Do women/men feel pressure by the media?

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    I am a sociology and psychology geek and I am wondering something, do women feel pressure from the standards of the media? I am asking this because it seems like now a days a guy can't be average, especially in my generation. It seems like women or teenagers (18+) want a guy that is strong as a bull, has the chizzled body of a greek god statue and a dick big enough to feel like reverse child birth. And women can no longer be average either, they need to be thin, big breasts, pulmp ass and for some reason white women want to be dark by getting tans? And black women want to be light by getting skin bleach? Men are also going through the same thing, a man has to be lean and hung and I mean the type of hung that loks like someone shoved a coke bottle into their dick. Teenage boys are now dying from anirexia and are seeing urologists to talk about penis enlargment. In my opinion it seems like we are trying to fit the unreal world of the media.

    In my experience: my girlfriend and I have ALOT of sex ( I am suprised she isnt pregnant) and its good sex I make her cum she likes the way my dick feels and I like the way she feels. Now, she watches porn every once in a while and one day she wanted to try a position she saw. I watched the video and when I saw how this guys cock was built I couldn't believe my eyes. The women looked like she was having a leg shoved in her. So, me and my gf have sex it was great but she then told me she wishes I could be a little bigger more in girth. Now what I dont understand is that, sometimes during sex she will tell me to slow down or not go so deep because I am a bit big for her. But, she has also compared me to guys in the past who where alot bigger than me. And older.

    So I created a website (took it down three days ago) where it was a poll of what the new standards of what men and women want. I compared them to girls saying average is good and guys saying average is good and found something shocking (not really). OUT OF TEN THOUSAND RESULTS FROM MEN AND WOMEN. Only 34% of women said that they wouldn't mind a average guy and only 21% of guys said they wouldnt mind a average girl.

    41% of women said they wanted a guy that was 7 inches long and atleast 5 inches in girth.

    19% said they wanted a guy that was 8 inches long and atleast 5.5 inches girth.

    20% said they wanted a guy that was 9 inches long and atleast 6 inches in girth.

    10% said they wanted a guy that was 9+ inches and atleast 6.5 inches in girth.

    The rest were either undecided, didnt care or loved average. Many of those womens replies were along the lines of. "I want a huge one especially for a one night stand" "Small or average is boring" ETC.

    What a man wants in a woman:

    These results where so outlandish that it was disturbing, apparently average is ugly. It seems like men are looking for a super tight girl that looks like a porn star. I believe only 15% said they judge on personality.

    So my question is what kind of person do you want?

    For a small documentary look up, Extreme Male Beauty on google it shows how womens views are affecting mens heads. Also,there are millions of articles about how mens views are affecting womens heads.
     
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    started out strong...

    turned into a 'dick size' thread.

    not sure how to score you... you went from a strong silver to the blooper reel.
     
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    Your first mistake is believing the results of a non-scientific poll.
     
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    Well since this is LPSG I posted just the dick part unless you want me to post 57 pages on body image, breast size, muscle tone effects on the mind self esteem etc then I will. BUT the dick part was the smallest portion of the poll so I posted it on here...I mean the site is called Large Penis Support Group
     
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    what's the question?
     
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    It was "what kind of person do you want?"
     
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    Also, I did this for my college sociology class and my teacher was very impressed, it took my six months to do all of this. My teacher told me I could have gotten an A if I didnt have so many spelling mistakes. I can find the virtual copy of my paper and post it. If I still have it that is... :S
     
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    Nia - do you feel pressured to measure up to the media's expectations of femininity?

    expression of my boyspace is sort of a hodgepodge of men i've admired through out my life. collage of aspiration. still the goal is to present a very true-to-me picture of my own masculinity.

    as a transwoman have you become the woman you've always known yourself to be... or has your expression of self/femininity been altered to fit the ideal woman.. in order to pass.. or ease other folks in accepting you as a woman?
     
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    I am the woman I want to be my role models have been my mom, aunts, female cousins and grand mothers. I had a very strong relationship with the women in my family.
     
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    Sooooo... it's a dick size thread?
     
