Do Guys Like Being Gawked?

[jonb]

Originally posted by madame_zora@May 20 2004, 10:40 PM
No worries here, guys. If I don't find a guy's face attractive, I won't even check out his crotch! FWIW, I hate men talking to my breasts too. I just DO notice a guy's bulge, if it's there, and IF I think he's hot in the first place.

Good point. At least our dicks actually are involved in the sex act itself.

Whenever a man talks to your breasts, just tell him "Freud would say your fascination with my breasts is a sign of a latent Oedipal conflict." (Yeah, I know psychoanalysis is bunk, but it's the easiest way to fuck with a man's mind.)

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

My hairdresser, who actually turned out to be a really cool chick, was the latest person I can remember openly checking out my crotch. It wasn't enough that she took a look at it; she really made this huge spectacle, and not that I'm embarrassed easily, but I really could feel myself blushing and I had to walk outside.

Don't get me wrong. I like positive feedback on what I've got, above and below the waist, but there's definitely some kind of decorum to it. If you're screaming, "Oh my gaaaaaaawd, check out his penis!" why, I wouldn't know what the fuck to do. It's different in a bedroom situation -- one on one, you and me, just a bunch of nakedness getting better acquainted. Oh yeah, talk about it all you want, mama. But seriously, there's just something about being treated like a piece of meat that's... well... a little too much.

 

[Atlrabbit]

I was at a pool party with some friends and with a group of people I didn't know. When you come out of the pool sometimes the suit shows all when it clings to the skin. I noticed a groups of "ladies" making hand jesters referring to the size of my cock. The more they drank the louder they got as I got out of the pool. I ignored it for a while, finally I had enough of there comments - more out of embarassment for my friends then me. As I got out of the pool I made an "adjustment" in my suit, walked over the the ladies table, smiled and politely told them "thank you for the complements." I think making them aware I could here their comments turned the embarrassment to them. Each time I would get out of the pool I would face their table and bow. That ended the comments for the evening!

 

[jonb]

That's up there with the way you're treated on IM, enit Dee?

My personal method is to wait a few minutes and then say "No I will not sleep with you for money!"

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Well, it's better than my evil taunt of "come back when you've big enough to take it."

Well it would be if I was vocal.

 

[SpeedoGuy]

Yah, I like being gawked. I also enjoy the sly grins and occasional under-the-breath comments bolder women sometimes mutter when they get a view that satisfies them. Gawking doesn't happen often so I don't get tired of it.

I was gawked just a few days ago at a pool I normally don't train at very often. For some reason I was particularly well fluffed up (but flaccid) in my speedo when I entered the pool area to turn some laps. As I stood there adjusting my goggles and swim cap I noticed my lane partner, a woman of about 35, eyeing my package. I gave her a good view before settling into the water. To my surprise, she grinned at me rather than shying away like most women do when I catch them eyeing me. I liked that too.

I too have been the object of some mild obsession by a couple of former gfs. I can think of one who does a lot of staring at my crotch when we occasionally meet. That has been a bit embarrasing at times.

SG

 

[madame_zora]

Speedo guy, glad to hear someone say they like the attention! I know I can never pass up a chance to sneak a peek at a nice package.....gotta love it!

 

[Bradleem]

I am one of those that really do not show a bulge most of the time. When I am at work it becomes annoying when I catch them. I am also surprised since I have noticed myself in the mirror and I am not bulging that day. It is usually the older married women that are so blatant about it. It is especially annoying when I am trying to have a business conversation with her and her eyes drop to my crotch every few seconds. It is so obvious that I am surprised that she doesnt get embarrassed.

Most of the time tho I do not mind if the circumstances are okay. I am one that does not mix business with pleasure.

Brad

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Good philosophy Bradleem.

But only the married women stare? D'oh!

 

[prepstudinsc]

I don't like being gawked at just because of my dick. It's a small part of who I am--well, bad choice, of words. I mean, I am more than just a penis attached to legs. I have a brain. I have a personality. I have other talents. The penis is just the icing on the cake. It's very superficial when that is all someone is interested in.
What makes it difficult is when a person ia good looking and is also hung because the gawkers become very interested only in the superficial qualities and not in the qualities that matter. Outer beauty fades, the penis might cease to function, but it's what is on the inside that truly matters.

 

[naughty]

Prepstud,

I dont think you will have any problem convincing anyone about your intelligence and you are fully capable of weeding out the pervs and gawkers. IF all else fails you can always enhance your running skills. No seriously, you do make a good point that applies to men and women alike. It is important to develop the inner beauty that will last much longer than the physical which fades all too quickly.

Naughty

 

[prepstudinsc]

Originally posted by naughty@Jun 1 2004, 02:27 PM
It is important to develop the inner beauty that will last much longer than the physical which fades all too quickly.

The problem is that the people who don't gawk understand this.....it's the pervs and the superficial types who don't. They focus everything on the outer, and while outer beauty is nice, those attributes--looks, certain features, etc., shouldn't be the only reason that people are interested in someone.

 

[naughty]

Prepstud,

Running along these same lines, check out what I said in the "hiding it" thread.


