I am am never attracted to men who wear women's clothing, those who cross dress. I want a man to be a man but a gentle man. I am so attracted to well manicured men who look smart. Not as in intelligence but in dress. Not into the macho type at all. I like men to be themselves however I am attracted to the gentle man. Not sissy types. Not overtly feminine. Not only sexually in tune guys but also those who are intone to themselves and know what they want, especially in sex. I find feminine guys can be far more sensual sexually.
I have had situations where despite the men adored my body, cock and backside sexually, I couldn't wait to get out of there. They orgasmed, they enjoyed it, I hated it. There was no softness, no love, no caring. I was the meat to be used. Even when I was fucking, they wanted me to go hard and fast doggy style, and whilst that action stirs up the sexual juices because of the act of thrusting, it was nothing more than that to me. They usually say "harder, harder faster faster" beating their cock like their was no tomorrow. They blow their load while I was there trying to get things to happening in my head for an all over orgasm that lasts well past the ejaculate.
The opposite happens when a man is more feminine and wants me to make love to them. We start with spooning, feeling our bodies in turn. Feeling the softness of a smooth backside gets me hard. We kiss and that keeps it hard if not harder and when I finally get to penetrate there's a playfulness about it. A gentleness. Lovingness about it. We make love for a while and then try different positions. Seeing the love and passion in our eyes, both of us seeing my cock slide inside him. Both us seeing the delight in each others faces as we thrust. There is no roughness, it's all gentle and slow, prolonged, like edging. We don't come straight away, we take turns in rimming, sucking. We slip in and out. We shower admirations to each other. We kiss, we hug. We can get kinky, try other places round the home, out in the bush.We prolong until neither of us can take it anymore. But it's all about gentleness. This could be over an hour. Depends on the person, the moment, the mood. If they want hard and fast sex. I'm not interested.
I adore it when guys treat my body like very fine crystal. They want to know all of my body. Top, bottom, font, back, sides.
That they know my penis like they know their own, they know how to make me want to orgasm but also know when to back off. they are gentle. When we kiss, it's a mergence of two people who gentle like to discover the movements and tastes of each other. Not ram their tongue down my throat as if to fish out my last meal or dominate my tongue. I do like a guy who wants to use their cock on me too, but totally fine if that is not for them. I love the smooth look and certainly better to reduce loose hairs choking me. I seek a guy who like everything about another guy from my face to my chest hair, from my backside to my balls, my cock to am buttonhole.
How to find what you are looking for? Well, that comes back to you know exactly what you seek and then advertising that in your over all sexual demeanour. When you are into sex with a guy, state your case, train them if they are open to it. Nobody cam read minds, it's up to you to educate what you do and do not like. There is not simply answer.
