Do Women Compare?

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  1. sandiasky9

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    Do women compare lovers size or just enjoy what current lover has?

    What goes through thoughts regarding new lover if he is nice but average when prior lover was hugely endowed... does she get disappointed, long for prior lover, or....?"
     
  2. EmJay

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    Depends on the person, what your "goal" is (1nstand or serious) towards the person you are sleeping with and what type of person you ( as in I) are yourself. If the sex was damn hot and he's supercute then my friends know about him ;-). its not about comparing I think, but about the memory of the sensation you had the last time. But not always does the guy need to be super hung to have great sex. You still need to know what to do with it ( and the other parts of your body ofcourse). If you are average, rock hard and know your stuff..then that is ok too..eeuh usually ;-) hahaha
     
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    funny this topic should come up.

    my answer has to be yes. my wife brought up the size of an ex of hers when we were dating; and i never ever asked her about past sexual experiences. she told me she had actually measured him at 10.5 inches. well, since she never measured me, i began to wonder. (i'm average) and that wondering led me to this web site.

    i still don't know if size was important to her. but the other day i overheard her talking to a g/f, this other girl was talking about how she met a huge guy while hottubbing. i teased my wife, and asked her if it was an ex of hers. she just laughed and said no. she then told me size wasn't that important. she had a funny smirk on her face, so i asked her if she was sure - she just continued to smile and walked away.

    i guess my point is, yes, i know from personal experience that they talk. and for me, it's a combination of being intimidated and turned on at the same time. the voyeur in me would still like to get a few martinis in her, and get her to spill the beans. am i the only husband that has had this experience?

    flyingtexasguy
     
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    thats just mean... I mean when I'm in a relationship, I never do/say anything to undermine who I am with. That passive aggresive stuff that she's doing to you is outta line.

    I mean, say i dig big boobs, but I'm dating an A cup girl. The last thing i would do is bring up some DD that I dated. What is the point?
     
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    I have many female friends, and I also worked for years in catering (hospitality) while I was a student, where a high proportion of my co-workers were young females.
    In my experience, there certainly is a difference between the sexes when it comes to relating sexual adventures. What really shocked me initially when overhearing conversations between women is that they are considerably more graphic regarding the anatomy of their new bedfellows than are men speaking between themselves. Men will usually use a benchmark of 'did you or didn't you' as in:
    'I finally got Janet to come home with me last night..'
    'Really? Did you get to, you know...' [wink] or: did you shag/fuck/get her into bed?' Insert common vernacular for sexual intercourse here.
    'Yes I did!' [wink]
    'Cool! Good man.' etc followed by general back-slapping.
    In other words, the benchmark is task-orientated, i.e. whether or not sexual intercourse was achieved. If it was not, then another benchmark is used, for example, 'no, but I did get a blowjob.' Anatomical references are extremely rare: The example conversation related above will never develop into 'so, did she have a tight pussy?'

    For women it will almost always be relational, based on size.
    'I've started seeing Jack, the barman...'
    'Has he got a big cock?' will almost always be the very next question, I kid you not. They will giggle amongst themselves, but no-one will be shocked, notably the female relating the experience. Indeed, she will answer either verbally or via a telling smile or a shrug that will leave no doubt whatsoever in the minds of her friends as to the male's anatomical statistics. In other words, the benchmark here is not task based, but purely size based, it's that graphic. I have heard many many similar conversations over the years, and they always tend to follow these dynamics.
     
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    This is a more recent development. In the late 70s/early 80s, my wife told me about times she tried to bring up the subject of penis size with other women, and how shocked they were and how they refused to discuss it. You would meet an occasional size queen (I hate that term, but it's the best to describe the particular women I am thinking back to) who would come right out and say she preferred big penises, but that was rare.

    She went a step further in the mid-80s when in art school at a major university, doing explicit paintings of male subjects with (HUGE) erections, etc. Her gay professor loved them, the men in the class were receptive to them, but the women in the class just climbed all over her for doing "pornography." (which it was NOT--it was truly fine art) The women were horrified and accused her of "being just as bad as men" by "objectifying" them. I think you are right that this is more something women tend to do to men, and that's probably why there was so much "anti-porn" among women for awhile--they were trying to deny it because it bothered them to be confronted with their OWN tendency toward objectification (in a degrading way).

