly who I am. You don't.

YOU NEED A PSYCOLOGY TEST NOW !
For both your Sexual disorientation AND your Satanist behaviour
I just feel Sorry for your Distorbed brain and you are a Shame for real Gay men trying to Fake be one of us but also shame for Real Bisexual who are proud of what they are.

 

[Infernal]

YOU NEED A PSYCOLOGY TEST NOW !
For both your Sexual disorientation AND your Satanist behaviour
I just feel Sorry for your Distorbed brain and you are a Shame for real Gay men trying to Fake be one of us but also shame for Real Bisexual who are proud of what they are.

You're cute

 

[BiBiGayGuy]

I’ve never had a straight experience, have always been gay. I’d like to try though. You only live once, and never knowing how it feels to slip inside a pussy seems like I’m missing out on one of life’s experiences

Did you ever try it?

 

[London74]

Did you ever try it?

No, still not had the right opportunity. Still want to though. But think I’d rather have fun with a trans guy than a woman. Wouldn’t want to just “use” a trans guy like that though, as that’s not at all nice. Chances of finding a genuine FWB (where “friend” is as important as “benefits”) trans guy are pretty slim I guess.

 

[englad]

God, this clusterfuck of a thread got bumped.

There are two factors I find utterly stupid in a sexuality discussion:

1. Telling other people what their sexuality is.
2. Asking other people to tell you what your own sexuality is.

This thread has way too much of the former, but the latter gets asked all the time here.

 

[blondconnection]

I asked this very same question to a gay guy and he denied it. Turns out he had a straight experience at a point when he had accepted he is gay. He just did not wanna tell.
When I wanted to have a straight expeience, I thought about it and went for it. Oh yeah ... it was so so good. Call it straight or whatever, I would call it a good experience. No romance, no regret. I felt an attraction for her and I knew she felt for me. A short attraction. No labels and just a good sexual feeling for both.
I love cocks and still prefer only men.

 

[LOVE_MMFs]

Short answer is yes. I’ve been with guys exclusively for over two decades until this week when I had a MMF. The interesting thing is that I think I enjoyed having sex with a woman more at this point in my life. I now view it as a purely sexual experience rather than potential romantic relationship since I’ve become comfortable identifying as gay. I also think having another guy there made it more enjoyable.

 

[BiBiGayGuy]

I asked this very same question to a gay guy and he denied it. Turns out he had a straight experience at a point when he had accepted he is gay. He just did not wanna tell.
When I wanted to have a straight expeience, I thought about it and went for it. Oh yeah ... it was so so good. Call it straight or whatever, I would call it a good experience. No romance, no regret. I felt an attraction for her and I knew she felt for me. A short attraction. No labels and just a good sexual feeling for both.
I love cocks and still prefer only men.

How did you find out that he had lied about it?

 

[blondconnection]

How did you find out that he had lied about it?

First he denied it. That guy later wanted to try MMF. So he said that he had straight sex but it turned out to be some quick show & he was confident to try MMF.

 

[deleted10883]

Dated a woman for a while. She turned out bat shit crazy. Before that had a bit of a FWB thing for a while with another woman she dared me to nibble on her tits and eat her out once. Turns out I was really good at it. It was fun.

 

[Munchy]

Kameron Michaels a contestant on RuPaul's drag race said he started having sex with women after coming out as gay.

 

[Teague]

Yup. Homoflexible here. A hole's a hole. As long as there's masculine energy going on, I love it. FTM guys, or a bi guy egging me on with his girlfriend. (I've done both!)

 

[headbang8]

If you have no problem with fucking a woman or letting a woman suck your dick then you're bisexual for sure. A 100% gay guy (which are the only gay guys) wouldn't never do that even if another man was involved.

For all intents and purposes, I'm a gay guy. And a gay guy with a husband, at that. I tried to be straight in my youth, but the moment I slept with a man, I was hooked. Like night and day.

But YOLO, FOMO, and the spirit of why-the-hell-not sometimes tempts me with the prospect of straight sex. Depends on the circumstance, the partner, and my momentary sense of adventure. Though I'm getting on, I can get it up for almost anything. And a new sensation experienced in the company of someone fun and interesting is nothing to be sneezed at.

