Do I have a right to be upset over this?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_BarryBunwarmer, Dec 7, 2008.

  1. D_BarryBunwarmer

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    Ok, I posted about this guy before. A little backstory, I met this guy online. He's old, ugly, and fat. He offered to take me on a first class cruise the first time I talked to him and, sadly, I almost took him up on his offer and whored myself. But, I chose not to. Later, he admitted to me that he offers guys expensive things to get them to go out with him.

    I took pitty on him and told him I would be JUST HIS FRIEND which he agreed to. This guy says he's rich. He says he owns three restaurants and a resort and he goes to expensive rich people parties, he flies to Denver just for the heck of it, he rents limos, ect. Everything is first class for him.

    He told me he's always wanted an iPod but he doesn't know how to set one up. So I tell him I will go shopping for one with him and install it for him. I was supposed to do this tomorrow. This was planned a week in advance. He told me he couldn't wait to get his iPod.

    This would also be the second time for me seeing him in person. The first time was a date that ended with a terrible kiss. This was supposed to be two friends hanging out.

    I just got done talking to him on Yahoo Messenger a few min ago. He springs on me "Would it be ok if we got the iPod next week and you just come over and hang out? I can't afford it this week."

    umm...if he had said "Just come over and hang out" it might not have seemed so suspicious. But when he added that he couldn't afford it this week, the guy that drives around in limos, a red flag went up. I agreed to go to his place this one time. He's already coming up with excuses for me to return.

    I could be wrong about that. But it does make me suspicious.

    But THIS is the worst part.

    After we agreed to be JUST FRIENDS a week or so ago, I went out with another guy who I had a great time with and I plan on seeing him more in the future. He's my age, cute, smart, funny, we have a ton of things in common.

    So as a FRIEND, I told the older guy about him. And I made the mistake of telling him too much about him and the older guy was able to find his Gay.com profile. And this older guy admits to me that he is jealous of this new guy I'm seeing.

    Tonight, after he tells me he "can't afford the ipod", he tells me he contacted the guy I'm dating.

    I say "how and why?" he says "on Gay.com" and I'm like "ok I'm a little uneasy with this" he says "Oh it was an accident. I private messaged him by mistake" I'm like "How do you private message someone by mistake?" and he says "Oh, my friend just died. I was upset and did it by mistake"

    So I say "it's pretty much impossible to private message someone by mistake and it just HAPPENED to be the guy I'm seeing, which you told me you were jealous of"

    and he says "I'm not jealous of him at all. I was just tired when I said that"

    So I'm like "what the fuck am I supposed to believe?"

    I don't believe he has a friend that died. I think he just said that to make me go "aww I'm sorry. Don't worry, I'll come over tomorrow and you can cry on my shoulder."

    I don't believe he contacted my friend "by accident." How the FUCK do you do that???

    I think this guy is manipulative and a liar. He manipulated me once by offering me a cruise and money just to go out with him. And now he's manipulating me by coming up with excuses for me to go see him and he's going behind my back and talking to a guy I like.

    I am PISSED OFF!!! And if he thinks we're hanging out tomorrow he can fucking forget it.

    Here's part of our chat:
    (an one more thing, first he LIES and says my friend David privated him but then I asked and he admits that HE'S the one who contacted David FIRST)

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I have plans a week from sunday

    Tony Christopher
    oh ya what ya doing? anything fun?

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    going to a movie

    Tony Christopher
    with david

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    yep

    Tony Christopher
    that excite you?

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    yep

    Tony Christopher
    you talk to him today?

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    yes

    Tony Christopher
    he mention i talked to him

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    no

    Tony Christopher
    ya i di
    d

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    why?

    Tony Christopher
    he pvted me when i was on gay.com.
    and was just simple chit chat

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    when did you talk to him?

    Tony Christopher
    a few days ago

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    he privated you or you privated him?

    Tony Christopher
    well i pvted him on accident was tlkin t my one friend then i disconnected with him. then he pvted me back
    was really quick
    hes nice guy
    yo know what. maybe ya dont wnat to cme to eau claire tomorrow. if ya not in the mood its ok really patrick
    i can still be your friend
    maybe thats what you want

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    how do you private someone on accident?

    Tony Christopher
    i hit the wrng button abve was privating my friend mono
    he is my friend that died yesturday actully
    i foulnd out today
    he aws in ca r crash
    he is a drag queen

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    i'm a little uneasy about this

    Tony Christopher
    about what?

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    you contacting him. I don't believe it was an accident. That's not possible. If you contacted him, it was on purpose

    Tony Christopher
    honestly was an accidnet for real
    i hit the wrong screen
    honestly
    i wouldnt lie to you

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    and it just happened the be the guy that you're jealous of

    Tony Christopher
    honestly i am not jelous at all
    dont say that patrick
    i am not

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    you admitted you were

    Tony Christopher
    at all
    listen i was over tired.

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I'll be honest with you and say I'm having a real hard time with this

    Tony Christopher
    what are yo uhaving a hard time with?
    i dont understand i didnt do anything

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    you contacting him. Makes you seem like a jealous boyfriend going behind my back

    Tony Christopher
    you know if i was jelous i wouldnt have told you at all
    i was being honest
    i t was an accident
    he was right below mono

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    you did tell me you were jealous. Now you're saying you were just tired. What am I supposed to believe?
    and then you try to cover it with a story about a dead friend

    Tony Christopher
    um no i did have freind die today i found out

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I mean, I have been coned before by people

    Tony Christopher
    his name is kitana
    he is from wausua
    he goest to stout
    you ther
    e

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I'm kinda angry right now

    Tony Christopher
    i am telling you the truth
    honestly patrick

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    not kinda. I am angry

    Tony Christopher
    id idnt do anything

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I'm sorry. I don't believe you

