Do women dominate sex in relationships? Do women have more access to sex and is sex more scarce for men?

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She is exaggerating for sure. Its rare for women to have quality sex that gets them off guarantee every single time. My current gf doesnt leave me because she says she doesnt want to go back to having mediocre sex ever again. She said she kept being disappointed with her ex partners because 1. They cum too fast 2 they cant hold their erection 3 they dont know how to thrust. My ex gfs would all say something similar as well.
 

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A woman who wants to get laid tonight can go into a popular bar, club, hangout and almost certainly hook up with someone 9 out of 10 times

A guy's chances in a similar situation are probably closer to 1 in 10.
 

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A woman who wants to get laid tonight can go into a popular bar, club, hangout and almost certainly hook up with someone 9 out of 10 times

A guy's chances in a similar situation are probably closer to 1 in 10.
Yeah that pretty much sums it up women control dating and sex more or less to a point.

Came across a woman’s post on a forum saying the same thing. She says sex is so easy to get for women that women take it for granted basically lol.

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I had a few women boast to me that women have unlimited access to sex and men don’t . She said she gets to choose the men she’s wants and men can’t choose they are selected.

Is sex more scare for men? Or is she exaggerating?
"Unlimited access" expresses it poorly but I assume you mean (or your female friends mean) greater opportunity for sexual partners. It stands to reason that women have greater opportunity for sexual partners because men are the sexual aggressors. However, that doesn't mean women act on those opportunities with as much frequency as they are presented. On the contrary, women are choosey and will pass on many more opportunities than offered. That doesn't necessarily mean sex is more scarce for men. Men simply approach more women and get shot down more in order to connect with a sexual partner. The more salient question is how do you make yourself more attractive to women as a sexual partner such that you decrease your chances of getting shot down.
 
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I was a man whore in my 20s and i always got a laugh when women tried to control me with sex, i had countless fuck buddies would would catch feeling then be like "we start dating seriously or no more sex" as if they were the only pussy i had access to, i'd walk and be fucking some other woman 30 minutes later.

Or the ones i really got a kick out of were the ones that thought exactly like you are talking about, they can get any man at any time they want, so you turn them down and it drives them nuts. I knew one, she was banging a buddy then found out through an ex i was big, she starts coming on to me but i wasn't having it and she would go even harder, finally one day she was at my place dropping something off i was horny and i decided to fuck her, she thought she had me hooked but soon found out she didn't and it would drive her nuts, i'd fuck her when i wanted to and that was that.

Once i figured out the angles and approaches that worked for me i never had issues getting laid.
 

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I was a man whore in my 20s and i always got a laugh when women tried to control me with sex, i had countless fuck buddies would would catch feeling then be like "we start dating seriously or no more sex" as if they were the only pussy i had access to, i'd walk and be fucking some other woman 30 minutes later.

Or the ones i really got a kick out of were the ones that thought exactly like you are talking about, they can get any man at any time they want, so you turn them down and it drives them nuts. I knew one, she was banging a buddy then found out through an ex i was big, she starts coming on to me but i wasn't having it and she would go even harder, finally one day she was at my place dropping something off i was horny and i decided to fuck her, she thought she had me hooked but soon found out she didn't and it would drive her nuts, i'd fuck her when i wanted to and that was that.

Once i figured out the angles and approaches that worked for me i never had issues getting laid.
More to my point about men being the sexual aggressor and women being in a position to pick and choose. Whereas a guy might humble-brag by characterizing himself as a "man whore," no female would ever seriously characterize herself as such and only to induce a laugh from girlfriends for saying something considered outrageous.
 

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It depends on what type of woman you are.

In general, it's easier to get propositioned as a woman.

Society is much harsher on you though.
Men get judged for intellectual capacities and achievements. As a woman it's your body that is up for scrutiny.

I am an average looking woman who doesn't look bad at all. I look pretty decent.
Despite being 38 I look closer to 30 than to 40.
I got lucky in the genetics department when it comes to boobs and hips too.
Yet, men judge me much harsher in the work space than they judge their fellow guys.

On one hand they behave protective when it comes to dangerous situations etc. and wanting to take as much stress off me as possible. On the other hand, my body is under scrutiny and my mind isn't taken seriously.

As a trans woman I can compare male and female treatment as I have received both types at different points in my life.

On top of that it depends what type of woman you are.
If men don't know you're a trans woman they are all over you. As soon as they get told their concern is what other people will think about their sexual orientation if they give in to sex with a trans woman.

Most straight guys are okay with it as long as nobody from their environment knows what type of woman you are.

So is access to sex easy as a woman?
Yes.
But access to meaningful relationships is more difficult on the other hand.
Most guys want fun but don't want to settle until later in life.

You always have to worry he is not emotionally faitful to you.

So there are 2 sides of the medal.
A good one and an ugly one.
 

