A bisexual guy with a girlfriend and a child once said to me about being bisexual: "You gotta keep that shit to yourself!" I've known many bisexual men who do precisely that, keep it to themselves. Such men are often married and with children, and they carry on gay relations in secret. To the outside world, they are for all intents and purposes "straight." Then there's the flipside. There are men who are, for all intents and purposes, gay. They basically only have relationships with other males, but still for some reason cling to the label "bisexual," perhaps because "bisexual" is just a tad less threatening to mainstream society than "gay." Maybe. (An actress recently said, "If you only date guys and only talk about guys, guess what? You ain't bi.") In all of my life I've only known about one male who was openly bisexual to everyone, including his own girlfriend. It is pretty amazing. The last person out of the closet? The bisexual male In all honesty, is this the way it is with most bisexuals? Do they generally choose sides?