Do girls need sex more than guys?

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    Everyone goes on about how horny guys are and how much we need sex, but who really needs sex more once you're in a relationship?

    While I would agree that guys are most likely hornier than girls, guys are also more prone to using 'visual aids' and 'giving themself a hand.' My argument is that both guys and girls need relief, and that guys are alot more likely to relieve themselves than girls.

    From my experience, girls need a guy if they're to get off, while guys can more readily do it themselves. This leads the girl to eventually want sex more than the guys. I liken it to a sexually repressed librarian, once they get some, they can't get enough of it.

    I don't have a low sexdrive, but I don't really want to have sex twice a day after I'm more than 2 months into a relationship, especially if it takes 30-45mins from start to finish each session.....if it were two 5mins sessions a day then it'll be a different story ;)

    So what do you think? Who needs it more, and why do they need it more?
     
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    Only 35 minutes a session. :eek:

    I am a female and I would love sex at least twice a day. Yes quickies are fun sometimes but my man and I usually go for a good 30 minutes just for a quicky. This is a good set up for us because we both have huge sex drives. I have been known to masterbate on top of this and i know he does too.

    When i was with my ex (over 6 years) he had a low sex drive and even just getting sex once a a week involved lots of begging.

    I think a sex drive comes down to an individual not a gender.
     
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    Yes, I'd say it's subjective based on individuals, not gender. A lot of people also go through hypersexual periods and lulls, so it's not any one thing constantly from 14 to 94 for any one person. There's no hard and fast rule here is all I am saying.
     
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    My argument is more based on the fact that girls need a guy to get off more than a guy needs a girl to get off. Guys are a lot more likely to watch porn and use their hands than girls. So all things being equal, a girl needs sex a lot more than a guy because it's their primary way of getting off.

    From my experience, girls have a lower overall sexdrive, but need sex a lot mire. My Exs have wanted it twice a day for 30mins+ while I'm happy to settle for once a day and helping myself out....or a BJ of course :)
    Spending 1-2hrs everyday just seems Like a really ling time if I can get a similar result in 10mins. While sex is obviously better, it takes a lot more time and effort
     
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    are you deliberately trolling to offend here, or are you really that mind bogglingly misinformed?
     
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    I am a female and I get my self off all the time. I myself have a high sex drive and would like to engage in sexual contact at least three times a day if I could find someone to keep up, However I am not afaird to sit and watch porn and pull out the toys to get off a couple times a day. My fingers work just as well as a guys if not better. So it is based on each person and what they prefer by far, I love sex and everything that it has to offer but if no partner then my hands and toys work just as well to satsify me....

    The fact of needing a Cock to get off is more for interaction and closeness and sensual feelin to have with a guy, for me its not about getting off.

    My guy and I have amazing mind blowing sex, Leaves me satisfied and even light headed, but just cause it is that awesome doesnt mean I dont get myself off. I love the feel and touch of myself.
     
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    Everyone masturbates. Our society just tells girls to act like they don't for some odd reason. My health teacher taught us that when guys are having sex they are less likely to masturbate, meanwhile when girls are having sex they are more likely to masturbate.
     
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    I think god's cruel jape to humanity is how we age. In my experience, men tend to be horniest at 18 and slow down as we age. Women seem to start getting to be sexually curious about that same age and increase exponentially from there.

    Thankfully, my sex drive as I age is more similar to how women age. I just want it more and more to where now it feels more like a need.

    My wife's a bit younger than me, and true to my experience, her sex drive just gets higher and higher every year. The thing is, we're about the same sex drive right now.

    Growing old with her is going to be a lot of fun is all I can say.
     
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    Masturbating? I can get off just as easily as a guy, probably even faster too. Maybe that's just me, but needing sex is not a matter of time management - it's a matter of closeness and intimacy and raw fun. It's not just about getting off.

    And imo, there is little similar about masturbating and having sex. Again, just getting off isn't always the point.

    Everyone has differing levels of "wanting it more". I have a higher sex drive than many men and women; there are men and women with higher sex drives than mine.
     
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    I just wanna be used like a peice of meat:)
     
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    Wow. First, you're making some big overgeneralizations here. I'm a male who would love to be in a stiuation where I could have long sex sessions several times a day, and not just on the weekends--and I'm way past 18. My favorite relationships, sexually speaking, always involved sex about 3 times a day when it was possible. Then again, life does get in the way sometimes. I do enjoy the pleasures which I can do for myself, but like your "repressed librarians," it's rare that I feel so satiated that I don't want just a little more, even right after a round.

    Sexual appetites vary--a lot--for both men and women.
     
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    Personally speaking, I'm quite the opposite. I'm 100% sure to get off alone and less likely to get off with a guy. I might think differently than some women, because to me the point of sex is to have an orgasm.

    Our sex drives are different, while one person male or female, may have a heightened sex drive, another may not.
     
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    woman dont need us to get off bigtime they have toys..
     
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    It's all about social conditioning folks... Women are scorned for sexually acting out, it's a means of control by men AND women as well. I think women are just as horny and sexually lusting, but it's highly frowned upon and can lead to them being labeled negatively.

    I have a large cock and I like to fuck DEEP, hard, fast etc... It's just not physically practical all the time with the women I've dated. All that friction makes them sore, so they need a break, and so do I sometimes. But if I had my way, I'd have sex prob 2x/every other day, sometimes daily. I've yet to find a girl that is tight enough for me to feel really good, and can take it deep more so than not w/o getting sore/overwhelmed... It's a pain in the ass sometimes, but I'd NEVER downgrade my package lol... I'll just have to keep fucking and searching till I find someone that's compatible. Someone that can take it deep, likes it that way, w/o being too loose. :frown1:
     
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