Do Girls Mind Talking about This?

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  1. DC_1985

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    Just had a question if most girls would mind talking about their past lovers with their boyfriend.
    I've been with my girlfriend for several years and am not the jealous type. We have a committed relationship with a lot of trust.
    One thing that is different with her than my past girlfriends is that she is completely honest. When she was in college she had a little wild spree where she hooked up with a few guys after breaking up with a serious boyfriend. For a long time she wouldn't tell me the stories, but when she finally did it turned me on beyond belief. Now, she gives me handjobs and blowjobs while telling me about her past flings if I ask about them.
    One guy she met while waiting tables and the next day she had sex with him four times, allowing him to come on her face. Another guy had a 12-inch penis and she admitted to hooking up with him just for that reason.
    Is it odd to be turned on by these things or that she had a little slutty streak?
     
  2. Chuck64

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    It sounds like a perfectly normal fantasy on your part and she trusts you to not get jealous, so it's all OK.
     
  3. D_Leinskill Laphammer

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    I don't think it's odd. I've been turned on by the same sorts of things--gf's telling me about past sexual encounters. Some girlfriends have asked me about them as well and it has turned them on. It just depends on the jealousy factor. If you're one of those people where what happened in the past doesn't matter to you, I think it's pretty easy to just enjoy the sexy war story. If you're turned on by your gf, it's arrousing to hear about her as a sexual being just as it would be arrousing to see someone else that turned you on doing sexual things; i.e. porno. Instead of watching the porn, you have the fantasy in your head of your girl being sexy and doing wild things and that gets you off.
     
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    I think we all have a little "slutty streak" if we're honest about it. But to answer the question, no, I don't mind talking about my past. My husband knew my sexual history before we ever married, and I knew his. Neither of us expected to marry a saint.... :tongue:
     
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    I'm not that sure about how my bf feels about it; he knows about most of my past. I hate hearing about his past lovers as I get mental images and I hate thinking of him with other women (I know it's in the past but mental images, and thinking of being in the same room as him and his previous gfs... *shudder* I try not to think about the things he got up to on his bed previously).
    Oh, I'm very possesive. So is he, so... I'll guess I'll have to ask, lol :tongue:
     
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    I am only jealous if I am emotionally in very deep...so I don't want to hear about her past. Actually...you want to know just for knowing's sake, but at the same time I don't want to know. Catch 22.

    I need to work on this, there is no doubt, but I just get jealous and I hate it. Not REAL jealous but enough to make me slightly uncomfortable.

    Then again, if she really knew my past, she might not like what she hears either LOL.

    In the end, if two people love each other very much and are happily commited to one another, it really shouldnt be an issue.

    OmahaBeef
     
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    Yah, I think it depends on the couple.

    I know quite a few guys, who want to hear their gf's past relationships. However, once they find out.. they get insecure or pissed... So, it depends how you feel about it. After reading your thing... I realize it turns you on.. So enjoy the stories and the orgasms dude!!:biggrin1:
     
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    On one level my girlfriend doesn't. We didn't know each other in high school, we just started dating last year.
    I do know most of her history, but I also know that she was in a very abusive relationship that she doesn't want to talk about for te most part. I can understand it. I know who it was, I've met him and we had a bit of an altercation, but I kept my cool.

    Other than that we talk about it. I met her first boyfriend (who she dated from the 9th grade to the 12th grade) and he's a pretty awesome guy if I do say so myself.
     
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    Ditto....I think I feel the same.
     
  10. ClaireTalon

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    After all, it's a lot more fun to discuss those matters with your girl friends over some drinks, isn't it? I try to avoid comparing lover A to lover B, but eventually I don't get around it. However, what this comparison returns as a result, will remain in my head. I've found out that men can be extremely sensitive to it, and I don't want bruised ego's.
     
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    I'm not bothered about what my lady has done before, and wouldn't find it a turn on for her to talk about it, but I'm certainly glad she's HAD the experiences. She's got talents that doubtlessly must have benefitted from previous "practice" of which I'm now the lucky recipient.

    As for her, I know that if I were to talk to her in any detail, it would hurt her feelings having done so innocently with non sexual details before.

    I can see how, for some people, it might be a turn on, after all most of us on here get a kick from erotica of some sort, but describing past experiences wouldn't work for us
     
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    I agree, only I'd change "men" to "women" and "extremely sensitive to" to "crazy about."
     
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    I think it all depends. I'm big on honesty and straight-forwardness but only to a point. I agree with Claire that eventually I'm always going to be comparing a man to other guys I've been with. It's inevitable, but I'd say once I've been with a guy a couple times I definitely have an idea in my head of where he stands in terms of size, performance, stamina, etc. It's just natural for me to compare, but I wouldn't necessarily be open with a man about that. I mean, I'd be honest and speak in generalities about who I'd slept with in the past, and if the comparison favored the present guy I'd tell him. But I don't think I'd say "wow, that other guy I had last year was a total stud. He made me cum till I could barely breathe!" Like I said honesty is good but to a point. Indeed, as Claire noted, it's better to save the brutal honesty for the girlfriends over some drinks.
     
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    This is not information I would volunteer, but I would answer if asked. I would explain first to the man asking that any sign of childishness will lead to a smaller presence in my life. It's fun though. i like hearing about other women too. Especially if their crazier than I am.
     
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    I have one old, oops, I should say former girl friend that I run into from time to time and our conversation always gets around to her sex life. She is three times divorced and is back out playing the field again and has a very active sex life. She seems to enjoy telling about the good ,bad and the ugly but especially the big. She knows I have a bit of a fancination with large dicks, and makes mention of nearlly every guys dick size sooner or later.
    Now that is with aformer girl friend, talking about exlovers with wife
    now that is different story
     
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    This is ONLY my take on it but...
    I cannot fathom the interest in
    your partners sex life before
    you met.

    I'm not into being a voyeur and
    intimate details of past experiences
    places you inside that event if only
    in your own mind.

    Yes I realize that for many people
    that IS exactly the thrill for them
    but I prefer to not experience sex
    vicariously.

    I know what we can create between
    our own two bodies is much more
    exciting than anything he's experienced
    in the past.
     
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    Are you sure?
    I think not or you wont be here
     
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    i think it strange behaviour but not out of this world. most girls are so strenge they tell you about their past flings yet they dont want to hear about yours. women get more jealous you see, its in thier blood, however their sexual experiences with other men can push you harder to be more creative sexually. dont forget that we only human and we learn new things every day every minute. its in our nature.
     
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    They say they want to know and then their egos get in the way. They can't handle what you tell them.
     
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