Do (straight) circle jerks actually happen?

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This stuff is legendary for fraternities, etc. Everyone thinks guys in frats do this. But just about every guy that I've ever known who was in a frat has said that it has NOT happened (but that they get asked it all the time).

So, I was wondering ... does anyone here have any first-hand knowledge about whether this fabled male ritual actually exists? I wouldn't be surprised that it happens for gay men (and I'm not putting down/insulting my gay bros by stating it that way; I'm just saying gay men would likely be more comfortable with this). But do straight guys at any stage in their lives actually ever do this sort of thing? If so, go ahead and share your thoughts/experiences. It might be interesting. Maybe women here would find it interesting/unusual too. lol
 

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Well, two things.

1. Me and my best bro jack off together all the time, but if anyone ever asked us if we did, we'd say no. I imagine it's the same in a frat.

2. I knew of a few guys who are straight and have masturbated with eachother.
 
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This stuff is legendary for fraternities, etc. Everyone thinks guys in frats do this. But just about every guy that I've ever known who was in a frat has said that it has NOT happened (but that they get asked it all the time).

I was in a fraternity in university, and I can tell you with absolute certainty that this never happened. The only thing we are forbidden from revealing is information about rituals, and secrets such as passwords and grips, but nothing else. Fraternities are about the most homophobic institutions on the face of the planet despite all of the websites and stories you see that claim they are about gay sex. A brother of mine who did come out while he was an active member was pretty much chased out of our chapter by some narrow minded homophobic brothers. After we became alumni, 4 more guys from my fraternity came out that I know of (possibly more that I don't). I wasn't surprised in the slightest that they kept it secret when they were active members of the fraternity because of the rampant homophobia that existed. Other fraternities on campus were just as homophobic as ours was.

So, I was wondering ... does anyone here have any first-hand knowledge about whether this fabled male ritual actually exists? But do straight guys at any stage in their lives actually ever do this sort of thing?

In my experience, no. I have never participated in it, seen it, or even heard about it among straight guys. I have hot tubbed in the nude with brothers and showered with them at the gym in an open shower, but that is it. Nothing even remotely sexual took place. We had some insanely hot brothers in our chapter, so there is a part of me that always wished that some of this did happen.:wink: There was one gourgeous brother in particular that I still jerk off to the memory of showering with in an open shower to this day. Very straight, and married with kids. The last time I saw him (7 years ago), he looked like shit. Marriage and kids really took its toll on him.
 
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Thanks for the response. Obviously, the key issue here is "straight." You admit to having done this, but you aren't straight.

I think the reason this particular (apparently mythical, as in, fictitious) ritual fascinates people is because it's a "gay" thing to do, but allegedly straight guys do it.

I heard through the grapevine that a family friend used to take part in circle jerks back when he was a teenager -- back in about the 1940s or 50s. Those were the days before Playboy and other readily available sort-core (or hard-core) pornography.

I don't know what caused me to want to ask this question.

Well, two things.

1. Me and my best bro jack off together all the time, but if anyone ever asked us if we did, we'd say no. I imagine it's the same in a frat.

2. I knew of a few guys who are straight and have masturbated with eachother.
 

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I did get confirmation from one straight person in a fraternal that stuff like that has happened in his.
 
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My baseball teams both HS and College did it now and then mostly in hotels on away games. Was never in a frat but circle jerked once with a group of bros in my best buds frat. Wasnt gay at all , just a handful of buds watchin porn with their dongs out their shorts rubbin one out.
 

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Hmm. So it does happen.

I remember back after high school a female friend told me she didn't think it was gay for males to masturbate together, that it was "just a form of male bonding."

I guess this is just one of those things that is sort of in no-man's-land in terms of sexual categorization. It's not really "gay" per se, because no gay sex is taking place. But it's not really something you think straight guys would do either.

How did this come about? (No pun intended.)

By the way, to be clear, what you describe doesn't exactly conform to the popular notion of a "circle jerk." The popular notion of a circle jerk is where a group of -- supposedly heterosexual -- guys sit in a circle and masturbate, and the one to ejaculate first is the winner. What you described is simply guys masturbating together.


From the Wikipedia article:

While circle jerks feature a homoerotic element, some analysts interpret adolescent boys' group activities such as circle jerks as an effort to establish heterosexual, masculine dominance within the group.[1][2][3] What actually motivates participation is to have friends witness and acknowledge one's sexual prowess, helping to counter teenage feelings of inadequacy related to sex.[3] Circle jerk (sexual practice) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

My baseball teams both HS and College did it now and then mostly in hotels on away games. Was never in a frat but circle jerked once with a group of bros in my best buds frat. Wasnt gay at all , just a handful of buds watchin porn with their dongs out their shorts rubbin one out.
 

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I guess this is just one of those things that is sort of in no-man's-land in terms of sexual categorization. It's not really "gay" per se, because no gay sex is taking place. But it's not really something you think straight guys would do either.
I think it's something people (unnecessarily) think of as sexual because they're paranoid about being "gay". So it's just something we grow up thinking of as a big secret if we ever do it. But really just like you can hug someone and it's not sexual, you can jack off next to someone and it is what it is. Same with cuddling, it doesn't have to have sexual meaning unless you put it there. It all just is what it is.
 

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Hard to think of circle jerks as "non-sexual." What else could they be?

I agree, however, that male bonding isn't necessarily gay. A bunch of straight guys jerking off to porn is very easy to understand as men feeling good about their "bros" without it being homosexual. There's an element that the term 'homosocial" describes. See wikipedia.

I'm not surprised that is isn't a common practice among frat boys. Too bad, tho. It'd be great fun for everyone, and talk about bonding.

I myself participated in many many circle jerks in a college sauna about three years after I'd graduated. The participants were undergrads and grad students and possibly some TA's. However, I think most of them were probably gay. Still, it fuckin ROCKED.
Of course, terms like "straight" and "gay" are complex.I think (I hope) we all know it's a continuum, and pigeonholing a guy as one or the other is overly simplistic, to say the least.
 

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I was in a fraternity in college, I am embarrassed to say. There was a lot of casual nudity, but no circle jerks that I ever heard about, even when groups of guys were watching porn. It was a pretty homophobic atmosphere, like someone above described. I can't imagine it happening in the one I was in.
 

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I consider myself straight.. Would only date or be together with a female but I do enjoy getting naked and playing with other guys. I have been a part of circle jerks with other guys. Lot of times it leads to atleast oral either recieving only and sometimes with the right guy who has the right cock I've returned or been the one sucking. I don't know why but anytime there's a straight acting decent looking guy who reveals a large cock I get aroused and want to preform oral. Big cocks on young or old guys who look decent just make me want to pleasure him orally cause I know I couldn't even try anything more with that size.
 
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exactly. but this isn't "straight." thanks or responding though.

I consider myself straight.. Would only date or be together with a female but I do enjoy getting naked and playing with other guys. I have been a part of circle jerks with other guys. Lot of times it leads to atleast oral either recieving only and sometimes with the right guy who has the right cock I've returned or been the one sucking. I don't know why but anytime there's a straight acting decent looking guy who reveals a large cock I get aroused and want to preform oral. Big cocks on young or old guys who look decent just make me want to pleasure him orally cause I know I couldn't even try anything more with that size.