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"Unlimited access" expresses it poorly but I assume you mean (or your female friends mean) greater opportunity for sexual partners. It stands to reason that women have greater opportunity for sexual partners because men are the sexual aggressors. However, that doesn't mean women act on those opportunities with as much frequency as they are presented. On the contrary, women are choosey and will pass on many more opportunities than offered. That doesn't necessarily mean sex is more scarce for men. Men simply approach more women and get shot down more in order to connect with a sexual partner. The more salient question is how do you make yourself more attractive to women as a sexual partner such that you decrease your chances of getting shot down

This. Yes she told me a woman turns down more sexual opportunities in her lifetime than a man’s actual sexual encounters in his lifetime many fold .

And no matter how attractive a man is a woman will always have more sexual opportunities.

But you’re right ; “how does a man make himself more attractive “ is key here.
 

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"Boast" is the key word there. Remember that "unlimited access to sex" does not equal unlimited access to the individual men she actually wants. "Unlimited" means she'll have to settle. She's not going to pull absolutely any guy she wants. Ask any woman and she'll tell you about the guy or guys she wanted but never got.

Now my boast. Sex is not more scarce for men who get chosen a lot. ;)

It's true that women select. It's also true that men can do what's required to get selected. :cool:

As always everyone has the right of refusal.
 

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"Boast" is the key word there. Remember that "unlimited access to sex" does not equal unlimited access to the individual men she actually wants. "Unlimited" means she'll have to settle. She's not going to pull absolutely any guy she wants. Ask any woman and she'll tell you about the guy or guys she wanted but never got.

Now my boast. Sex is not more scarce for men who get chosen a lot. ;)

It's true that women select. It's also true that men can do what's required to get selected. :cool:

As always everyone has the right of refusal.
This.
As a woman I can attest to that.
Sometimes there were men who I wanted but who were emotionally not available.
Same for my friends.

Men and women are individuals.
Not a homogenous substance that displays equal generic features.

Some men can have amazing success in love while some women can be very unfortunate and vice versa.

It has more to do with where you fall in terms of luck, attraction and looks than what gender you belong to.

It's an over-simplification that women have a monopoly on sex and choices.

That's only true on weird internet boards like 4-Chan and all those incel cesspools.
 

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I'm not sure about that. If you like pussy, 50 percent of the population has them. If you happen to have a size fetish and like 8 inch dicks, they are few and far between. I've got a lot of proof at this point that it is a serious advantage if I am going out just looking to get laid.
 

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Women hold all the cards...and they know it. It is true they make the 'selection' with whom they will sleep with. Yes, some men have an advantage: looks, charm, and money. That said, sometimes 'fate' has a lot to do with it: right time, right place, etc.
 

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Women hold all the cards...and they know it. It is true they make the 'selection' with whom they will sleep with. Yes, some men have an advantage: looks, charm, and money. That said, sometimes 'fate' has a lot to do with it: right time, right place, etc.
Yup that’s what they tell me.

Just look at open relationships where the woman has no issue attracting men but the husband can barely attract women ;he either gets lucky with a hook up here or there or he has to get escorts lol
 
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She is exaggerating for sure. Its rare for women to have quality sex that gets them off guarantee every single time. My current gf doesnt leave me because she says she doesnt want to go back to having mediocre sex ever again. She said she kept being disappointed with her ex partners because 1. They cum too fast 2 they cant hold their erection 3 they dont know how to thrust. My ex gfs would all say something similar as well.
My partner and I live the lifestyle and by far she complains about number one. I've seen it my self. She's giving a dude a handjob to get him hard to put on a condom and they cum. Or, she will start off squat riding and they are finishing off in a few minutes.

And the women are not absolved either. I've had a number "tap out" on me because they can't take a thick hard dick. No matter how much lube I used. I'm not fucking kidding, they just quit. It was so disappointing.
 

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Absolutely women have unlimited access to sex...so much so the only real pushback comes in the form of projecting "quality sex" as what women don't have unlimited access to.
The population of folks who complain they can't get a sufficiently decent high end bottled water only have the privilege to do so because they have unlimited access to water, in general.
And that's with consent involved...While laws and social convention are constantly finding ways to mitigate the consent men obtain to get sex, women damn near get a free license to violate sexual consent of men in a myriad of ways, whether it be little to no punishment for such violations, public forums by which to act upon these violations, and societal backing of the women "bold" enough to do so.
I know why it keeps getting downplayed, because it leads to uncomfortable and unflattering observations of accountability and personal choices of women, which tend not to be fun convos, and there are a lot of probable correlations between the sex (or sexual partners) they tend to seek, and the life consequences that stem from them....
 

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A woman who wants to get laid tonight can go into a popular bar, club, hangout and almost certainly hook up with someone 9 out of 10 times

A guy's chances in a similar situation are probably closer to 1 in 10.
Absolutely! Women play a mean game in the dating scene. While I have dated for a while and seen these things have gotten tired of the games that are played. Women like to be waited on and coddled which I have no problem with as long as there's some reciprocating. The same goes for the sexual aspect!
 
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