Do Straight Men Let Another Man Give Them Blowjobs?

[Remington]

There is a difference between repulsion and having a preference. Being repulsed by homosexual sex is termed homophobia. If one actively works against having same-sex relations solely based on being repulsed by it, than you are homophobic and have no idea of your preferences on the subject whatsoever.
One can have multiple reasons to eat something, extending beyond one's preference for it. What if someone bought m egg whites and I didn't want to waste them? What if I were starving and everything else looked even worse than the egg whites?
Sexual identity is how we determine who we are attracted toward and why. Sexual identity represents our the psychological side of our sexualities. Sexual practices is simply the record of who we have sex with, how much, etc. It does not necessarily reflect ones sexual identity because one's sexual identity is always fluctuating, changing and evolving, just like ones overall identity (roughly represented by your name). Sexual practices also grow and shift overtime. There are separate categories with overlap. It is very important to remember that they are separate.
Have sex with who you want, when you want, how you want and it doesn't mean squat in terms of your sexual identity without any background story. It is incomplete.
Sexuality is immensely more complex than what you make it out to be. You are severely restricting yourself when it comes to your sexual identity and you sexual practices, and it is simply sad. I pity you.

Heh, now people are homophobic because they have no interest in something?

Not only did you miss my entire point. You still didn't answer my final question, and not only denied that completely gay/straight people exist, but said it's wrong, which is highly disrespectful.

Simply put, I among many others, do not find the same gender sexy. We're not "restricting" ourselves, we don't have any desire to do anything sexually with them. Never have, and probably never will. We like only opposite gender. Hence why people like myself can truthfully identify as "heterosexual". It's quite apparent that everyone isn't this way, just like everyone isn't gay or bisexual, like yourself. This should be simple to understand.

And being repulsed by something, doesn't signify bigotry. Some people, have no interest in participating, viewing certain acts, or in certain cases find the act disgusting. Hell, some people actually try the act, then get repulsed by it. Whatever the acts may be. Doesn't have to be sexual. (I.E smoking) That does not mean that one hates or views that person that engages in such acts as a lower being.

And I like I said before, with your piss-poor egg to person example. It's entirely one's decision to do whatever with that egg. Some people will interact with it, in some way. Others won't. For whatever the reason.

And, like I said, with extremes, it's not complex, it's pretty black/white. Either you are or you aren't. Most people admittedly are shades of gray.

And lastly, if you're not into this label BS, don't bother with it.

No need to waste your energy pitying me, or people like me. Concentrate on your own self.

P.S. Although a few are repulsed by gayness, I am not. I'm completely indifferent to it.

Just people would get out of denial, stop lying to themselves, and be comfortable with the truth of who they really are.

 

[713772]

i have a question though i know im reading all these comments but i need advice on this whole thing im a female so my boyfriend he got head from a guy he met off craigslist while we were broken up and i had no idea he had any interest in men. and then while we were dating he put a post up to get fucked or get a bj from a guy but he says hes not attracted to guys should i be worried that he is serectly gay and doesnt wanna come out. ihe tells me not to worry that hes not gay and he doesnt liek hooking up with guys but after the facct he still posted another ad to do stuff with a guy? should i be worried or is it just something some guys go through where they want to expierment but really arent gay in any sort of way. i just dont want to marry him and then 5 years down the road he leaves me for a guy?

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

Second, sexual practices is what defines sexual identity. They go hand and hand.

Bullshit, sexuality is the consequence of a whole range of factors, and by your standard celibates and virgins have no sexuality. That's demonstrably not the case.

Heh, now people are homophobic because they have no interest in something?

No, and that's exactly what Smaccoms did not say. He pointed out the difference between not being interested in something and being repulsed by something. You're either deliberately conflating the two in order to twist Smaccoms' words or you're too dense to have understood what he was saying. Which is it?


I'm Gay, I'm not repulsed by heterosexual sex, and have had sex with women on one or two very blue moons. By your definition I'm bisexual. But I can 100% assure you I'm not.

Now you can continue to label me and everyone else whatever you like, but what you think about other people's sexuality is pretty meaningless frankly.

 

[Smaccoms]

So your saying it is wrong to only be sexually attracted to the opposite sex? Because if so, that is terribly wrong on your part.

Some men, like me, are not repulsed by gays. Sure I don't want to see gay porn, but that is because it has no significant value to me. It does not mean that I am homophobic. I do believe that when a man is sexually attracted to another man, then he is "gay". I feel as though some gay men use the whole, "I'm going to fuck a straight guy" thing as a boost. If a "straight" male let's another male suck his penis, then they are both "gay". It's not just because of what society labels men who do that. It is because, while not proven, it is ideal that male-female relationships are meant to be the norm. I'm not taking nothing away from gay relationships because I feel as though they are just as valid as a hetero relationship.

