Do Straight Men Let Another Man Give Them Blowjobs?

[950483]

@novice_btm
Crimsonlurker wasn't banned because of this thread, was he?

 

[deleted15807]

if you let a man suck you then you are bi

An honest answer, i I ever heard one

As long as actions = orientation then yes this simplistic equation works even a 6th grader could grasp.

 

[Hatt_101]

Lables don't really limit anything it is about how you use them. MSN is still a lable and if a person didn't lable themselves as a man you wouldn't be able to use the lable MSN either

I kinda find labels limited - Gay and Bisexual. I rather like the use of MSM - Men who have Sex with Men. Now the distinction is on the basis of whether we are looking at it from Emotional point of view or just Sexual point of view. I believe being Gay or Bisexual is a lot about who emotionally fulfills you as a companion. Sex is a brain game, so emotions then become sexual too.

Some things are just sexual. And then MSMis a better term for men who got involved with other men just once or more.

And one's sexuality is what you accept it to be, others cannot force it on you. So even If I want to think you are Gay, but you don't identify as one, really you are not Gay. And this identification is not about what you say to others, but what you feel deep within

Dracoins said it best here.

So, IDENTIFYING as "straight"... well PLENTY of non-straight people do.

 

[Draconis71]

Go live in a small town and hold your gay lover's hand everywhere you go. Come back and tell me how that all went down for ya?

Hypothetically?
Anyways, things aren't what they were 25 years ago.
... PS: no bf, not gay.

 

[N68]

im not shamed im just grateful 4 attention

 

[SamInBama]

No, only bisexual and closeted gay men will allow that.

I think a significant percentage of straight guys would. I used to not accept the fluidity of sexuality that my brother was always talking about. I used to think there is straight, gay and bisexual (50/50). My brother identifies as gay but has had sex a bunch of times with women. So it stands to reason some straight guys will allow a guy to suck him off. a measurable chunk will in my experience. And they identify as straight.

 

[novice_btm]

Crimsonlurker wasn't banned because of this thread, was he?

Not directly, no. We don't discuss these things, because they often involve privacy. However, to be as transparent as possible, posts in this thread contributed to identifying ban-able issues.

 

[Hoosierman63]

So many people are so hung up about labelling others (as well as ourselves). He's homosexual, she's bisexual... These terms are relatively recent, but they should be retired. We are all simply sexual; nothing more, nothing less. I, personally, identify as gay and it's more about living than about sex. A straight man can have full-on sex with hundreds of guys and still identify as straight: Just like a woman can have sex with a man, have children and still identify as lesbian. Acts of sex have little to do with who we are.

 

[BIGBULL29]

Hypothetically?
Anyways, things aren't what they were 25 years ago.
... PS: no bf, not gay.

Your identifying not as gay makes you non-sympathetic to the minority suffering.

Gays have made tremendous progress - but they still have a long road ahead of them.

When gay men can be affectionate with their partners everywhere they go without fear of retaliation, only then can the community say that they've "made it."

 

[BIGBULL29]

So many people are so hung up about labelling others (as well as ourselves). He's homosexual, she's bisexual... These terms are relatively recent, but they should be retired. We are all simply sexual; nothing more, nothing less. I, personally, identify as gay and it's more about living than about sex. A straight man can have full-on sex with hundreds of guys and still identify as straight: Just like a woman can have sex with a man, have children and still identify as lesbian. Acts of sex have little to do with who we are.

Thank you! I appreciate it.

 

[Draconis71]

Your identifying not as gay makes you non-sympathetic to the minority suffering.

Gays have made tremendous progress - but they still have a long road ahead of them.

When gay men can be affectionate with their partners everywhere they go without fear of retaliation, only then can the community say that they've "made it."

True enough.
Sad that our society (well, most straight men) would encourage lesbians in action'want to participate, but, not vice versa. Got a LOT of double, and triple standards

 

[BIGBULL29]

True enough.
Sad that our society (well, most straight men) would encourage lesbians in action'want to participate, but, not vice versa. Got a LOT of double, and triple standards

"A lot of double and triple standards...."

^ You made me laugh there.

I like lesbian porn, but I don't encourage women to like women when they don't. Men are surely not encouraged to french kiss another dude (well, a woman who like gay male porn might lol)

 

[Draconis71]

"A lot of double and triple standards...."

^ You made me laugh there.

I like lesbian porn, but I don't encourage women to like women when they don't. Men are surely not encouraged to french kiss another dude (well, a woman who like gay male porn might lol)

You get a lot of guys EXPECT women perform gay acts, yet, would not do so themselves.
Another situation would be a straight couple encouraging heavy "lesbian" kissing/play on public transportation, yet shitting on a gay male couple for a peck on the cheek.
Same straight couple starts necking, they're told to get a room, yet, regular kiss on the cheek/peck is ok. Lesbian couple... encouraged.
I see 3 levels of standard there. So, yes, it was done to make people laugh a bit, but, it was also serious.