Naughty

 

[madame_zora]

yes, naughty, very nice point made there! Inner beauty is just what it says, tho- INSIDE! No one is going to notice you for your mind until they get past the physical. Nomatter how pure we try to be, looks are what attract us first, whether it be a nice smile, hair color/style, pretty eyes.......or big boobs or a nice package. We are delusional if we think these things are not going to be noticed. Very few ppl are going to take the time to get to know the person inside if there is no attraction at all to the exterior, IMHO.

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

And talking about "nice packages" Zora...*bites tongue*

*Ahem!*

Yeah, this seems to be overlapping with the "hiding it thread".

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It's a side effect of being visual creatures, Prep, I suppose, sometimes I'm guilty of the "looks over personality" thing, but I really hate women who glam up too much, for me, I'd take a 'plainer' woman who's smart, over the sterotypical "blond bimbo", (no offence to the blonds who are pretty damned smart, of course&#33 It depends on if you're into cheap lust, or something deeper I suppose. I count friendship as 'somthing deeper for a start.

 

[prepstudinsc]

Originally posted by ORCABOMBER@Jun 2 2004, 03:49 AM
And talking about "nice packages" Zora...*bites tongue*

*Ahem!*

Yeah, this seems to be overlapping with the "hiding it thread".

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It's a side effect of being visual creatures, Prep, I suppose, sometimes I'm guilty of the "looks over personality" thing, but I really hate women who glam up too much, for me, I'd take a 'plainer' woman who's smart, over the sterotypical "blond bimbo", (no offence to the blonds who are pretty damned smart, of course&#33 It depends on if you're into cheap lust, or something deeper I suppose. I count friendship as 'somthing deeper for a start.

Orca, you totally understand what I'm getting at. The Brittney Spears type or Anna Nicole Smith type, etc., (insert name of a number of other similar females who slut it up for attention) are a turn off. I don't find that purposely "sexing it up" for attention attracts me, it makes me look the other direction because that person deep down doesn't want my primary interest in her mind/personality, but in her body. That is all fine, but I want that to be a secondary issue. When I talk to someone, look me in the eyes, don't stare me up and down. I know that I'm handsome and that I'm hung. So be it. Get over it. I'm an adult now and I don't use my physical attributes as bargaining powers anymore. Using physical features as attractions is immature and when I see adults flauting their physical characteristics, I think what turns me off is that it is an immature act. I don't mean to say that we all need to go around dressing in flour sacks, but we don't need to go around looking like street whores, either. There is a nice point of modesty that leaves a little bit to the imagination. What's wrong with a woman who has a blouse that just shows just a tiny bit of cleavage not her whole boobs and a skirt or a dress that's not so short it proves that she's not a natural blonde when she bends over to pick up her pocket book? What's wrong with a little modesty once in a while? Everything in life has to have a little balance and it seems like lately the peduluum has swung too far into the "ho" mode.

 

[B_JohnTheHorse]

I don't mind being gawked and I have also been known to show of deliberately from time to time. I have been to nude beaches before, as well as shown quite a bit at my gym.

 

[prepstudinsc]

Originally posted by JohnTheHorse@Jun 2 2004, 12:16 PM
I don't mind being gawked and I have also been known to show of deliberately from time to time. I have been to nude beaches before, as well as shown quite a bit at my gym.

I know this sounds so two faced of me, but it's the way a guys brain works....
I've been known in the past (not recently at all) to be one of the ones who would walk around the locker room and to the shower with the towel slung over my shoulder, knowing it would attract stares. I guess it was just a game, knowing that I could get the girls, also just seeing if the guys would stare as they saw my junk flopping around, too. I have gotten compliments on it, questions about how big it got, etc., but along with the good, comes the bad--the trolls who follow you into the shower or the steam room. Usually at that point, I would hastily dry off, get dressed, and jet out of there. What I always found to be funny, though, was that the ones who seemed to look the most or say things, were other straight guys. One of my gay friends says that a wedding band is a dick radar in a locker room--he says that when the clothes come off, if there is a wedding band on a man's finger, that guy's eyes will wander the most and do the most comparing of equipment. I found that dudes who would say things to me or ask questions about my stuff generally had on wedding rings. I even had a couple of married guys make propositions to me about wanting to go somewhere and jack off together.
It's not like I have never done that before with friends, but I'm not going to pick up a dude at the gym--a stranger--and do it, especially with someone who is married!

 

[madame_zora]

Aww, Orca, you make me blush! Having worked in and around the world of strippers, I can appreciate many kinds of beauty. Sometimes there is nothing more pure than a 35 year old used-up-whore looking girl whose eyes seem to know and tell all. On the other hand, a more modest kind of girl can be very sensual. As for men, many are unaware of their looks at all, which is refreshing, but the show-off guy who struts his stuff is my best friend! So many ppl, so much diversity, I love it all. I personally dress to suit my moods, which run the gamut from class to trash, but I'm the same old bastard every day.

 

[13788]

dcovec:

Originally posted by prepstudinsc@Jun 1 2004, 03:30 PM
I am more than just a penis attached to legs. I have a brain. I have a personality. I have other talents. The penis is just the icing on the cake.

I don't know- I like the idea of being a dick with legs. I was in the video store 'bout an hour ago, freeballing in khaki shorts when I walked up the long center aisle toward the checkout counter. This womans jaw just dropped and then she had the sweetest smile. She could not/would not take her eyes of my crotch. I guess the package was swinging more than I thought. Now if the cute skinhead behind the counter with all the tattoos would just have the same reaction...

Dave