Honestly, I just wish that closeted gay men and women would just come to terms with their sexuality and not lie to themselves. If you like the same sex, you don't have to be ashamed, just embrace it. But don't go around saying your "straight" and getting involved with actual gay men who have come to terms with their sexuality.

That's all. I hope I haven't offended anyone.

Part of my point is there this is a difference between being repulsed by same-sex (or opposite sex) relations, are not being attracted to it (neutral). If you identitdy as a straight man, and are atively repulsed by gay sex, then the focus there is on gay sex. If you are neutral to and it doesn't really spark your interest, then the focus is NOT on gay sex, and thus on STRAIGHT sex. That's perfectly healthy.
You are not homophobic, you just haven't put a lot of thought into gay sex because it is not of particular interest to you. That's fine. You are probably mostly straight then, and I can accept that.
In high school, I was actively repulsed by opposite sex relations. I looked at a woman and thought "Gross!". It was this which solidified my sexuality to me, the "I'm totally gay" attitude. I am attracted to men, they are fuckin hot. It took me awhile however, yo realize that my active repulsion to women kept the focus on women instead of men, which is not "totally gay". As I relaxed (in college) and attempted to strip away the fear of letting myself find women attractive, I did. I would now love to sex with a women, and would thoroughly enjoy it without any regrets or repulsive thoughts. If I didn't find them attractive, then my attitude now would be neutral to it. Sex with women wouldn't catch my interest at all, and I would remain "mostly gay" in my sexual identity. That is not the case however.
This is why I say being actively repulsed by same-sex or opposite sex relations is irrational fear. It stems from our need to fit the bill, to be what we are expected to be. That is the philosophy of the sexual binary, which puts unrealistic expectations over the general public (in my belief). This is what I was trying to describe before. I might not have phrased it precisely well, but there it is...

 

[Smaccoms]

Bullshit, sexuality is the consequence of a whole range of factors, and by your standard celibates and virgins have no sexuality. That's demonstrably not the case.






No, and that's exactly what Smaccoms did not say. He pointed out the difference between not being interested in something and being repulsed by something. You're either deliberately conflating the two in order to twist Smaccoms' words or you're too dense to have understood what he was saying. Which is it?


I'm Gay, I'm not repulsed by heterosexual sex, and have sex with women on one or two very blue moons. By your definition I'm bisexual. But I can 100% assure you, I'm not.

Now you can continue to label me and everyone else whatever you like, but what you think about other people's sexuality is pretty meaningless frankly.

Wow, thanks Hilaire. You're totally awesome, you nailed it directly on the head! I can totally understand what you're saying about your sexuality, it makes perfect sense!

Ha, I love your first paragraph here, I forgot about that argument. There is also the case of the mid fifties divorced man with kids who identifies as gay despite never actually having had gay sex before. Yay...according to remmington he's straight...

P.S. Your penis is so sexxay!!! :tongue:

 

[chadstallion]

Please answer me on how a man, getting turned on by another man, then doing anything sexual with a man is even remotely a "straight" act.

Not saying that there's anything wrong with it, but that's pretty gay.

in my case; I have plenty of straight porn on the video player; the guy comes in, sits down, and never really has to pay any attention to what is going on in his lap. Its easier/safer than a glory hole, which accomplishes the same result.

 

[uncut_1234]

as much as bisexual/gay men like to debate this topic
there is absolutely no possible way, by definition, that a man letting an other man suck his dick , can be considered 100% straight. that is called bisexual. you are letting a man put your penis inside his mouth, that clearly means you are interested in the same sex, i cant understand how this topic gets debated so much.. its pretty black and white..
girl sucking guys dick - guy is straight
guy sucking guys dick - guy is bi (at the least)
not rocket science

 

[TomCat84]

It continues to amaze me- the lengths some people will go so they don't have to classify anything they do as even remotely gay. My god.

 

[Smaccoms]

in my case; I have plenty of straight porn on the video player; the guy comes in, sits down, and never really has to pay any attention to what is going on in his lap. Its easier/safer than a glory hole, which accomplishes the same result.

exactly. Blow Jobs are essentially an extension of self-masterbation. Does it matter whos doing the jerking, or the blowing? If both parties are enjoying themselves then have at it! Just remember,
"If pleases my dick, then clearly it pleases me!"

What a fabulous phrase...

P.S. If you are ever in dire need of a blow job, you know where to find me! :BIGGRIN:

 

[Endued]

It continues to amaze me- the lengths some people will go so they don't have to classify anything they do as even remotely gay. My god.

I know, it's like they think they're going to get kicked out of a club or something.

