Do Women Even Seek Long Term/life Long Partners

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Many women I know basically have no interest in monogamous relationships long term. I am not saying there is anything wrong with that buy I am just curious on feed back on this.

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This is 100% what I'm looking for... however, I realize I'm probably going to kiss a lot of frogs while looking for my prince.

Smoochy, smooch, smooch.
 
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I have spent a good amount o time living my life various ways. Single n comfy while celibate, single n comfy while fuckin' a lot of ppl, in a relationship with multiple ppl at once, as well as monogamous.

For me, I think monogamous + long term commitment takes much more work an I would not be willing to do that much work with the majority of folk. I have been with my partner for closer to a decade than not an am only in my 30s. Everyone else was fine for a while, especially if I had other ppl I was involved with. None would have worked for what I have with my partner. Takes a special sort o person.
 

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I've been happily married for over a decade now and I have no wish to change, we're still very much in love and our personal relationship and sex life is solid and always on point.
We do also explore sex with other couples but only as a couple with couples apart from attending or hosting the odd party, even then we go as one, we work together very well in a lot of aspects in life.
 

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I spent nine years looking for this 20-year relationship I have right now. I have kissed a lot of frogs along the way. Some became princes, but they hopped away.

It's when I quit looking for frogs that I found my real prince.
 

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I spent nine years looking for this 20-year relationship I have right now. I have kissed a lot of frogs along the way. Some became princes, but they hopped away.

It's when I quit looking for frogs that I found my real prince.
Beautifully said.

also, I went hiking near silverthorne recently. At an area named Lilypad. I thought of you!
 

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When I'm alone, I don't look for longterm. I just look for sex.

As for monogamy, not my thing and I tell men I meet right from the beginning to avoid misunderstandings.

I'm in a longterm of the non monogamous type. He's not complaining.
 
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I have never sought out long term relationships. I have stumbled into a couple much to my surprise/delight/befuddlement.

If my current is no more? I can't see myself looking for another relationship beyond casual. Sex plus friendly companionship with honesty and respect being the only expectations.

I can't speak for other women. I don't know where the ladies in your orbit are at in their lives. Considering the behavior of too many of the modern Burgerland males? I understand not wanting to bind your life to them.
 
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I can't speak for other women. I don't know where the ladies in your orbit are at in their lives. Considering the behavior of too many of the modern Burgerland males? I understand not wanting to bind your life to them.
Truth! But I'm stlll looking.
 
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I think monogamy can be very fulfilling. I enjoy being close enough to share all my inner most desires and kinks and fulfilling each other’s fantasies. That being said...my BF seems to be going through ED I suspect due to some new meds (bipolar) and to say it’s been a challenge ...uh yah. When we first hooked up we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Now it’s literally weeks and then 1 quickie and I’m like .... sooo I’ve never in my life considered cheating but seriously masterbation can only satisfy for so long something’s gotta give.
 
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I think monogamy can be very fulfilling. I enjoy being close enough to share all my inner most desires and kinks and fulfilling each other’s fantasies. That being said...my BF seems to be going through ED I suspect due to some new meds (bipolar) and to say it’s been a challenge ...uh yah. When we first hooked up we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Now it’s literally weeks and then 1 quickie and I’m like .... sooo I’ve never in my life considered cheating but seriously masterbation can only satisfy for so long something’s gotta give.

Talk to him. Be kind, express ta needs and frustrations without assigning blame. Ask him how he's feeling as far as how the meds are working and the sexual side effects.

Have him talk to his Doctor. Even changing to a generic of the same medication can lessen certain side effects. Maybe, if available and budget permitting, he adds talk therapy to his treatment. Depression is a killer of libido even without meds.

In the mean time, if spirit is willing, there are heaps of other ways to get smexy and satisfied. Exploring other avenues and kinks might build connection and intimacy between you. Relationships can also be opened up as long as all parties are willing, honest, and respectful.

Cheating is never an option. The threat of cheating should never be used to manipulate a relationship. If ya willing to step out, ya must consider the possibility that you should leave. Face it, leaving or cheating is going to hurt ya manfriend. One is painful but ultimately for the best if the relationship can't be saved. The other will only further damage/hurt one of you. Even if ya never get caught, everything after is a lie.
 

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Talk to him. Be kind, express ta needs and frustrations without assigning blame. Ask him how he's feeling as far as how the meds are working and the sexual side effects.

Have him talk to his Doctor. Even changing to a generic of the same medication can lessen certain side effects. Maybe, if available and budget permitting, he adds talk therapy to his treatment. Depression is a killer of libido even without meds.

