Do the majority of men like to talk about sex to their partners

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  1. MTHgasm

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    ?I was wondering how many men are stupid....
     
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    what do u mean?
     
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    Are saying it is stupid to talk to your partner about sex?
     
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    it's been too long without a partner!
     
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    Most girls I've dated have been pretty open to talking about sex. We've talked about what we want to try out in the future. It's led to some pretty hot stuff.
     
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    I do enjoy it and although my wife is very open it's not a topic she will usualy engage in
     
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    my patener and i talk about sex alot usally about things wed like to try usally leads to some hot sex
     
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    I actually meant from a women's perspective on men's inability to communicate what they want from the woman. But I guess an inability to communicate would just mean he wants her to lie there.
     
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    i find it utterly crucial and essential to talk about sex with my partner. whether it's just playful dirty talk or open and honest communication about our likes and dislikes, if you can't talk about sex then the sex is going to be lacking and the relationship is going to be lacking...
     
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    I've never met a man who had that problem.
    Then again I am so phenomenal sexually it's not like they need to talk at all. :flirt: :cool:
     
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    For the sex to be good, you have to let your partner know what you like and what you don't like. Communication is key, but it's all in the way you communicate. Postive reinforcement! "I like that", "keep doing that!", or "let's try something else" if you don't. It's okay to say let's try a better way. I have actually taken someone's hand and moved it to the right spot to show him what a clitoris is. If someone doesn't want to please their partner, to me it is a sign of selfishness. It is easy for someone to get their feeling hurt or be sensitive if they think you are criticizing, so be careful how you say it. Saying "my last girlfriend was so much better at that" is a sure fire way to cut yourself off!
     
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    The problem is that the best time to try to communicate is when having sex.
    And the only words in my vocabulary seem to be:
    Ugh, Ahh, Oowow, Mmmnn, Uh-Uh-Uh-Uh.......
     
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    Communication is an absolute necessity. This includes verbal feedback in the moment - but also ongoing chats about our desires, likes, dislikes, needs, and fantasies.
     
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    I find that most men communicate about sex very clearly. The one comment I receive the most of from men is that it's rare to find a woman like myself that actually tells them what to do, what is good, what isn't and what to keep doing.

    Most men say women are shy about this and don't speak up.
     
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    I find this question kind of silly. If you are having sex with someone, you have to talk about it eventually, correct? I have always felt that open, honest communication leads to better fucking.

    A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That's why they don't get what they want.
     
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    Nth'ing giozam. Sex only gets better w/ communication. Ive never had sex get worse after vocalizing a few delicious suggestions.
     
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    i know! i know!
     
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    This why the question is not silly. I red an article that women talk about sex except for masturbation a lot more with each other and men talk to men about it much less.
     
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    Actually you just proved your point in your circumstance, since you had time to compose a question, twice, and failed miserably both times.
     
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    I've not found this to be the case, though women tend to discuss the mechanics of sex and men tend to discuss how it felt more than what they did to get there.

    As far as discussing sex between partners goes: there tends to be a lot of discussion at the beginning and it tapers off quickly unless there's a problem.
     
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