Do gay men have more enjoyable sex than straight men?

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I'm only asking out of curiosity, but to gay and bi men have better sex than their straight counterparts? Straight men normally avoid anything having to do with the butt, for risk of being thought of as gay and I don’t think that rimming is something that a lot of straight women would want to do. Gay and bi men are not afraid of that because they know that that's where the g spot is. Men are usually better at oral as well because we know the organ. And with 3 or more partner, I've been in one but if all 3 people aren't fully engaged with each other, then isn't just one person having all the fun. Unless the women with the 1 guy are comfortable engaging with each other or the 2 guys with the one woman,what's the point?

This is strictly out of curiosity and feel free to call out anything I've gotten wrong.
 
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Better sex difficult to quantify each two people who have 'missionary sex' :innocent: together will feel they are having fantastic sex as they do not have anything to judge it against unless they are experimental and adventurous :scream::blush: Using your question it could be said that gay men are missing out because of the lack of vaginal sex

Gay and bi men just have different sex
 

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it depends but I believe so, many straight men, at least in my neighborhood and school coexistence, I've come across several situations in which these straight men wanted something from me, be it blowjob, handjob or even penetration but I was very naive and didn't read between the lines I did it a few times and I could have done 10x more and I'm talking about pre-teens and teenagers at the time some are already married and with children now what i mean is that we men know how to satisfy with sex of the same sex because these straight men felt pleasure and excited in a certain way

now making a counterpoint who is real straight and likes pussy he has threesome with two women, swing houses, night club with strippers and hookers and usually these men like to fuck him and another friend with a hooker or a group of friends with several prostitutes we think that the straight sex is just the mom and dad postion but that's when he's dating when they single he's also promiscuous like us gays or even cheats on his girlfriend with several girls will know

a third way now many straight female like sex but they can't be easy like us who have grindr to schedule a fuck and fuck whenever we want and they also say you have to play the conquest game because if she goes very straight to the point the man get scared and runs away since he is the ''sex provider'' many complain about this and also about fucking two guys from a cycle of friends because she is disliked among guys or labeled as easy so be it and independently today there are a lot of liberal women who like to play with the boy's ass but of course he won't comment on it

what I mean is that there are rules that gay men must follow, that straight men must follow and that straight women must follow they are unspoken but are intrinsic in the sexist and patriarchal society that we live in outside the religious context that dictates how a woman behaves or even waits to lose her virginity on her wedding night, whether male or female so there's no way to judge who has better sex
 

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Sex is honestly how you define it. Really no one can truly say who's having "more" fun because everyone sex drive is different straight bi or gay.
Maybe the question shouldn't have been better sex. I'm really just curious about how much or how often straight men get experience pleasure from prostate stimulation. In my mind it's taboo and most straight men and women won't even consider it. I just wonder if that is completely untrue or not.
 

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I would say yes just based on my personal experience. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing 1 or 2 things (positions, anal..etc) or everything. What matters is if your sexual desires and fantasies are fulfilled. On poster here said its hard to quantify when a lot of people are only experienced in what they know. They’re kinda right, but as a gay man, I feel that I have access not to only what I know but also what I want to know. So if we judge based on overall sexual satisfaction rather than what things have you done (like checking off porn genres), I’d say gay men do have better sex because it’s easier for us to explore and hook up
 
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I'm only asking out of curiosity, but to gay and bi men have better sex than their straight counterparts? Straight men normally avoid anything having to do with the butt, for risk of being thought of as gay and I don’t think that rimming is something that a lot of straight women would want to do. Gay and bi men are not afraid of that because they know that that's where the g spot is. Men are usually better at oral as well because we know the organ. And with 3 or more partner, I've been in one but if all 3 people aren't fully engaged with each other, then isn't just one person having all the fun. Unless the women with the 1 guy are comfortable engaging with each other or the 2 guys with the one woman,what's the point?

This is strictly out of curiosity and feel free to call out anything I've gotten wrong.
Sometimes I seriously wonder but can't help believing that straight sex and lust is just as deep and fulfilling as gay sex.
 

