Do men really normally have lots of opportunities to compare erections?

[Otep]

How can you or I have any clue what the norm is? I only know that this is true for myself and other hetero men in my immediate social circle.

I think it's pretty easy to say that it's the norm, especially when you have an 11 page thread full of people saying that they don't have lots of opportunities to compare erections, nor would they want to. Very few men, of any sexual orientation, have the opportunity to compare erections outside of sexual situations. Since heterosexual men are less likely to be in direct sexual situations with other men, it's pretty easy to see why not having the opportunity is the norm.

As others have said, this is nothing more than another "straight guy" fantasy where some people want to believe that straight guys are all running around jacking off together, secretly comparing penises, and just waiting for that perfect opportunity to explore another man sexually.

 

[Oxnard]

I think it's pretty easy to say that it's the norm, especially when you have an 11 page thread full of people saying that they don't have lots of opportunities to compare erections, nor would they want to. Very few men, of any sexual orientation, have the opportunity to compare erections outside of sexual situations. Since heterosexual men are less likely to be in direct sexual situations with other men, it's pretty easy to see why not having the opportunity is the norm.

As others have said, this is nothing more than another "straight guy" fantasy where some people want to believe that straight guys are all running around jacking off together, secretly comparing penises, and just waiting for that perfect opportunity to explore another man sexually.

That's fair for for broad generalizations, I suppose.

It's not proper analysis with statistical weighting and all that, and there is always the risk of selection bias, but this is in part why I'm so curious about conversations here. My personal observations offer no real illumination for things like this.

 

[mako shark]

That is reality for sure!

Well this is an old thread, but since it's bumped, I've not ever seen another man's erect penis in person, and I can only recall seeing a couple flaccid ones (mainly family members in restrooms due to an accidental glance)

 

[superenigmatic]

I think opportunities are extremely rare im 54 and only just recently saw a full erect guy close by to me.This was a result of also having my first experience of swinging with a couple which was truly a fantastic experience to.Ive now entertained the couple at my place 3 times and we are getting comfortable enough to maybe take some pics on next visit so hopefully i will be able to add them here soon

 

[desilover]

only gay men...haha...sorry, but enough of this "it's common"...it's normal for SOME, not MOST.

It's common to drive a car. It's common to use a computer. It's common to watch TV...most people do these by definition. Most guys who do this are a minority.....not the many by definition lol.

 

[HorsemanUK]

Think it depends on what lifestyle you lead, what scenes you are in involved in, your social circle and how open you are at discussion sexual topics.

When you travel often, are involved in swing scenes for example, involved with clothing optional lifestyles, have a social circle who discuss sex openly and frequently then 'opportunities' to see other erections or compare them are more likely and 'normal'. If your lifestyle is fairly vanilla and perhaps 'conservative' it will be less likely if ever that you'd be in a situation where another man's erection was in anyway visible and more difficult to comprehend seeing another guys erection was a part of everyday life.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think opportunities are extremely rare im 54 and only just recently saw a full erect guy close by to me.This was a result of also having my first experience of swinging with a couple which was truly a fantastic experience to.Ive now entertained the couple at my place 3 times and we are getting comfortable enough to maybe take some pics on next visit so hopefully i will be able to add them here soon

Swinging doesn't count. Non-sexual, remember. But I am happy that you had a nice time and I hope you will get them to join you here too. Thanks for responding.

only gay men...haha...

I don't think gay men have many opportunities outside of sex either. The responses from gay men here seem to confirm that hypothesis. If we were to include sexual activity, it wouldn't be only gay men.

 

[deleted716371]

Posts in other threads frequently make me wonder how common it is for heterosexual men to have a chance at one point in their lives or another to compare their erections with many other men. For the purposes of this discussion, porn doesn't count. Neither does a sexual encounter.

Heterosexual, male members of LPSG only, have you seen a lot of erections in person? How many opportunities have you had to check out and compare with other erect men?

LPSG male members in the queer spectrum: Not counting sexual encounters, have you had a lot of opportunities to compare erections?

