I find myself defending my single status more and more often. I tell my good friends I am quite happily single (for many reasons) and will find a boyfriend when I want one, but they just dont seem to get it. Every single time I see them they ask me how my love life is, and I am tired of having to make excuses/explanations. Some could say these friends are wanting me to be happy and are being good friends. But I am happy already, as I am. Some could say that if I make excuses and explanations then I must feel I need to explain, but I feel I need to explain because I am not asked in a nice enquiring way, I am asked in a pitying way. Some could say that I am defensive and snappy when asked because really I do want a relationship, but really I am sick of being asked, that is why I am snappy. It's not like I always go around asking them how their marriage is in a pitying condescending tone. Does anyone else get this from their "friends"? It doesn't always bother me, but I have just come back from visiting a friend and getting the same question as usual. But only this time SHE says 'O I met this nice guy, I will arrange a dinner for you'. OK, so it is sweet of her to offer me a dinner to meet this guy, BUT... a) I can meet my own guys thank you very much, because b) you sat next to him on the train for 30 minutes only and c) you dont even know he is gay, "he was just a little camp" and finally d) I find blind dates situations (arranged by other people) totally uncomfortable. And then there is an acquaintance who telephones me last week to say she was having her hair cut and there was a gay hairdresser there (quelle surprise) and she thinks we should meet. Well, a) she hardly knows me, only met her twice and b) she doesn't know this hairdresser either, he wasn't even her hairdresser! Apparently we would be perfect together. What? Just because we are both gay? I'm going to tell an aristocratic friend of mine who speaks Russian that I was standing next to someone in the queue in the supermarket who I think spoke Russian, so I think I will arrange a dinner for them as they will be perfect for each other!...My friend would think I was mad, so why do i have to be matched with people only because they are gay. I am probably over reacting (which I can be known to do!) but it feels like other people keep offering me dregs when I just want to be left alone. It wouldn't be so bad if they did actually meet/know somebody who they thought would be suitable for me for their personality and not their sexuality, I'm not totally closed to the possibility of a relationship. Are they just trying to help, are they interferring or are they threatened by my single status? There are a lot of issues in this rant, but does anyone else have similar situations or do I just need to change my friends and get more that are single?