yeah, just ignore the post where she admits that her extreme freak out to all things anal is due to the trauma of anal rape.
or the bit where she clarifies that she didn't mean that nobody else should enjoy it.
Choosing to not address the trauma (which no one said was untrue or an insignificant point) and pointing out the unnecessary hyperbole
unrelated to the trauma are two entirely different things. If she had left her comments at the trauma inflicted upon her, no address of the hyperbole would have been necessary. The fact of the trauma being mentioned would have undoubtedly been sufficient.
But she didn't leave it at that.
I do find it interesting that I can only recall one or two pinheads in this entire thread that have been like, "Oh, you're doing it wrong, you should REALLY try it again, you'll like it," and
the vast majority of people - those who enjoy it and those who don't - have effectively said, repeatedly, "If you don't like it, that's fine."
What I find so odd is that a select few of those who don't enjoy it seem more intent on castigating those who do enjoy it, and subsequently hiding behind statements of,
"Oh, I don't mean to diss anyone that likes it, HOWEVER..." and then proceed to diss people that like it by saying it's dirty, it causes health problems, etc., when in fact that's only true IF IT'S DONE WRONG.
That's dissing us. Do you see that?
Done right, there's about the same level of adverse health effects as vaginal sex. With proper lubrication, relaxation, good technique and common-sense hygiene, there's nothing wrong with it and it won't cause health issues. If YOU PERSONALLY don't like it, fine! Say so. But really, you can leave it at that, because that's sufficient. Acting like those of us who do like it are attacking you is approaching the comical.
They're not attacking your dislike of it, so get over yourselves. Leave the emotions aside (trauma is no doubt something likely to cause strong, negative emotional reactions, and with good reason), so beyond any personal trauma (which is certainly a valid point to bring up as to WHY a person dislikes it), lets discuss the facts as they are. If your OPINION is dislike for the act of anal sex, fine. Knowing others who have had bad experiences from idiot men who don't know how to treat a woman in the first place doesn't automatically mean that ALL anal sex is bad. That just means that (duh!) there's still some cavemen out there who don't understand what basic respect is. Drawing a straight light from disrespectful men to "anal sex = always bad" is a non-sequitur. So the emotional rants from perceived attacks (that in reality are merely pointing out facts) look, well, silly.
You're asking for respect of your views; the vast majority of us are providing you that. A bit of mutual respect for our views would go a long way towards a productive discussion.
god forbid you cut her any slack!
So when she accuses "the majority" of people on here of "forcing" her to do or like something, (an assertion that is supported by, at most, perhaps one or two idiot posters - hardly a majority in this thread), I fail to see how she - or you - are cutting
him any slack.