My experience comparing to other erct cocks in real life is very limited. Never got to compare to alot of men at the same time. Soft is a whole other story.

 

[desilover]

only people i knew who did this were some bored teens in high school....not my friends, but then others. some do it, stress the word SOME. dont' project! lol.

 

[AlteredEgo]

only people i knew who did this were some bored teens in high school....not my friends, but then others. some do it, stress the word SOME. dont' project! lol.

Who is projecting, and what are they projecting?

I'm a woman. I've been a swinger and had sex with a dude I chose and another couple all together. Obviously, those dudes saw each other's erections up close and could have compared of they wanted to. Since they were also swingers they have seen other erections as well. So, just remember, the fact that your sex life is vanilla suits you, but doesn't mean everyone's experiences are like YOURS. YOU stop projecting. There are certain sexual situations where heterosexual men will see each other naked in the course of having sex with women together in a group.

 

[desilover]

Who is projecting, and what are they projecting?

I'm a woman. I've been a swinger and had sex with a dude I chose and another couple all together. Obviously, those dudes saw each other's erections up close and could have compared of they wanted to. Since they were also swingers they have seen other erections as well. So, just remember, the fact that your sex life is vanilla suits you, but doesn't mean everyone's experiences are like YOURS. YOU stop projecting. There are certain sexual situations where heterosexual men will see each other naked in the course of having sex with women together in a group.

lol...the casew ith this thread is the assumption most do this, or it's common. it's not. if some do, fine. i don't give a fuck what people do in life, it's a free world. different than saying it's "normal", well normal is subjective. Normal for the OP, but normal for most people.

 

[AlteredEgo]

lol...the casew ith this thread is the assumption most do this, or it's common. it's not. if some do, fine. i don't give a fuck what people do in life, it's a free world. different than saying it's "normal", well normal is subjective. Normal for the OP, but normal for most people.

You're still projecting. If you actually read my original post (and by read, I mean comprehend) I do not assume anything. I wrote that I had noticed a trend in what I was reading here that implied the opposite of what my previous experiences had led me to believe. I DID NOT think it was common for most men to have opportunities to compare erections, or even see other erections. Rather than assume anything, I asked a question. With very, very few exceptions, most men responding said they never have non-sexual opportunities to see other erections. Some failed to read and comprehend the OP, like you did, and talked about sexual scenarios, WHICH I SPECIFICALLY ASKED YOU NOT TO DO. I specified that sexual encounters do not count. However, you're the one who said only gay men in a sexual scenario would see other wrections, and that is false, so I corrected you. As I, and several others in this thread have attested, straight men who swing also see other erections.

Wise people say nothing when they don't understand a situation. I wouldn't be getting on your case, but you are the one who hypocritically asserted that I should stop projecting when the only person projecting here is YOU.

 

[622675]

Yes, there have been numerous opportunities for me to compare. And I hope there will be many more.

When the OP ask about comparing I understand that means assessing the size of some other guy’s erection when you are in generally close proximity to them. And comparing doesn’t necessarily mean you are going around taking actual measurements. It is a real time event you view and make mental notes about.

If you have lived to be at least forty years old and are gay, straight, or anywhere in-between, it is hard to imagine that you have not seen (and mentally compared with) a number of live erections. If this does not describe your life experience, I would suggest you have (are) failing the challenge of male socialization. And I don’t think I am being overly critical.

Please ask yourself how you have been able to avoid participating in a meaningful way with half of the world’s population. From grade school forward most males have been tightly associated with other males. They were your intimate friends who spend the night, or went camping/fishing with you. You play sports together under the most intimate of conditions. They are your cousins, your neighborhood gang. You served in the military together, put them to bed when they drank too much, shower with them, shit with them, and sleep in a bed next to them for weeks at a time.

Unless you are blind, you know what hand your buddy uses to brush his teeth with, if he eats with his mouth open, and most likely what his farts sound like. Erections are normal, frequent, and just something you learn to expect when you live around a group of other males. They are a constant topic of discussion, a source of great humor and pride, and a unique area for male bonding.

