do girls dream to be gangbanged?

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  1. Principessa

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    Do girls dream to be gangbanged?
    I'm going to go out on a limb and say the only females who fantasize about being the victim of a gangbang are those who have never suffered a sexual assault or rape. :cool::rolleyes:

    IMO, It's a matter of logistics and power. When men fantasize about having sex with 2, 3, or 4 women they never stop to think about the fact they only have one dick and one mouth. :tongue: Most hetero men don't fantasize about being the recipient of the roughness and violence associated with a true gangbag.
     
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    Hey njqt466, you're right, but I'd still like to have you and a few more women on this site to gangbang me though...even though I have one dick and one mouth. In fact, you can bang me by yourself. :biggrin1:
     
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    I can tell you from women I know personally that is just not true.


     
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    I know of a few counter-examples so this is not true. Having sex with multiple partners whether you call it a gangbang ( most consider that rougher ) or group sex ( the more sensual version? ) can be erotic to both victims and non-victims. To be honest a lot of non-victims and victims like and hate the idea; I don't think there's any inherent reason why being of such a status should affect your fantasies.

    It's essentially like a heterosexual having a homosexual fantasy; should repulse them or something because it doesn't follow logically considering they are heterosexual but it still happens. We have little control over our fantasies and a lot of control over our playing them out. Thus why "fetishes" are existent. If we could just stop. . . Many would.

    A "gangbang" is not a "gangrape" nor is it intended to be a "gangrape". Also, men get raped and molested by women, and no, you're right, it's not comfortable; hasn't stopped me yet. To be honest it probably is about masculinity and power ( showing your genes are GREAT by having multiple partners ) but other than that it's a silly fantasy. Some men however do condone to being gangbanged by women, other men, or dream of being manhandled and seduced and whatnot by women / men.

    I just don't think there's a solid connection and coupling that with the way people react after molestation and rape ( hypo- to hyper- reactions instead of normal steady ones ) one could say that it could go either way in terms of sexual violence.
     
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    It's a misconception that women who are sexually abused end up being prudes. As a matter of fact, the opposite is true more often.
     
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    I was sexually abused and have never had the fantasy of being raped or gang banged. I suffered a lot of frigidness in my younger years from being embarassed of anything sexual or my own body. My mom was also sexually abused and was incredibly frigid and still is compared to me.

    posting photos and videos helped me see my own body how others see it instead of critiquing it from my own perspective. It was strangely therapeutic...so was porn to an extent because seeing other pussies made me less shy of my own. Now i have no shame in showing it to my husband, but i couldnt say that for the first 9 years of being married. I still prefer sex with the lights off.

    Back to the subject at hand, i think there is more going on psychologically with someone who fantasizes being raped by a slew of men.
     
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    there is always a lot going on psychologicaly when it comes to sex. Fantasizing about being taken by many men at once, is actually a common fantasy, at least that is what I hear don Opera once, or some shit... but I have always thought, male and female fantasies are probably very close, just switch the gender.

    I know someone in real life, that was brutally gang raped by three men, including using razor blades on her labia. She ended up becoming very freaky... she showed me pictures of her boyfriends back after the first time they fucked, his back looked like it had been whipped with a cat-o-nine tails from all the nail scratches. She loved being choked, tied, all that stuff, and she told me all these fantasies came after the rape.... of course she hated the rape, and that it happened. She also put on a lot of weight after it happened.
     
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    Yes, a lot of girls fantasise about being gangbanged. But in a woman's fantasy she stays in control - ie. the guys just do what she wants them to do, exactly the way she likes it, and when she's had enough.... Poufffff... they all disappear, because they were all imaginary anyway.

    Reality is very different. It is of course possible to have group sex in a swinging environment, but it only works (by that I mean is safe and enjoyable) when everyone is in full control of what's happening to them. This rarely matches gangbang fantasies which are much more akin to group rape, which in reality is something that no sane person wants anything to do with.
     
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    I totally agree, why have one man when you can have several. :tongue:
     
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    The funny thing about sex and sexual fantasy is - There is not one thing you can conjure up in your mind, that someone out there on this vast, vast planet won't find alluring and a turn on in someway. If I were to ask the question - Do men find women dressed as "Hello Kitty" wearing army boots and a diaper, well YES some one out there will read this and hear about it, and say "Yes, yes I do." So to ask the question about Gang-bangs will always beckon an inevitable "Yes," and a "no"

    Some Girls do imagine this - Yes. I will put money on it. There is no definite answer.

    But Good luck

    B:eek:
     
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    I agree with njqt466, I don't like the term 'gangbanged'. At the very least it suggests that the woman is an entirely passive receptacle for men to use. At the worst it conjures up images of gang rape. What's wrong with saying group sex?

    For the record I would love to be in a situation where I have two or three men at my disposal to pleasure me. But I'm probably not adventurous enough to ever do it!
     
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    I've met both types of women who enjoy rape fantasies. Most have not been raped, but a few I have met have. Generally though, their rape fantasies are a different scenario from the one they experienced.

    I imagine that it has to do with regaining control over a situation they had none in.
     
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    Gangbanged? Yeah I would love it. Getting DP'd or having a guy lick my clit as I am getting fucked.....heaven....
     
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    You don't call a gangbang group sex because they are two different things. Group sex is more a free for all orgy, whereas a gangbang is 1 woman to multiple men. Big difference when you think about it.
     
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    Multiple women worshipping me: Yes. Being the slut for multiple men: No.
     
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    i wish that was the fantasy of all women,
    multiple women worshipping and maybe having
    a hooded man, to use as they see fit.
     
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    Hmmm....

    Well my answer would have been 'hell yes'.
    But the judgemental posts by two of the most overtly sexual women on this board has, for some reason, made me too self consious to partake of converstation on this topic here.

    Strange isn't it, how a place like this which you would imagine inately encourages an open mind and the opportunity to tak about your deepest darkest secrets can also make you feel ashamed and dirty....


    hmmm....
     
  18. javyn

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    Don't worry about the judgmental twits, K8. If it's your thing, then more power to you. Whatever your preference is, it doesn't make you a bad person or wrong in any way.
     
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    What's interesting is that a lot of people here, females particularly, seem to remove the idea of their own power. If they are doing your bidding what makes you their slut? You're using them as much as they are you, except you're the one with the whip.

    I might be dense but I don't get it; if you're in charge how are they in charge too?
     
  20. Maia

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    I don't feel particularly powerful when my husband is thrusting his large, hard, beastly flesh into my small, soft, wet flesh while I am in very physically vulnerable positions. It doesn't *feel* powerful. I scream and gasp and hold on to something as tight as I can. He is 30cm (almost a foot) taller than me, with a powerful looking body. The act of sex with him has me feeling very submissive, and at some times helpless. I just don't see myself being the one holding the power. Even if he does as I say, by the time I orgasm I feel like his slave (and I orgasm very quickly:tongue:). That is just how the experience of sharing my body is with him, and as such I don't see having multiple men pushing their flesh into me as a statement of power.

    With women it can be totally opposite. With women, the attitude of dominance can be held without the physical realities breaking the spell.

    I could say a lot more about it because I love playing that fantasy with women, but I think I have adequately expressed how it doesn't work with men (for me) :biggrin1:
     
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