Can a man who sees himself as totally bisexual commit to a monogamous long time relationship with a gay man? I have been dating a bisexual man for 6 months in what I thought was a fulfilling loving sexual monogamous relationship. I thought this time it was the sure thing and he has said the same thing. He recently told me he is torn between me and his ex girl friend and I have reason to believe he may be sleeping with both of us. I have told him to choose who he wants to be with but he says it isnt that easy for him as he has feelings for both of us and that I dont understand what it is like to be bisexual? So I ask... have you as a gay man been in this situation? Do I have a hope in hell that someday he might decide? Do gay/bi relationships work?