Taken within the context of not being personally specific and therefore a whopping generalisation, do you think there is a difference in the need for and response to affection based upon gender nature rather than nurture?
Since this is a broad sweeping generalization I will have to say yes. Many women seem to need more affection than men. I think this is due to nurture rather than nature.Taken within the context of not being personally specific and therefore a whopping generalisation, do you think there is a difference in the need for and response to affection based upon gender nature rather than nurture?
I'd like to make another generalization, if I may -- people with body and self esteem issues are less comfortable with being affectionate. Any thoughts?
No. Any difference is due to environment rather than genetics.
Re: Sun is over the yardarmSUN IS OVER THE YARDARM - "(time for happy hour to begin). This expression is thought to have its origins in an officers' custom aboard ships sailing in the north Atlantic. In those latitudes, the sun would rise above the upper yards - the horizontal spars mounted on the masts, from which squaresails were hung - around 11 a.m. Since this coincided with the forenoon 'stand easy,' officers would take advantage of the break to go below for their first tot of spirits for the day. The expression washed ashore where the sun appears over the figurative yardarm a bit later in the day, generally after 5 p.m., and the end of the workday."
Taken within the context of not being personally specific and therefore a whopping generalisation, do you think there is a difference in the need for and response to affection based upon gender nature rather than nurture?
A lot of women need to be reassured that the man loves them because they are insecure.
Grrr, where do you get these cockamamie ideas?!? Many of us are not insecure so much as flying blind. Most guys I have encountered hate pet names and don't do PDA so how the heck are we supposed to know you care or still care? I bet you are one of those guys that only shows 'affection' in the bedroom. Guess what? That's not enough. Women need more than that. My guy has a few pet names for me and I love it. :smile:
Isn't that what I just said? :tongue: \/I think many men want affection as much as women. It's just that some men have been conditioned to not want affection because they think it's unmanly.
And I'm almost certain it is nurture not nature. Men, generally, are less 'touchy feely', women more so - there are always exceptions. I think men need to hear that they are loved, to perceive that they are loved through gestures of consideration, because they receive less physical affection. I think women need more physical contact because they are accustomed to it (or it is the cultural norm and if they lack it they perceive the lack).
I am not so sure about that manly, I am currently dating a guy who to needs a lot of physical affection and comfort, he likes to be hugged, petted, kissed and made to feel secure. He's very confident and self-assured not to mention personally sucessful; he projects as very alpha to the outside world.
But when it's one to one, not exclusively in the bedroom, he is very touchy feely. I am the complete opposite but I have learned to enjoy giving him the affection he needs; for example I used to hate just holding hands with guys when out and about but he prefers to have an arm around me. I now find his open displays of affection very charming, enhancing his masculinity rather than detracting from it.
When a guy puts his arm around a woman in public, he is signaling to other males that he possesses her (that is, she is his). It's interesting that you see this as a sign of affection rather than ownership but it just goes to show the different interpretations that women put on things without going into gender differences.