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I'm only asking out of curiosity, but to gay and bi men have better sex than their straight counterparts? Straight men normally avoid anything having to do with the butt, for risk of being thought of as gay and I don’t think that rimming is something that a lot of straight women would want to do. Gay and bi men are not afraid of that because they know that that's where the g spot is. Men are usually better at oral as well because we know the organ. And with 3 or more partner, I've been in one but if all 3 people aren't fully engaged with each other, then isn't just one person having all the fun. Unless the women with the 1 guy are comfortable engaging with each other or the 2 guys with the one woman,what's the point?

This is strictly out of curiosity and feel free to call out anything I've gotten wrong.
I’m gonna challenge the premise of your question. Gay guys (such as myself) can’t gauge how much straight guys are enjoying themselves and vice versa.

If I’m hearing you right, your question is whether gay sex is more enjoyable than straight sex— and that’s completely up to the person! If you ask me, having done both, I absolutely love sex with a man way more than sex with a woman. But that’s because I’m gay. Other people (esp. straight guys or even bi guys) may have a totally different take on it.

The real question is what YOU enjoy… and the only way to figure that out is to try it for yourself!
 

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I think there are two main things about men who have gay sex that probably make it likely that they end up having better sex on average than exclusively hetro men.

The first one is just the frequency and amount of sex that is available to gay men. With no menstrual cycles or pregnancy issues and with both (or all) partners having far higher testosterone levels than women have there is both the opportunity and the incentive to have a LOT of sex so most gay men develop significant sexual skills earlier in both their relationships and in their lives in general.

The second one is that while all men tend to seek sexual novelty and respond with intense interest and pleasure to it, gay men appear to have significantly lower inhibitions about acting on novel sexual desires and fetishes (probably because they can more easily find a partner who is similarly uninhibited.) As a result they more quickly gain experience with a far wider variety of sexual practices and are able to find the ones that really do it for them personally at an earlier age.

I do think that the very best straight sex can be just as mind blowing and and satisfying as the best gay sex but its just a lot more time consuming and hit and miss to discover and arrange (so many things have to fall into place for the woman) and is therefore much more rare due to the physical and psychological sexual limitations that females have compared to males.

That said I think the sexual experience between a man and woman is mentally quite different than between two males. With a woman a lot of the psychological stimulation for the male comes from the process of getting her hot and making her want and need to be penetrated, and if everything goes according to plan her orgasm(s) can be a huge payoff for the male ego.

With two men the mental game is more conspiratorial, about recognizing and siezing an opportunity with another male to cast off social inhibitions and frankly and openly appreciate each others masculinity and sexual prowess in much the same way that we appreciate each other as athletes. We look for the perfect orgasm with another male in much the same way that we look for a touchdown or a sweet and beautiful play in sport. Good gay sex almost always involves elements of both camaradarie and competitiveness.

My final observation is to say that in my experience males who have lived with and had repeated sexual encounters with women are often very excellent partners in gay sex as well, probably because having sex exclusively with other men can make us sexually a bit lazy because it is just so easy, whereas the guys who have had significant hetero experience have had to develop a stronger sexual work ethic.

Many guys may not want to hear this but my personal opinion is that trying sexual experiences outside your comfort zone is probably the best way to up your sexual game. For straight guys you owe it to yourself to have a gay sexual encounter. You will almost certainly discover that it fulfills a deep physical and mental need that you may not fully realize you had. As males we are born hard wired to enjoy both cooperating and competing with one another in virtually every sphere of life. From this dynamic springs all of human culture and civilization. Sorry girls this is just the way the world works. And gay sex is the pure physical and behavioral distillation of these two inborn ways of interacting with other men.

For gay males if you are brave enough you should definitely pursue at least a few sexual encounters with females. If you can get past the mental issues and really focus on the woman and how she is reacting to your game you will probably be delighted to see how your body responds to her and you will learn that there is a lot more to your masculinity than you ever suspected.
 