If this has not been a part of you life experience, then you have missed a great deal. In a larger picture, this should prompt you to assess the kinds of experiences you do engage in and the empathy you bring to share when socializing with other males.

Bottom line is you are just a male like all the rest of us. Every other guy in the world knows what you have, how it works and how it makes you feel. So lets celebrate what we have in common and move on to more important matters like learning how to get along.

 

[Oxnard]

Yes, there have been numerous opportunities for me to compare. And I hope there will be many more.

When the OP ask about comparing I understand that means assessing the size of some other guy’s erection when you are in generally close proximity to them. And comparing doesn’t necessarily mean you are going around taking actual measurements. It is a real time event you view and make mental notes about.

If you have lived to be at least forty years old and are gay, straight, or anywhere in-between, it is hard to imagine that you have not seen (and mentally compared with) a number of live erections. If this does not describe your life experience, I would suggest you have (are) failing the challenge of male socialization. And I don’t think I am being overly critical.

Please ask yourself how you have been able to avoid participating in a meaningful way with half of the world’s population. From grade school forward most males have been tightly associated with other males. They were your intimate friends who spend the night, or went camping/fishing with you. You play sports together under the most intimate of conditions. They are your cousins, your neighborhood gang. You served in the military together, put them to bed when they drank too much, shower with them, shit with them, and sleep in a bed next to them for weeks at a time.

Unless you are blind, you know what hand your buddy uses to brush his teeth with, if he eats with his mouth open, and most likely what his farts sound like. Erections are normal, frequent, and just something you learn to expect when you live around a group of other males. They are a constant topic of discussion, a source of great humor and pride, and a unique area for male bonding.

If this has not been a part of you life experience, then you have missed a great deal. In a larger picture, this should prompt you to assess the kinds of experiences you do engage in and the empathy you bring to share when socializing with other males.

Bottom line is you are just a male like all the rest of us. Every other guy in the world knows what you have, how it works and how it makes you feel. So lets celebrate what we have in common and move on to more important matters like learning how to get along.

Wait.

If I don't go around waving my erect penis at other straight men while starting at theirs, I have failed at male socialization?

Am I reading that right?

 

[AlteredEgo]

I used to go to nude beaches every Sunday when I lived in Miami for four years . I noticed only a handful of erections in that time, always from a distance, and they were each quickly, but casually covered up. It's my understanding that unwanted erections are not a frequent occurrence after puberty.

 

[Naughty Teacher]

its certainly easier now than when i was you ger, but part of that is the time and privacy to stroke as needed. that really cuts it down for me.

 

[AlteredEgo]

its certainly easier now than when i was you ger, but part of that is the time and privacy to stroke as needed. that really cuts it down for me.

Interesting. Does this mean that, for you, unwanted boners are the result of sexual frustration?

 

[622675]

Wait.

If I don't go around waving my erect penis at other straight men while starting at theirs, I have failed at male socialization?

Am I reading that right?

As I understand the nature of the OP’s question “comparing” does not involve sexual activity. Comparing does not even require that you have an erection. As I read it, the question ask how many hard dicks have you seen and how did they compare to your own erection.

And yes, if you are over 40 and haven’t been exposed to a number of different erections, I do question your socialization with other males.

 

[622675]

I used to go to nude beaches every Sunday when I lived in Miami for four years . I noticed only a handful of erections in that time, always from a distance, and they were each quickly, but casually covered up. It's my understanding that unwanted erections are not a frequent occurrence after puberty.

Unwanted erections do extend far beyond puberty. They are reduced in number, as one gets older, but definitely may extend into the 40’s and 50’s. Some guys are still having them in their 70’s and 80’s. Morning wood may be a lifetime expectation.

 

[Oxnard]

I used to go to nude beaches every Sunday when I lived in Miami for four years . I noticed only a handful of erections in that time, always from a distance, and they were each quickly, but casually covered up. It's my understanding that unwanted erections are not a frequent occurrence after puberty.

That kept happening to me long after puberty. Just less frequently and I got better at covering it up.