Do Straight guys mind?

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  1. Mestisamo

    Mestisamo New Member

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    Today I saw a huge black guy with an amazing basket (and I don't mean the shopping variety!) He did catch me looking, grinned, and was aware that I was in awe. We exchanged plesantries, but I scurried off being a big wuss.
    So, my question is directed at the straight guys in the group - How do you handle male admirers? Do you find that other straight guys are more likely to say something than gay men, or do straight guys even talk about stuff like that outside a group like this?

    Thanks
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  2. B_KeraAndMike

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    I dont mind at all. I show off a lot but mostly just dont go to such great lengths to hide it. Yeah guys have said stuff and I usually assume they are straight.
     
  3. DC_DEEP

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    Although I can't speak for them since I am gay, it seems that most of the opinions I have seen voiced here and elsewhere is pretty much along the same lines - most of the straight guys actually, to some degree, enjoy other guys checking out the package. Of course, there are the exceptions (I'm sure you've met 'em, those really odd guys who are so insecure that they secretly wish they were the only males on the planet) and a few who have the almost equally odd attitude of "YEAH, BUDDY, LOOK AND ENVY, BUT DON'T EVEN THINK OF TOUCHING OR I'LL KICK YOUR ASS!" But as I said before, most straight men I know are flattered when somone looks, whether male or female.
     
  4. Chicago_Swimmer

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    I'm flattered when a guy checks me out.

    Who wouldn't be flattered that someone, man or woman, find something attractive about you.

    Robert
     
  5. LongNights

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    I generally don't mind as long as they don't cross the line. When I wear sweat pants.....oh the looks.

    LongNights
     
  6. Donk

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    My answer is that I do not mind--and even find it flattering--when gay guys admire my penis, as long as they are respectful about it. But there is a fine line between admiring and being intrusive/obnoxious/inappropriate. When guys cross that line, I get uncomfortable and angry and feel violated.

    For me, the issue usually arises in the locker room at the gym. My gym happens to have a fair number of gay members and many of them check me out in the locker room. There are a handful of guys that I think of as my "fan club" because they check me out every time and seem to look forward to seeing me there. All of this is well and good--and, as I say, flattering--as long as they keep it at a respectful distance, which most of them do. Some of the guys have really crossed the line, though, with comments, offers for sexual favors, blatantly following me around the whole locker room/shower area while staring very openly, starting to stroke themselves while staring at me, even grabbing at my dick. When such things happen, my response is to either remove myself from the situation or politely but firmly state that I find their conduct inappropriate. Those responses are always effective.

    The thing is, about conduct that crosses the line, I would find it inappopriate, offensive, and disrespectful even if done by women. The point is not that it's guys doing it to me, the point is that it is simply inappropriate for any stranger to make aggressive sexual advances without at least some encouragement.

    As for straight guys, my penis gets noticed by guys who are apparently straight at the gym, but no straight guys have openly commented on my size since guys I knew in college.
     
  7. eastbaydude

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    I think you are welcome to "admire" anything you want - any time you want. Just be cool about crossing the line and making comments. Think about when it's appropriate and when it's not.

    For example, it's NOT cool to tell a woman that her tits look great in a certain blouse but it is OK to say "you look nice today" or "is that a new blouse" - if the moment is right. You just don't say it as she is bending over or as a cold draft hardens her nipples.

    I think its the same way with guys. If the time is right, you can make comments. Just try not to make anyone feel uncomfortable. When a guy is peeing with his buddies nearby, it's not OK to comment on how nice his cock looks. You can look, but keep quiet.

    Lockerroom comments should be limited to what a guy can react to. I guy once told me that he wished he had a dick like mine and that he'd be happy even if it was just for a weekend - a long weekend. That was OK. We both laughed and contineud to talk about it as we dressed. I don't know if he was gay or straight, but it was cool regardless.
     
  8. muscledog

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    I enjoy it when I catch women OR men looking. It's good for the ol' ego. :)
     
  9. jonb

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    I'm flattered by looks, and even a few comments, but be careful how far you go.

    "Nice." -- Cool.
    "He is foin!" -- Cool.
    "What I wouldn't give to have that thing up my ass." -- Not cool. You've crossed the line into immodest territory.

    Also, it helps to give my entire body the once-over. I've got some strong calves, a nice chest, and nice abs. I might not be Mr. Universe, but I'm not all dick, yanno? (Besides, I always thought Mr. Universe was too muscle-bound. I have more of a decathlete's body.)
     
  10. rope9839

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    I don't mind admiration from gay men at all. I figure that they are the real cock aficionados, as many women really are ambivalent on the topic.