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Having been with both, my answer is they are very different, it would be like comparing apples and oranges, without sounding to cliche. The only thing I would say, that might be better with Gay sex, is as Im sure most of you have heard before, is guys tend to understand what guys want more, and like other posters have said, the frequency and availability of sex in the gay world. Also, unless the straight guys we are talking about are the adventurous type and their women are into messing around with their butts;) Gay Sex has the advantage usually of hitting the prostate, which we all know is a major erogenous zone for men.
 

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The man 2 man sex is WAY easier to come by. This is an assumption on my part... But I'm willing to bet.
There are various genres of bi. Much like gay. Bi guys still eat pussy. But... Maybe not like anal. Only oral. Then there are the "give" or "receive" only oral and or anal. Anictodal evidence says most bi men love to suck cock.
 
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Assuming the level of attraction and hotness factor are the same towards the person we are to have sex with, I've always wondered if, as a whole, people of the same gender don't have a better sexual experience because they have a better understanding of how their partner's body functions and also because for them to even engage in a same sex encounter, they probably have had to work overcoming stigma, shame and whatnot and have less hangups when it comes to the things they allow themselves to do. A good example is, as mentioned above, men not limiting themselves to certain "no homo" activities because their masculinity does not depend on it, while women might be more likely to be sympathetic or attentive to their lover's needs and desires.

Reading the different opinions expressed here are thus of particular interest to me.
 

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Having been with both, my answer is they are very different, it would be like comparing apples and oranges, without sounding to cliche. The only thing I would say, that might be better with Gay sex, is as Im sure most of you have heard before, is guys tend to understand what guys want more, and like other posters have said, the frequency and availability of sex in the gay world. Also, unless the straight guys we are talking about are the adventurous type and their women are into messing around with their butts;) Gay Sex has the advantage usually of hitting the prostate, which we all know is a major erogenous zone for men.
Very good point about prostate stimulation as a significant locus of pleasure in gay sexual encounters that involve anal penetration, Of course women have their G spot on the wall of the vagina as well but for the male he only experiences pleasure from that vicariously.
 

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Very good point about prostate stimulation as a significant locus of pleasure in gay sexual encounters that involve anal penetration, Of course women have their G spot on the wall of the vagina as well but for the male he only experiences pleasure from that vicariously.
So would you say that while gay men may be missing out on vaginal sex, their straight counterparts are missing out of pleasure from not having their prostate stimulated? Would that not make one or the other better, just different?
 

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Bisexual here and like others have already said. There is no "better" necessarily. They are not really comparable in my eyes. With gay sex it's mostly very carnal and focus is mainly on the actual sex acts. (blowing, rimming, fucking). Passion is always preferred sure but it isn't as important (for a hookup)

Even my more intimate male encounters I've had still have an element of "roughness" to them? Idk lol guys just want to get to the meat and potatoes of things no pun intended. This doesn't describe all guys ofc but on average that's my experience.

Whereas with straight sex. Women really get off on foreplay and you pleasuring them first and making time feel wanted and admired by you. That will always have a girl going wild before you ever even enter her. And from there intimacy is very important, the girls I've been with don't really appreciate detached sex. Again from my anecdotal experience
 

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This really got me thinking because while I wondered about it hypothetically, (also bisexual here), I've actually found that the quality of the experience depended a lot less on the gender of the person but more on the attraction I felt for them, the type of sex we enjoyed, the connection we had (admittedly, them being bisexual made things a lot easier) and so yes, also just as importantly, how free they were. When I think back (fondly) about someone, I remember them and what about them turned me on, not their gender.

Come to think of it, I have to agree, they're not really comparable.
 

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I think there is also for many the emotional connection part of it - true for many men not just women. So are you asking solely about mechanics and physical or about connection and relationship? Don’t think it changes the answer of “depends on each person.” Some will value connected intimacy and sex that comes from it more than diverse positions, partners and experiences
 
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So would you say that while gay men may be missing out on vaginal sex, their straight counterparts are missing out of pleasure from not having their prostate stimulated? Would that not make one or the other better, just different?
I have known one guy who has basically only ever had sex with females but has an epic collection of dildos that he uses on himself, or has his female partners use on him, so it seems at least some primarily straight guys are seriously into anal and prostate stimulation!
 
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