 

[chadstallion]

. you are letting a man put your penis inside his mouth, that clearly means you are interested in the same sex,QUOTE]

ok, so using the glory hole example; how does the suckee know that the sucker is male; it could be a female? so his sexual orientation is dependent on the anonomyous gender of the blower?

 

[Smaccoms]

Endued, you have a beautiful penis.

 

[Smaccoms]

. you are letting a man put your penis inside his mouth, that clearly means you are interested in the same sex,QUOTE]

ok, so using the glory hole example; how does the suckee know that the sucker is male; it could be a female? so his sexual orientation is dependent on the anonomyous gender of the blower?

they does this is gay porn all the time.
"LOOK, STRAIGHT GUY GETTING A GAY BLOW JOB THROUGH A GLORY HOLE--HE HAS NO IDEA!!!"

Obviously he's enjoying it, what guy hates getting a blow job? Whoever is giving it can be very insignificant, ESPECIALLY in the case of the chadstallion's example.

 

[uncut_1234]

. you are letting a man put your penis inside his mouth, that clearly means you are interested in the same sex,QUOTE]

ok, so using the glory hole example; how does the suckee know that the sucker is male; it could be a female? so his sexual orientation is dependent on the anonomyous gender of the blower?

anyone putting their dick in a gloryhole should know that 99.9% chance its a dude on the other end
most realistically straight guys would never even do it, unless they knew 100% it was a girl on the other side , if somsone is STRAIGHT , they arnt going to stick their penis through a hole in the wall to be sucked by someone whos gender they arnt even sure of... why is that so hard to understand?
if youre bisexual, then yea, stick it in and have fun.. but if someone is straight and there is a possibility its a dude on the other end, they obviously wouldnt be doing it.. not rocket science, why is this concept so hard for bisexual and gay men to understand
?

 

[chadstallion]

anyone putting their dick in a gloryhole should know that 99.9% chance its a dude on the other end
most realistically straight guys would never even do it, unless they knew 100% it was a girl on the other side , if somsone is STRAIGHT , they arnt going to stick their penis through a hole in the wall to be sucked by someone whos gender they arnt even sure of... why is that so hard to understand?
if youre bisexual, then yea, stick it in and have fun.. but if someone is straight and there is a possibility its a dude on the other end, they obviously wouldnt be doing it.. not rocket science, why is this concept so hard for bisexual and gay men to understand
?

it's not; its just fun to tease a youngun' on here :biggrin1:

 

[Smaccoms]

anyone putting their dick in a gloryhole should know that 99.9% chance its a dude on the other end
most realistically straight guys would never even do it, unless they knew 100% it was a girl on the other side , if somsone is STRAIGHT , they arnt going to stick their penis through a hole in the wall to be sucked by someone whos gender they arnt even sure of... why is that so hard to understand?
if youre bisexual, then yea, stick it in and have fun.. but if someone is straight and there is a possibility its a dude on the other end, they obviously wouldnt be doing it.. not rocket science, why is this concept so hard for bisexual and gay men to understand
?

Your argument mimics your profile picture--obnoxious and stupid.

 

[uncut_1234]

they does this is gay porn all the time.
"LOOK, STRAIGHT GUY GETTING A GAY BLOW JOB THROUGH A GLORY HOLE--HE HAS NO IDEA!!!"

Obviously he's enjoying it, what guy hates getting a blow job? Whoever is giving it can be very insignificant, ESPECIALLY in the case of the chadstallion's example.

i swear the collective IQ on these forums is well below the national average
its scary the lack of reasoning so many posters show..

so because in GAY PORN they have "straight" (obviously not straight..) guys getting blowjobs from men, that means it happens in the real world too?
do you know the definition of gay,bisexual and straight ?

how can the person sucking your dick be insignificant !? if you are straight you want a WOMAN sucking youre dick.. if youre bisexual, you dont care if its either.. if youre gay, you want a man sucking your dick.. basic shit here.. not rocket science

 

[Smaccoms]

ps my last post is directly at uncut...

 

[uncut_1234]

Your argument mimics your profile picture--obnoxious and stupid.

you appear to be lost and confused within your thoughts in yours, ditto

same old shit on this site, you have to tip toe around when you see someones profile with any percent as gay.. i forget that unwritten rule
you can insult straight guys all you want, but we have to mind our p's and q's so as not to offend you.
you clearly dont understand basic terms like straight/gay/bi... its crazy

if you are a guy, and you are enjoying a blowjob from another guy, you are AT THE VERY LEAST BISEXUAL
not
fucking
rocket
science

 

[MemphisMan45]

Please answer me on how a man, getting turned on by another man, then doing anything sexual with a man is even remotely a "straight" act.

Not saying that there's anything wrong with it, but that's pretty gay.

Do you ever jack off? If so, I am betting your hand is a male hand. By your logic you are gay.

Better change your percentages on here!