swallows13: I don't think anyone's really hit it on the head yet. If someone is dating you just for your size, then either (1) they're neutral about everything else about you or (2) they're less than neutral about something, and maybe everything, else about you. In other words, you're either not impressing them, or you're making a bad impression. Who wants to do either of those things?
In other words, it's not just that we all want to be admired for all of our admirable qualities, but rather that we don't want to be dissed for ANY of our qualities, admirable or otherwise, which is what someone is implicitly doing if s/he is dating us for just our cock.
I'm usually cool being cruised just because of my size. The only time I don't like it is when I'm not interested in the cruiser, for whatever reason, and the cruiser just can't get the message. For example, when I swim laps, sometimes I notice guys trying to pace me in the pool, or maybe staring at me from the moment I walk out of the locker room, and that can be majorly hot. I refuse to wear trunks when doing laps, even if I show to the point of embarrassment (theirs, not mine) in speedos. Sure, this has to do with practicality -- have you ever tried to swim competitively in trunks? But I also like showing off, and I have a hard time believing that so many of the guys here with such provocative handles have a hard time with it, or with being ogled, themselves.
But other times, I can identify, like if a guy goes so far as to start J*ing off in the shower stall next time mine whether I'm interested or not, and continues to even if I ask him, politely, to cool it, if only so the pool staff don't think I'm involved and revoke my membership. It's times like that when I'm tempted to resent the guy for loving me for my bulge (if I can infer that from the fact that he never looks me in the face). But it's not the fact that he likes me just for my bulge that's really bothering me, but rather the fact that he can't respect me when I say no. And when I remember that, I realize that his being interested in me for my cock, or being interested only in my cock, is really no different from an employer being interested in me only for my experience or a client being intereted in me only for my intelligence. Heck, I've been on my knees in sex clubs begging for the guy with the biggest cock to [edit edit edit, but there have been some HUGE ones], so who am I to fault someone for doing the same, or similar, to me.
BUT... none of that has anything to do with DATING. When you cruise someone, you're cruising them for sex. When you date someone, you're dating them for the sake of meeting more needs, and having more needs met, than just one. And so, bottom line, if you're dating someone who's monomaniacal about your cock, then not only is the ongoing dating an implicit "diss," it's also dysfunctional.
In other words, it's not just that we all want to be admired for all of our admirable qualities, but rather that we don't want to be dissed for ANY of our qualities, admirable or otherwise, which is what someone is implicitly doing if s/he is dating us for just our cock.
I'm usually cool being cruised just because of my size. The only time I don't like it is when I'm not interested in the cruiser, for whatever reason, and the cruiser just can't get the message. For example, when I swim laps, sometimes I notice guys trying to pace me in the pool, or maybe staring at me from the moment I walk out of the locker room, and that can be majorly hot. I refuse to wear trunks when doing laps, even if I show to the point of embarrassment (theirs, not mine) in speedos. Sure, this has to do with practicality -- have you ever tried to swim competitively in trunks? But I also like showing off, and I have a hard time believing that so many of the guys here with such provocative handles have a hard time with it, or with being ogled, themselves.
But other times, I can identify, like if a guy goes so far as to start J*ing off in the shower stall next time mine whether I'm interested or not, and continues to even if I ask him, politely, to cool it, if only so the pool staff don't think I'm involved and revoke my membership. It's times like that when I'm tempted to resent the guy for loving me for my bulge (if I can infer that from the fact that he never looks me in the face). But it's not the fact that he likes me just for my bulge that's really bothering me, but rather the fact that he can't respect me when I say no. And when I remember that, I realize that his being interested in me for my cock, or being interested only in my cock, is really no different from an employer being interested in me only for my experience or a client being intereted in me only for my intelligence. Heck, I've been on my knees in sex clubs begging for the guy with the biggest cock to [edit edit edit, but there have been some HUGE ones], so who am I to fault someone for doing the same, or similar, to me.
BUT... none of that has anything to do with DATING. When you cruise someone, you're cruising them for sex. When you date someone, you're dating them for the sake of meeting more needs, and having more needs met, than just one. And so, bottom line, if you're dating someone who's monomaniacal about your cock, then not only is the ongoing dating an implicit "diss," it's also dysfunctional.