    Once, a gay acquaintance muttered to me "what a waste" in reference to my straightness while we were in the locker room shower. Everyone likes compliments, don't they?
     
  11. jonb

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    Yeah, the only real rule to these catcalls is, don't describe what you want to do with the guy. At least that's how most straight guys from my generation are. Older generations, especially in certain parts of the country (Ohio, I'm looking in your direction.), tend to be less understanding.
     
  12. madame_zora

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    Yeah, in Ohio it would probably be best not to let your appreciation be known. People get hurt here for that. I'm glad to know there's someplace less stupid. Guys usually drop dead of a heart attack if I even give them a compliment (we don't talk much to each other here), but if it came from a man, I think it would send their fears of gayness into the stratosphere.

    But I look, you can bet on that. Nice asses, legs, tight stomachs/torsos (Probably my fav), veiny forearms- all get looks from me. After all you can barely see the ourline of his dick, just enough to get an indication.
     
  13. DC_DEEP

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    Heheh, well, it looks like my observations were right on. The next 3 posts, (plus a few later) are from the (at least mostly) straight guys saying "it's cool to look, just don't cross the line."

    Interestingly enough, this in some ways reminds me of a couple of other threads - regarding men who try to carry on a conversation with a woman's tits.

    Straight guys, just curious. Although I am sure NONE of you would ever do it, do you think talking to a woman's chest is much different than crossing the line in the way jonb describes? Although he is not exactly SAYING "nice tits!", is he not, in practice, acting out his thoughts? How would you, as a straight guy, deal with another man carrying on a conversation with you, and who would not take his eyes off your crotchbulge?
     
  14. Imported

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    gamma_phi: I don't mind, as long as it stays with eyeballing and nothing else. The old "look but don't touch" thingy. And yes, it does boost the ego quite a bit to get looks from anyone, of either sex.
     
  15. Dr. Dilznick

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    No big deal, I check out tits & asses so whatever. It doesn't bother me.
     
  16. B_DoubleMeatWhopper

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    I even know a few straight dudes who purposefully show off for the gay guys. (I've read that John F. Kennedy, Jr., did that a lot.) I went to work out with a couple of straight friends on one particular day. While changing, one of my friends said, "Hey, Whopper." I looked in his direction and said, "Yeah, what?" He replied, "Nothing. I just thought you might like to see me naked." I said, "Not bad, but I look better!" He looked mock-indignant and said, "Well, I guess I just don't turn on gay men." What he probably doesn't realise is that I make it a point not to find my close friends sexy, but my straight friends certainly make it a point to test that!
     
  17. Bananaman

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    DC, I've had it happen. Long story short, I was wearing something to please the wife (showing), and this guy comes up and starts a conversation with me. We talked for 15 minutes or so and the whole time he had one eye on my crotch. He was trying not to be too obvious about it, but I was still very much aware that he couldn't keep his eyes off my bulge.
    I wasn't really offended by it, but it did make me mildly uncomfortable. Had it been in a locker room or something like that I probably could have ignored it, but the setting was such that it made me self-concious. My wife was aware of it too, but she thought it was funny as could be. Her comment was that all men should experience something like that so that they understand what women feel like when they're being checked out.
    Point taken (LOL). In fact, I have absolutely no memory of the conversation, only of the situation. Wonder what that says about my state of mind just then? Seems to me the smart thing is just to take a compliment wherever you can get one.

    B-man
     
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    I think men are, in general, proud of their cocks, and so long as they feel they are in control of the situation, gladly accept admiration from anyone, other men included.

    I once had a supposedly straight guy (at least so he said, and had the wife and kids to go with the claim) decide he was going to show the queer (me) what "a real man's dick looks like." I'm not sure why-- perhaps he was expecting me to drop to my knees in awe, or something along those lines. Perhaps he really was straight, althouth I suspect he was a closet bi, perhaps even closeted to himself. In any event, he obviously had experienced few, if any, encounters with other men, and was quite unfamiliar with the full range of male anatomy, as "the real man's dick" he proceeds to pull out of his pants was barely up to average. He was visibly shocked when I pulled out mine, but appeared totally crushed after I modestly explained to him that I know a few guys much larger than I am.
     
  19. Anyjoe

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    A very muscular guy at the
    next locker, once leaned over and quietly
    said, 'you've got a beautiful dick.
    I smiled and said thanks. :)
     
  20. B_KeraAndMike

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    Have gotten 4 offers to do gay porn and only one for straight :(

    Actually never bothered me. Wouldnt do either but always thought that was quirky.

    Guys are very forward about advertising sexual interest. Girls are too but most of them have a better sense of what to say. A lot of guys are crap at that. Im not ;)
     
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