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When I was in my 20s, almost all the single girls I knew kept hooking up with, and falling for, these types: guys with no filter whose relentless and confrontational truth-telling made them unfit for polite society; guys with a consuming passion for non-lucrative endeavors, that made their lives financially unstable; guys with a certain look that would invite disapproving glares in an Applebee's. Bad boys might fall in love with you, but they tended not to think highly of monogamy or settling down. On the plus side, these guys were usually absurdly good-looking and had mythic sexual skills.
I'm in my 40s now, and most of my lifelong female friends either turned their bad boy into a respectable member of society or, more commonly, chose a decent if less exciting dude who could help pay bills and didn't need constant rescuing from himself. I just assumed this was the natural order of things.
But now I have a number of younger female friends and acquaintances, and none of them are dating or even hooking up with bad boys. I work at a university, and I don't really even see bad boys anymore. It's more common to see a smart, hot young girl with a fat nerd in a Star Wars shirt than it is to see a smart, hot young girl with an edgy dude in a leather trenchcoat who looks like he might start trouble.
Did something happen?
I'm in my 40s now, and most of my lifelong female friends either turned their bad boy into a respectable member of society or, more commonly, chose a decent if less exciting dude who could help pay bills and didn't need constant rescuing from himself. I just assumed this was the natural order of things.
But now I have a number of younger female friends and acquaintances, and none of them are dating or even hooking up with bad boys. I work at a university, and I don't really even see bad boys anymore. It's more common to see a smart, hot young girl with a fat nerd in a Star Wars shirt than it is to see a smart, hot young girl with an edgy dude in a leather trenchcoat who looks like he might start trouble.
Did something happen?