If you were gay you would be turned off at the idea of a woman sucking your dick in the first place, and you wouldn't allow it, and you definitely wouldn't penetrate and perform on a woman , another guy present doesn't make you want to fuck a woman, it's the fact you're bi to a degree, not 100% gay.

Turned-off is not the same as not-particularly-turned-on. I can have a not-unpleasant experience with a woman, and one that still might be worth doing for all kinds of reasons. But it doesn't change my fundamental orientation. Women might be fun, but men excite my passion and desire.

Am I 100% gay? 99% gay? 80% gay? 51% gay? Meh. I'm gay. In the Olympics of Sex, that's the team I'll be medalling for.

But I have no problem cheering for Team Bisexual, if they're putting on a great performance.

 

[Schabowy44]

I think the really question here is if a straight man would not be sexual with a man than he is straight and if a straight man has sex with a guy or is able to keep an erection with a man he is then considered bi, then why doesn’t that apply to homosexuals? I let a guy give me a big but I couldn’t get it up. It just wouldn’t happen for me. Seeing a man do that didn’t turn me on. So, no I’m not attracted to men like that. I get what they are saying. There is a level of bisexuality and that’s ok. I say I’m 1% gay because a nice but is nice to look at, but I wouldn’t touch it. Plus, I’m not aroused by it. Yeah, I think if some of the gay guys would let go and dive into they may find they swing both ways. There are probably more bisexual men than what we think. Just my thoughts.

If u would let a gay guy suck your cock I think u would feel different, you would arouse and you would ove that because gay guys know to to pleasure the men

 

[ToryK]

You Satanist Arsehole
First of all you Can not get an erection without sexual desire.
Women can fake sexual atraction cause they are just a Hole.
A man CAN NOT LIE TO HIS BODY , if you don't feel the sexual atracion your Dick doesn't get hard. And even Tho if you use medicine to Get Hard that means that you want to get hard and fuck a Female body , a Gay Man will NEVER want that. So once again you are Bisexual you like it or not and you are jusg lying to your self cause anybody else believes you are Gay.

"Satanist Arsehole"!?!...omfg lol

 

[Infernal]

"Satanist Arsehole"!?!...omfg lol

He was a bundle of sunshine, wasn't he?

 

[ToryK]

He was a bundle of sunshine, wasn't he?

Delightful

 

[bigboaster]

What an interesting thread. I am unsure how I feel about the entire discourse however. Particularly as a bisexual guy.

On one hand I do think sexuality is fluid and people should be free to enjoy what they like and labels are personal and people should label themselves however they wish to. I have strongly argued for that in other threads (particularly the letting gay men identify as gay even if they sometimes have sex with women)

At the same time I do feel a slight sense is bi erasure from a lot of this conversation? Not explicitly nor am I accusing anyone but it's just my own perception and anyone can feel free to correct me. I sometimes think why aren't some people willing to accept that label? What's preventing them?

It seems like people oft have a misunderstanding of how complex being bisexual is and how wide that spectrum is. Pardon the assumption but it does seem like certain people think there must be a near equal level of attraction to both sexes to be bi (inaccurate) or that they must be able to be romantically involved with either (Also inaccurate). But idk.

I think for some people the social/personal/emotional aspect of one identity outweighs the hard-line more concrete sexuality aspect. Which I think is fair enough.

As an aside. I Also I find the idea of someone thinking "labels don't matter" and "I will stick myself to this label I prefer regardless of my attractions" simultaneously to be incongruent.

Wouldn’t it just be easier to be "unlabeled" then?

 

[AfterHours69]

That is the most stupidest thing I ever heard we have labels for a freaking reason it keeps us safe is keep us in our own environment not everybody in the world is bisexual and I wish people need to stop saying that nobody on this earth is bisexual it is not by biphobic to say that respect other peoples sexual orientation if we can respect straight people sexual orientation and you have to respect gay people sexual orientation. Are you using this as an excuse to fuck everything on the freaking planet that’s why you got people thinking that the gay community as a whole is a group of people that wanna sleep with everything Gay men have to fight for everybody in the LGBT community to get their rights And it’s not labeling bull crap is pushing the gay community backwards tell that to the people in the Middle East who are being killed for being gay and tell them that the labels are a problem

Did we read the same post? That’s quite a reaction there.

 

[AfterHours69]