    Last night we were at a party with people we had never met before, an office party for a large corporation, and several women began joking about "Mr. Big" from "Sex in the City," saying they wished he was their partner instead of their husbands... I found this to mark a new level in blatancy about the subject among women. These were women in their 40s-50s, and it was all very jocular, but I had never met them before so it seemed very wierd that they would "go there".
     
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    Some kind of comparison usually went on in my head, but bigger wasn't always necessarily better.

    I rarely talked about the size of guys' dicks to my girlfriends, because I kind of think it's uncool.
     
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    I know first hand they do, because almost every time the size of my cock has come up with sexual partners it includes to a comparison of some sort. They wouldn't say "God, you are so much bigger than my ex" if they hadn't thought about it.

    Realize too that they don't just compare you to people. My last girlfriend told me I was "like fucking a fence post." When I thought about it, I really didn't want to know how she had the experience to make the comparison. :wink:
     
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    My girlfriend asked 'how big is it' (when I'd already told her) immediately after sex (she came, then I came). I said 8 Inches. She said 'is that it?'

    She said it feels bigger than Tom's who is her ex and apparently the same size as me. Maybe she means the girth though, I'm not sure. So she was probably comparing sizes even then.

    I don't know whether it was a compliment (that I 'feel' bigger than I am) or an insult that she was thinking of other people's penises :tongue:

    I think she said she told other people too. I don't mind as long as its not derog.

    Its rare that a girl will talk about it though. In my experience. Or maybe they do and you just never find out...hehe. I know my family talk about my size but thats just weird.
     
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    It's a common misconception among casual or non-viewers of the show that Chris Noth's character (Mr Big) is so nicknamed due to the size of his penis. Rather, the nickname is a reference to his stature in the Manhattan business world (as in "he's a big shot"). There certainly were many penis size references in SATC, but Mr Big wasn't one of them.

    And none of this detracts from the validity of the remainder of your post - I agree that women are much more open about penis size now than they used to be.
     
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    It could be, too, that you have 8 inches and he told her had had 8 inches. Could be two completely different things.
     
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    It depends upon the situation and the context. In nudist, particularly nudist/swinging situations where women talk about men's organs the way they exchange recipes, it is more common for them to ask one another the question after warming up to couple. I know my wife has handled the "gawd how big does it get" question from a wide range of nudist women.

    But the "women compare" question can also be used as psychological warfare by women to keep boyfriends and husbands on the defensive. Even here at LPSG.ORG there are threads in which guys are in a horrific panic because, "she told me her ex was HUGE."
     
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    Having looked through the galleries I'd have thought most guys on this site wouldn't worry too much about comparisons being made. That being said, I think it's really rude to do it openly with the guy if he doesn't measure up with an ex.
     
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    I don't worry about comparisons being made. I look forward to it.
     
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    When I saw the title of the thread, I thought it was about something else:eek: .
     
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    Not sure, but generally when comparing actual WOMEN, females do more beating than the males do beating off.
     
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    JACKPOT!!!!

    Going after the area of a man's ego that is most fragile is THE primary weapon women use to corral and "break" a man (that doesnt relate to the material world). She knows that if he is a keeper, then in order to keep him, she needs to intsill the desire for him to constantly improve himself FOR HER. With that being said, with many women there will always be:

    "Oh Honey...there was this ONE guy who was a 10 inches long... and came only on command... and his body was flawless...the orgasms he gave me nearly killed me! (She watches pain, misery, defeat, and despair sink into his mind while she tries not to laugh)

    ((There is a pause))

    "But don't worry baby! He was a...jerk...so don't worry about it!":tongue:

    She uses a man's inherent competitive nature against him, and he is now a puppet for her on a sexual level and his self-esteem is in the toilet.

    Men also will try to "break" a woman by going after her self image. "Your fat...you can't suck dick...your pussy is loose...etc"

    With that being said...man or woman...only true lowlife's will use this weapon. Bottom feeders who need to bring someone down so that they no longer have to look UP at people.

    ...OB
     
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    Love, in its purest form, has nothing to do with penis size.
    Or vaginal tightness, or breast size or anything of that nature.


    ~mUdre
     
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    Too many Hallmark cards for you, my man.
     
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    Typical Response....
     
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