Do men really think it would be so horrible to be a woman?

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The "being a man" thread has a lot of us females freaked out. We are wondering why it seems impossible for men to state what they like about being a man without it turning into a negative "thank god I'm not female" post.

I don't think a man can have a lasting bond with a woman if he's not able to appreciate her gender(the same can be said for women) I think some men want to make it all about sexuality because even my gay friends appreciate women and they don't want to shag any of us.
 

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You know this is true. The last time my boyfriend dragged me to a strip club (I wasnt in the mood that night) I had girls all over me trying to get me to do lap dances etc. He bought a lap dance with this one chick who kept grabbing my boobs, making me grab hers, I mean really ALL over me. I'm sitting there thinking wow, how many guys would love to be me right now. I was mentally checking my watch like "ok when is this song going to be over". Girls definitely have the keys to the kingdom when it comes to strip clubs!

Why do you say that :confused:
She is asking men a question and all I see is putting down men because of her general perception of what we think. We all aren't the same just like women aren't. And her last comment about "the keys to the kingdom" I take that as an insult.
Sorry don't mean to derail the thread.
 

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She is asking men a question and all I see is putting down men because of her general perception of what we think. We all aren't the same just like women aren't. And her last comment about "the keys to the kingdom" I take that as an insult.
Sorry don't mean to derail the thread.

She wasn't talking about any kind of general perception, she was talking about things men have literally written in that thread that she mentioned in the OP. She wasn't talking about all men.

You lost me on the keys to the kingdom comment. It was an anecdote about being doted over by strippers more than the guys were when she went. I fail to see how that's an insult to men.

I certainly don't see how it compares to insults made in that thread to women that range from how we smell like seafood or the multiple potshots regarding how emotionally unstable we are.

I agree that you do seem to be derailing what was a really nice thread (finally) about women.
 
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She is asking men a question and all I see is putting down men because of her general perception of what we think. We all aren't the same just like women aren't. And her last comment about "the keys to the kingdom" I take that as an insult.
Sorry don't mean to derail the thread.

LOL..what!?

I was saying that women have all the advantages in a strip club. I seriously have no clue what you're talking about or what on earth you could be offended about. Makes no sense.

Go back and read what I wrote again
 

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She wasn't talking about any kind of general perception, she was talking about things men have literally written in that thread that she mentioned in the OP. She wasn't talking about all men.

You lost me on the keys to the kingdom comment. It was an anecdote about being doted over by strippers more than the guys were when she went. I fail to see how that's an insult to men.
I haven't visited that thread so I don't know what has been posted. She asked a question in this thread and maybe she should read what men are saying and not making lite of the posts (my opinion). She was looking for other viewpoints I thought beyond dick and pussy comments. Maybe actually focusing on our thoughts.

I can't speak for men in strip clubs but I took it as "I bet every man wishes this was them". To me that was degrading.
 

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Let's try to stay on topic.

The "being a man" thread has a lot of us females freaked out. We are wondering why it seems impossible for men to state what they like about being a man without it turning into a negative "thank god I'm not female" post.

Is is really hard to come up with reasons you love being a man? And what is so terrible about the very thought of being a woman?
Can you think of anything positive about being a woman?

This is what this thread is about. There's been a lot of discussion among the ladies about that thread and what has been written in it. It feels like it was intended to be a celebration about why being a man is wonderful but too many posts ended up being about why men think women suck. There are some really great posts in that thread that aren't like that at all, but there are recurring negative posts that point to a trend and that is disappointing to the ladies.

I haven't visited that thread so I don't know what has been posted.

This thread is a response to that thread.

I didn't take what she wrote the same way. Even after you explained it, I think it's a stretch.
 
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OK seriously you're making a mountain out of a mole hill. If you dont like strip clubs more power to you. You shouldn't read more into it than what was really there. How degrading could it be? I was there wasn't I?
And yes lets not hijack what could and should be a positive thread.
 

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The thread about men made me excited at first to read what masculine traits I love about a man that he also appreciates....instead it was just a woman-fearing and woman-bashing thread. I was so disappointed. A couple of men have posted something worthwhile. But it did make me sad enough to not want to invest much around here anymore. :(
 

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I can only speak for myself but I have always been very guarded. I find it hard to show my emotions because in society in general that is looked upon as weak. I would love to share with you an experience I had last night but it is very private. All I can say is I actually listened, posed questions out of concern and the end result was I learned a lot about what was going on in their head and they got to let it out.
As far as being a women I don't see that as bad or good. Both genders have issues to deal with and I don't see one better off than the other. I really have no desire to be a woman just like I have no desire to be 20 again. I guess I can't relate to the "being a woman question" because there is no reason to.
I enjoy being a man and sharing my thoughts with someone that I know will listen and care. I enjoy doing what I think are small things but they are appreciated not expected.
Maybe I'm off topic but there you go.
This is the post he is referring to which seems to have gone unnoticed. Although I wouldn't want to be 20 again, I sure as hell would like to be in my 30's again...but know what I know now.:wink:
 

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The "being a man" thread has a lot of us females freaked out. We are wondering why it seems impossible for men to state what they like about being a man without it turning into a negative "thank god I'm not female" post.

Is is really hard to come up with reasons you love being a man? And what is so terrible about the very thought of being a woman?
Can you think of anything positive about being a woman?

Of course I can! The interesting thing about that other thread, though, is that the few posts that were positive expressions of self-love, you girls kind of crapped on with the "well I can do that too!" responses. It seemed to be in good fun, but it is troll-bait to men with fragile egos.
 

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but seaside is right about the strip clubs. i was in one about a month ago with some guy friends, and the girls just practically throw themselves at you. i think they probably think it's a good business decision, as perhaps they get tipped better by the eager guys fantasizing about some hot girl-on-girl action. that's my speculation, anyway.

this ^
plus alot of strippers are lesbians..i learned this from dating strippers,and i have 3 female cousins that are strippers themselves(that's another story)
 

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It's okay to be as affectionate as you want. Women can give birth. There are probably a lot of things that it is good to be a woman. I know sometimes in awkward social situations, women can make it more interesting sort of a social lube.
 

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I don't have any problem with stating that you love doing something that a woman can do, too. Positive statements don't bother me, even if a negative statement could be inferred from it. The real issue I had was with the mean things that men said about women.

It seems to be a lot more automatic for men to interpret the question, "What do you like about being a man?" as "What do you like about not being a woman?" Most of the women answered the women's thread before reading the men's thread and said stuff about motherhood and feminine clothing and the fun of having a vagina and breasts. I don't believe a single woman stated what she liked about being a woman in terms of what they dislike about men.

There were some posts that acknowledged that being a woman is difficult and I appreciate that awareness that childbirth is difficult, female beauty is judged more harshly, menstruation can be unpleasant, and being underappreciated in the workplace is a serious concern for women. I liked those because at least the respondents put themselves in our shoes in a compassionate way.



this ^
plus alot of strippers are lesbians..i learned this from dating strippers,and i have 3 female cousins that are strippers themselves(that's another story)

I know a lesbian who was dating a stripper. She said the same thing, that it's common for strippers to prefer women over men.
 
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to all the ladies....i hope you don't let a small percentage of what other men's thoughts are about get you twisted.
remember people say crazy shit all the time on the internet..not that it's right,but you all know how people can turn into mouse pad mobsters/internet gangstas.