    Tony Christopher
    i promise you
    it the truth
    i amnot aliar
    i have sat on here for weeks wanting to get to know you
    i am not those people
    go on gay.com
    find out bout kitana
    you hear it
    and if you ask your friend. ask him it was so harmless
    and not intentional

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I don't care if all you said was "hi"

    Tony Christopher
    we didnt even talk about anything
    ya know patirck i just wanted to bea godo friend to you

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    first of all, contacting a friend of mine who you are jealous of, is not cool. And then making up a story about it being an accident is even more uncool

    Tony Christopher
    my firen dwas in accident
    friend was
    in an accident
    i found out today
    he died
    find it out
    i am telling the truth
    i swear to you patrick

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I put a lot of truth in you and I'm feeling a little betrayed
    trust*

    Tony Christopher
    i didn do anything
    come on
    i didn nothing

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    ok I'm going to have to think about this

    Tony Christopher
    wrng
    I swear to you
    i didnt do anything at all
    and my friend did die

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    you keep saying that

    Tony Christopher
    his name is kitana

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    to me, it was wrong

    Tony Christopher
    not a lite
    lie
    i swear to you
    it was nothing like that.
    and i dont knwo what to say or do i am not most people
    i came to see you i have talked to you i have listen to you
    i meant it all

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I'm sorry. I don't believe you accidentally contacted somebody and it just turned out to be my friend who YOU SAID you were jealous of which you now take back
    that makes me really angry

    Tony Christopher
    well then you ask him someitme what we talked bout. and find out bout my friend too ask around. .
    i woudl never ever hurt you
    ever
    ever

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I'm not your boyfriend and you had no right checking into the other guys I choose to see

    Tony Christopher
    i think your an amazing guy

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    It doesn't matter what you talked about. You had no right

    Tony Christopher
    and i nver said you where my bf. at all
    ever
    ya knwo i am not going to say something negative. to you at all. i am telling the truth but only you can decide that.

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    If I had known you would be digging into the guys I go out with, I never would have told you about him

    Tony Christopher
    if you want to contact me you let me know
    i never did
    never ever did
    stop doign that tom me
    i never ever ever did
    why would i say something
    if thats what i thought
    i wouldnt of
    at all

    sonic_da_hedgehog
    I have a lot of thinking to do about our friendship. I need some time alone
     
  2. marleyisalegend

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    Sounds like an open and shut case, I assume you won't contact him anymore.
     
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    You need to run away from this guy as fast as you can in the opposite direction--before he kidnaps you and locks you in a cage in his basement.
     
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    That guy sounds like a phoney...
     
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    How do you send something to some by accident. Stay away from him. Don't contact him anymore & be careful of him.
     
  6. Principessa

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    You are playing with fire. Just stop, talking to him. break off all contact or risk ending up like that guy in the Boy George story. You would be Audun Carlsen, the young and stupid boy he meets online. :rolleyes: I can't decide if you are a wannabe goldigger, a drama queen, or just an idiot. Nothing about this guy or these stories sounds like a good thing. Why you persist in contacting him is a mystery. :mad::confused:

    To answer your question, no you do not have a right to be upset because you encouraged his crazy ass.
     
  7. D_N Flay Table

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    Danger will robinson danger!!!

    he is going to cut off your face and wear it like a mask!!!

    RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    hopefully he's not black:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
     
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    I just e-mailed him and asked him to not contact me anymore. I was foolish enough to think that we could be friends and I was foolish enough to tell him too much about me.

    Another thing that I just realized is that he has been telling me he knows nothing about computers. He knew nothing about ipods, he says he doesn't even know what Myspace or YouTube are. He says his coworkers tell him about Myspace and that he should get one but he says he wouldn't even know what to do with it.

    So, like an idiot, I tell him I will come over to his place and set it up for him and how him how it works.

    TONIGHT, I find out he has a Gay.com profile and he is private messaging people.

    WHAT...THE..FUCK!?!?!? How can a guy who doesn't even know what Myspace is, have a Gay.com profile????
     
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    I am NOT a golddigger. The offer of a curise was tempting but I decided against it and told him we'd be JUST FRIENDS. He offered to take me out to lunch and he'd pay tomorrow but I said NO and that anything I get is stuff I pay for MYSELF. I told him I don't want his money and any relationship we have would be on a FRIEND LEVEL ONLY.

    I probably am an idiot for believing I could do that with this guy.
     
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    I have a right to be upset after reading all that crap!

    Grow up u little shit & stop hanging around with "old, fat & ugly" men for what they can give you. Sounds like u deserve each other.
     
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    Why would it matter if he was black? My advice would still be the same. The guy he has been chatting up is a loser, a crazy, lying loser.
     
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    I really hope that he wasn't black!
     
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    Oops you beat me to it. Ignore my last post.
     
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    lmfao


    DRAAAAAMA!!!!

    The mistake you're making is by entertaining him. DON'T.
     
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    Hanging with him for what he can give me? I wanted NOTHING from him!!! Can you read???
     
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    Don't worry, he's blocked.

    I used to be really paranoid about people on the internet because of things like this. And then I open up to someone and think I could have a friend and then this happens.

    And I say again, I was NOT AFTER HIS MONEY!!! I didn't take ONE CENT from him and didn't WANT one cent from him!!!
     
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    I need me a big ole tub of popcorn, this is better than Days of our Lives.
     
  19. D_skeaflea

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    I've been through something similar, with me not wanting to cause trouble and trying to be just friends.

    If you want, we could gossip about it via PM. lol It's a long story. . .longer than yours (no. . .that didn't sound dirty).
     
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    It was a JOKE nj....you remember those right?:redface: Can you PLEASE take your foot off the ethnic-sensitivity brake for once? - seriously??:smile:
     
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