Do gay men marry their fathers?

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  1. headbang8

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    A thread got me thinking the other day.

    It's been said that when straight men choose a partner, they marry their mothers. (And straight women eventually become their mothers, but that's another story.)

    So what do gay men do?

    I definitely married my father--the good bits of him, anyway. My other half is gregarious in company, but is actually quite shy and tries to avoid situations like that. A natural, quiet homebody, and a great reader. They even celebrate birthdays only two days apart.

    Who did youmarry?
     
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    You know, headbang8, I was wondering the very same thing (probably sparked by your comments in that same other topic, I think).

    I've had my share of relationships with women who have shared a lot of traits with my mother--to the point that I've purposely moved in other directions at times.

    Very interested to hear what my gay brothers have to say on this one. Almost makes me wish I weren't leaving town for a week!

    Great topic, hb8.
     
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    I could never cohabit with a Cuban man who scratches himself in public, thinks Charles Bronson deserves an Oscar, and falls asleep watching Jeopardy.
     
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    I've always looked for partners as different from my father as possible.
     
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    I don't think straight men marry their mothers either. The girls I'm attracted to are definitely not anything like my mom. (Even though I love my mom)
     
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    I could actually say the same thing...which is why the subject is so interesting to me.

    In spite of how much he read, my father was an agressive know-nothing. My boy is a cultured collector of art and antiquities. My partner has a lean swimmer's build, my father had a beefy labourer's body. My father was a rageaholic, and my man is warm, generous and kind.

    In fact, like Sorcerer, I made it a point to seek out partners who were as different as possible from the miserable old bastard (or his miserable old wife, for that matter). I mean, a bohunk Pittsburgh steelworker vs. a Japanese high-end jewellery salesman who once trained to be a Shinto priest; it would be hard to pick a similarity on the surface.

    That's why (to use Doc Rock's words) it creeps me out when I catch a glimpse of Dad from time to time--especially in an ironic sense of humour (which my father used in order to be cruel, but my partner uses to make light of troubles).

    So don't worry, Rock, we're not in the Bates Motel. But it still spooks me a bit.

    hb8

    PS. DMW, I think your father falling asleep in front of Jeopardy shows exquisite good taste.
     
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    my father was/is quick to anger, stubborn, emotionally remote,
    and has Santa's belly.

    My partner is none of these things, thanks.
    I also have chosen partners who are everything that my
    parents were not.
     
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    You might feel differently if one of the times he fell asleep was when your brother was a contestant.
     
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    You might feel differently if one of the times he fell asleep was when your brother was a contestant.
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    It still shows good taste, just not good manners.

    That he could be so blase about it shows what a smart bunch the Whopper clan must be!

    hb8
     
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    so bi-sexuals want to marry.....their aunts and uncles??

    their baby sitters?
     
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    With apologies to Harry von Tilser:

    I want a guy
    Just like the guy
    That married dear old Mom.
    :puke:
     
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    I agree :huh:
     
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    im like my father... in all aspects.. physical, and character...

    i wouldnt marry my dad... its just like marrying myself... yea, creepy...
     
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    I've heard that before, and I know you didn't exactly have one for me to vote on, but i voted bullshit anyway...
    Dude, when I get married to a guy, I'm gonna stay as far away from how my dad acts as possible because my dad's a pathological liar who was never there for me when I needed him the most...
     
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