sudas: I've been trying to understand true male homosexuality (not just guys who like gay sex). My understanding is that science has found two factors increasing the likelihood of being gay. One is that there may be a gene passed on the maternal side (in this case the mother's brother may also gay). The other is that a man who has older brothers may be gay, perhaps because of increased chemicals in the womb. These aren't necessarily cause and effect. As to my question, do gay men hate women? I know that some gay men seem to get along with women. But I've heard it said that a gay "secret" is that men have issues with their mother. In the past (and perhaps currently) some men will marry women, even though they say they "felt gay" since a teenager. Perhaps some will break up their marriage for better sex, just like straight men might do. It just seems exceptionally cruel for a man with a tendency towards being gay (such as the reasons above) to divorce his wife, who's his high school sweetheart, and the mother of his children, in order to pursue a gay lifestyle or relationship. He must hate her. Need this always be the case?