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Whether lesbian or bisexual, I think it's easier for women to be accepted because they're less threatening to men. Most men fantasize about being with two women, or about seeing two women together. Most women do NOT fantasize about two men together. Some do, but it's rare.
With men, it's sort of back to the African American "one drop" rule. One drop of "black blood" and you're considered "Black." Any attraction to men, and you're "gay." If you are with a woman and she finds out you're also attracted to men, then that just means you're a closeted gay. People cannot comprehend that bisexuality actually exists.
I read a review of Brokeback Mountain that said that the two main characters were not gay but bisexual, but bisexuality is so under represented that everyone said the two characters were gay.
With men, it's sort of back to the African American "one drop" rule. One drop of "black blood" and you're considered "Black." Any attraction to men, and you're "gay." If you are with a woman and she finds out you're also attracted to men, then that just means you're a closeted gay. People cannot comprehend that bisexuality actually exists.
I read a review of Brokeback Mountain that said that the two main characters were not gay but bisexual, but bisexuality is so under represented that everyone said the two characters were gay.
My thoughts are that men won't come out as bisexual until women are more cool with it.
Women can be bi because guys tend to love it -- it means they might have a shot at the elusive FMF.
But for women dating, or marrying, a bi man implies they're asking to get cheated on. Something many aren't interested in.
Furthermore given many women have lower libidos than their partner and are less motivated by sex, they're less interested in a bi partner for the MFM possibilities.
So my theory -- and I have no idea -- is that men will have a harder time announcing their bi and seeking LTRs until women are more okay with the idea.