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    yeah.. and you posted in the Women's Issues forum. ya would have been better off leaving the large penis statistics. :smile:

    related - i'm in the rare 15%... least when it comes down to who gets to pet my panty hamster. i enjoy the oggling of eyecandy, cuz pretty is pretty... but pretty can be influenced, for good or for ew, by who a person is.

    if i like the you a person's physcial attractiveness increases.. if the you is an asshole no amount of pleasing packaging gonna make me buy.

    *ponders* what's pretty isn't always what is attractive. yep. true facts.

    how much sway does popular media have in the shaping of the women of ya family? guessing from what you've posted here ya womanfolk are more traditional/family values type.
     
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    But what is it you want in a man, what is your perfect man? My poll was based more on how the preception of body image of men and women are affecting one another. Such as men wanting a woman that looks like you Nia88 (good looking woman.) And how it can emotionally alter the way we feel about ourselves. In my paper I stated that the media is (in my opinion) only 40% of the problem and the 60% is the oppsite sex.

    Take a hydroxy vut commerical. A man may look at it and say, "if I look like that I can get that girl." and a woman may say, "if I look like that I can get that man." People who watch porn may say (men), "if my body looks like that and my penis as big as that I can get that type of girl." And women may think, "if I look like that girl, (big breast, butt whatever) then I can attract that type of man."

    Ya' see what I am trying to say?
     
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    how much sway does popular media have in the shaping of the women of ya family? guessing from what you've posted here ya womanfolk are more traditional/family values type.[/QUOTE]

    The women in my family watch Telenovelas for the passion, romance and the fashions. I guess we are influenced by the fashions.
     
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    2nd would be in assuming that most people actually know what those "x by x" numbers look and feel like in real life. I would seriously doubt that 20% of them would enjoy having to deal with a true 9x6 every night. I think they're going by internet/porn inches and you'd need to get an approximate equivalent of those to find their true preference (if they are being honest in the first place). Interesting regardless though.

    Crunch
     
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    my ideal man? hmm funny. dorky. curious. passionate. adventurous. mature enough to know himself. immature enough to be enthusiastic about frivolous stuffs.

    i'd like him to be kind. and fair.

    i'd like a man with odd little quirks. strange food combos he loves. a dude who can cook at least 4 dishes really well. and a willingness to try to cook food beyond his skill set.

    a dude into music. maybe he plays an instrument.. kinda cooler if he doesn't play all that well.

    i want him to have favorite books. favorite movies.

    physically... *ponders common ground* i seem to like manly dudes. i like fuzzy. i like body fat. i like salt/pepper hair. i like solid dudes. solidly in the otter family.

    i like lanky young menfolk. with floppy hair. crooked smiles. that janglebuzzrush of energy/urgency living just under their skin.

    the hydroxycut model, male or female have no appeal.
    touches bad buttons on many levels.
    something lacking when surface is soul focus.
    :frown:

    considering ya don't meet folks nude *well, not usually* genital arrangement isn't at the forefront of my concern
     
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    I want a hard working man, a man that is confident and macho, that wants to be the head of the household, has traditional family values
     
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    That is EXACTLY what I am trying to say, how the media is giving people a unrealistc view of what the ideal partner is and how it is effect many people. I mean if I was a woman ( I dont want to be) I sure as hell wouldnt want some guy whos dick feels like he is fisting me all the time. But I am curious as to why people are starting to think like that. I started to because of what my girlfriend said.
     
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    *pricks up ears*

    I can float on my back and crack crabs open for ya!! I'll have to work on the 'fuzzy' is all...

    :tongue:

    To the OP: Of course men and women feel pressure to conform to ideals touted by the media - I thought that was well established fact along with a certain pointy hatted gentleman being Catholic and ursine mammals defecating in primarily tree covered areas.
     
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    It's never been a competition with me. I guess I've always been a believer in karma, and that if I'm good then good stuff will happen to me. I just have to be me regardless of what society demands of me. That said, I like to look good. I keep myself in shape and pamper myself whenever I get a chance. But I've got no one to please except my husband and myself.
     
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