Do men generally tell the truth about a girl's sex 'talent'?

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all i have to say is... u tell a girl she is anything BUT perfect in anyway in the sack, especially at a younger age, u will be in the dog house.... every guy knows this. that's why every woman thinks she is amazing at giving head and fucking

I dunno, I don't think I've ever embellished about this topic. Perhaps I'm fortunate that past girlfriends never asked me to rate their performance (so I was never put on the spot about it), but conversely, when I've said that someone is good in bed, it's because I meant it.

My fiancee is frickin amazing. I tell her so for purely selfish reasons... what she does and the way she does it feels fantastic and I don't want it to ever stop :p Not because I'm trying to give her an ego boost.
 

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My husband has told me the same thing, but I confronted him with this post. He said "bad sex is still good." Well, I don't agree with that, but then again, I'm a bit more discerning than a guy, I guess.

Sex is a lot like pizza...
When its good, its really really great...

And when its bad...

...its still pretty good.

-Bill Maher
 

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My husband has told me the same thing, but I confronted him with this post. He said "bad sex is still good." Well, I don't agree with that, but then again, I'm a bit more discerning than a guy, I guess.

I dunno. I think it's more like "it doesn't take much effort or experience for a girl to at least hit 'mediocre' in bed".

There is such a thing as bad sex, even for guys, and I wouldn't equate it with pizza.
 

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For me, it takes a lot for a woman to be lousy in bed. An ex would close her eyes and just lie there. I couldn't tell if she was having fun or simply waiting for it to be over with.

Show a bit of enthusiasm, be open to communicating in bed and the woman's great in the sack. Skills aren't even necessary. I have no problems saying out loud what works, and I certainly have no problems taking directions.
 

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i find ya "just show up and look interested" free pass on sexual performance a lil insulting, Mr. Rawdog.

i mean, my game deserves way more than an Also Participated ribbon.
*snaps fingers... attitudinal head movement*

:eek::wink:
 

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Men are dogs. They'll say anything to get to fuck you again.

I firmly believe that. Just this morning he said "I'm taking the trash to the curb." Yeah, I know what he wants all right.
 

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i find ya "just show up and look interested" free pass on sexual performance a lil insulting, Mr. Rawdog.

i mean, my game deserves way more than an Also Participated ribbon.
*snaps fingers... attitudinal head movement*

:eek::wink:
What do you do that is so special

*Takes out note pad*
 

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In some ways I feel sorry for you. You've obviously never had a woman who was truly great in bed, maybe not even anyone who could rate as good. If you had, you would certainly not have this point of view. Great sex is truly an equal effort.
This.

As far as the question about whether I tell the truth, it really depends on the relationship.

My SO? We've been working on our sex talents with each for a long time, so yes, I'm completely honest with her.

A short-term girlfriend? Probably less honest and more complimentary than the reality because I'm being nice.

A friend with benefits? Less inclined to be fully honest, and more inclined to stroke her ego because it makes her feel good regardless of her "talent".

A one-night fling? I'll probably tell her she's a sex goddess unless she's doing a dead fish impression.

Call me a monster for telling people who aren't overly good at sex that they're good. Go ahead. I can take it.
 

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*reveiws video footage* nope *rewinds to pivotal moment* see how he's gasping for air.. and he can't stop his knees from shaking... yeah..and then when he gets all choked up/teary eyed. he's telling the truth. :tongue1:

@Mr. Geko - hmm if i tell you, i'd have to kill you. can't have random bitches biting my mojo.
 

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For me, it really depends. If it someone who I am only having a one time encounter with, then I am less apt to critique... but if it someone I am in a relationship with or a long time FB, I am more apt to share with them what I like about what they are doing and what they could change and also open up to suggestions about things I could do better. In the end her desire to please me and mine to please her (this is in general, not talking about a "her" specifically) have overridden our pride regarding our performances. How can you ever get better if you think you are at the top of the mountain to begin with?

Side note: I once had a gf in college that jerked me off like she was trying to rip my dick off. It was to the point my cock n balls would hurt for days afterwards... finally, instead of telling her, I just gently used my hand to loosen her hand and work it the way I wanted.. after that , no problems. No confrontation needed :)
 

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For me, it really depends. If it someone who I am only having a one time encounter with, then I am less apt to critique... but if it someone I am in a relationship with or a long time FB, I am more apt to share with them what I like about what they are doing and what they could change and also open up to suggestions about things I could do better. In the end her desire to please me and mine to please her (this is in general, not talking about a "her" specifically) have overridden our pride regarding our performances. How can you ever get better if you think you are at the top of the mountain to begin with?

Side note: I once had a gf in college that jerked me off like she was trying to rip my dick off. It was to the point my cock n balls would hurt for days afterwards... finally, instead of telling her, I just gently used my hand to loosen her hand and work it the way I wanted.. after that , no problems. No confrontation needed :)

You are loverly, Mr TYBC! :hug:
 

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I firmly believe that. Just this morning he said "I'm taking the trash to the curb." Yeah, I know what he wants all right.
Well there goes one of mans secrets. :eek:

I never knew there was a "rate my service" card on the night stand.

On a serious note. I have never openly commented about my partners performance. They can take their own read by the sounds and reactions of my body. If she was to ask me a question about what I enjoy I have no problem answering it or if I ask her what she enjoys.
 

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i find ya "just show up and look interested" free pass on sexual performance a lil insulting, Mr. Rawdog.

It's not that my expectations are so low, it's just that I still haven't found a woman that can "ground and pound" exactly how I like it for the duration I need it. If you can do the backstop grinding - popping my glans in and out of that deep notch - for about 2 hours daily, and more on the weekends, you're the perfect lay in my book. If you can enjoy said activity on your back, on all fours, on your stomach being prone-boned, on my swing, and on my Esse for 2 hours daily and more on the weekends, you are still pretty fucking awesome.

It's more of a fit/function thing with me I guess. We'd have to be compatible in the depth/length and girth/tightness fit as well as compatible in the deep spot/floaty place permanent state of mind. Once that compatibility's established; quantity is quality.

Hardly a free pass. :biggrin1:
 

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I don't think the average guy is going to lie about a girls sexual prowess because it's something we really don't have to do. We're the ones doing the action and most guys like to be seen as players, so it really doesn't make sense for a guy to make up a girls sex skills to brag to others.

I think if I guy tells you that you're really good, you are really good. Men are more honest than women when it comes to sex

I've told several women before that deserve it how awesome they are in bed.