 

[BIGBULL29]

You get a lot of guys EXPECT women perform gay acts, yet, would not do so themselves.
Another situation would be a straight couple encouraging heavy "lesbian" kissing/play on public transportation, yet shitting on a gay male couple for a peck on the cheek.
Same straight couple starts necking, they're told to get a room, yet, regular kiss on the cheek/peck is ok. Lesbian couple... encouraged.
I see 3 levels of standard there. So, yes, it was done to make people laugh a bit, but, it was also serious.

I can't argue with you on these very crucial observations on heterosexual male behavior.

It's a blatant form of sexism in our society. Men transfer their homophobia onto women. They live perhaps their gay male desires through lesbianism (make the bitch be gay). That's not to say that some men really enjoy lesbian porn (just for the women's bodies). But men liking to see women kiss...it's just male chauvinistic piggishness at its finest. Sadly, so many younger women fall for it.

It's still a man's world. That's why Hillary sucks so bad for the GOP.

 

[950483]

Not directly, no. We don't discuss these things, because they often involve privacy. However, to be as transparent as possible, posts in this thread contributed to identifying ban-able issues.

Well, that is pretty ridiculous. He was not equating homosexuality with beastiality. He even said

Anyway, i did not equate homosexuality with having sex with animals.

Seriously, the paedo is still here, the incest guy is still here, and so is the misogynist hate speech one.

 

[950483]

Well, that is pretty ridiculous. He was not equating homosexuality with beastiality. He even said

Seriously, the paedo is still here, the incest guy is still here, and so is the misogynist hate speech one.

"No answer!", came the stern reply.

 

[Smaccoms]

It's clear that "sexual orientation" is informed by cultural norms and the material conditions of society, rather than it being this absolute and objective and unchangeable thing you're trying to argue that it is.

Solid class analysis darling, I think we're going to get along swimmingly!!

Keep in mind though, i and many many others have consistently said over and over again to each an ever new person entering this "discussion" that people get curious. Happens all the time. And it's no big deal. Problems come in when they are consistently "curious" but still want and need the label of straight to hide behind.

This is very heterosexist. Well, I mean there's A LOT wrong with your attempt at reasoning in this one post, but I'm only picking on this specific line of it for now. Implicit in your final statement here is the belief that being straight needs to be proven "consistently" because it's better than not being straight (esp for men).

In short, you want to make for god damn sure that all "the gays" can be identified easily from a distance so you don't have to...you know...accidentally get infected by their "disease". If you know he's had sex with another man, then you don't need to take him seriously anymore...just another one to throw in the dumpster, right?

"Happens all the time. And it's no big deal." *rolls eyes*

Having sex is like eating a meal. Just because you clean your plate doesn't mean you loved the food you ate. Insisting that it is impossible to eat food you do not enjoy is just foolish and ignorant. Sex is a biological function, a need. People need sex in the same way they need food, breath, and sleep. Yet we don't categorize people so strictly based on how they function in those areas, do we? Sure, we notice people who don't chew with their mouths closed, or those who snore loudly. But we don't give them a distinct label,and them shame them for not eating or sleeping like the rest of us.

The very fact you feel the need to know how much gay sex a person is having, as well as insisting they had to have enjoyed it if they do it "consistently" is evidence enough that you believe homo-erotic behavior needs to be regulated and policed in a way that hetero-erotic behavior is not.

Like I said, heterosexist.

 

[cobra8]

There are lots of factors that go into the decision of whether I am going to be intimate with someone. Worrying about labels of being straight or gay seems to me to be pretty shallow and stupid factors that have relatively little influence over my decision. I guess for a guy who is homophobic, that would be a big deal, but they are just labels. Your orientation is your own decision in that particular instance. The way the question is phrased fails to honor the subjective nature of intimacy and sexuality.

 

[BIGBULL29]

A man could have sex time and time again with a man (not necessarily a male escort) and never ever enjoy it, despite always getting an erection and ejaculating during his sessions. But many on here would say "He's just GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY GAY", like a high-schooler in a cafeteria. It doesn't attest in any way to his real sexual orientation. Sorry, Charlie. It won't fit your narrative.

If it looks a like an orange, it might be an apple.

 

[novice_btm]

Well, that is pretty ridiculous. He was not equating homosexuality with beastiality...

If you re-read, I didn't say that was the issue. I said, it assisted in identifying (OTHER) issues.