In the mean time, if spirit is willing, there are heaps of other ways to get smexy and satisfied. Exploring other avenues and kinks might build connection and intimacy between you. Relationships can also be opened up as long as all parties are willing, honest, and respectful.

Cheating is never an option. The threat of cheating should never be used to manipulate a relationship. If ya willing to step out, ya must consider the possibility that you should leave. Face it, leaving or cheating is going to hurt ya manfriend. One is painful but ultimately for the best if the relationship can't be saved. The other will only further damage/hurt one of you. Even if ya never get caught, everything after is a lie.

Wow thank you for response, this is new territory for me. It’s been difficult to not take it personally and feel like it’s something I can do something about, not being a man it’s hard to understand some of these things. On flip having struggled with depression myself I have always used sex as a mood booster which probably explains why I am hot
Talk to him. Be kind, express ta needs and frustrations without assigning blame. Ask him how he's feeling as far as how the meds are working and the sexual side effects.

Have him talk to his Doctor. Even changing to a generic of the same medication can lessen certain side effects. Maybe, if available and budget permitting, he adds talk therapy to his treatment. Depression is a killer of libido even without meds.

In the mean time, if spirit is willing, there are heaps of other ways to get smexy and satisfied. Exploring other avenues and kinks might build connection and intimacy between you. Relationships can also be opened up as long as all parties are willing, honest, and respectful.

Cheating is never an option. The threat of cheating should never be used to manipulate a relationship. If ya willing to step out, ya must consider the possibility that you should leave. Face it, leaving or cheating is going to hurt ya manfriend. One is painful but ultimately for the best if the relationship can't be saved. The other will only further damage/hurt one of you. Even if ya never get caught, everything after is a lie.

Yes I agree cheating is not the answer, just not sure what to do with all this pent up sexual frustration. I have tried talking to him about it and he gets defensive and uncomfortable and says he has too much on his mind and I need to just master bate like he does. I’ve given him mind blowing blowjobs hoping he might return the favor and nothing. I’ve dressed sexy, rubbed on him loved on him , constantly, but like you said I guess if he is struggling with depression and bipolar issues it’s a waste of time cause it doesn’t matter. My biggest issue right now really is not taking it personally cause I’m not gonna lie it’s a blow to your ego when you are constantly being rejected. Idk I think I might have some sex addiction issues myself maybe I need to address. Anyway thanks for the reply I appreciate the advice to hear from a mans perspective:)
 
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Wow thank you for response, this is new territory for me. It’s been difficult to not take it personally and feel like it’s something I can do something about, not being a man it’s hard to understand some of these things. On flip having struggled with depression myself I have always used sex as a mood booster which probably explains why I am hot


Yes I agree cheating is not the answer, just not sure what to do with all this pent up sexual frustration. I have tried talking to him about it and he gets defensive and uncomfortable and says he has too much on his mind and I need to just master bate like he does. I’ve given him mind blowing blowjobs hoping he might return the favor and nothing. I’ve dressed sexy, rubbed on him loved on him , constantly, but like you said I guess if he is struggling with depression and bipolar issues it’s a waste of time cause it doesn’t matter. My biggest issue right now really is not taking it personally cause I’m not gonna lie it’s a blow to your ego when you are constantly being rejected. Idk I think I might have some sex addiction issues myself maybe I need to address. Anyway thanks for the reply I appreciate the advice to hear from a mans perspective:)

Stripped down, this is a libido difference issue. Cause doesn’t matter in definition.
For treatment, yes, but when there are desire differences (and I’m lumping a “limp dick” In with difference for now) BOTH sides have to compromise.
If he’s getting off with oral, and not seeing to your needs, there is something selfish going on.
Maybe intentional, maybe not. You might be “wasting“ his one and done with the blow jobs, without being clear that you need some reciprocity, soon.

Be clear with your desires, be open to different ways to have them met. Put a BJ back as foreplay (no orgasm for him until after you have orgasmed at least once thrice), implement a she comes first policy, take turns getting the other off.
It will be tough if his meds affect desire as well as ability to get up. But, you know, I don’t always want to kneel on flagstone, but I’ll do it because there’s a mental/ emotional payoff. Lots of times, my head is barely in the game at the start. (Sure, I have times where I’m basically going over to rock his world, get off and leave, but that objectifying moms is just that. Plus he spoils it by cuddling. I’m trying to be a dude, here...;) )


Do address the addiction aspect, soon.