D_Reuben Stallpisser
Experimental Member
If I may, I'd like to bullet point some of my thoughts, just to keep this post from being completely disjointed:
- I have to wonder how young you are. I find that it is common for younger people to be less forgiving in the physical appearance department. Age is the ultimate equalizer and we all go south eventually. I hope you never have to be on the receiving end of such severe judgment.
-Size does matter, but I do believe it is relative. While I do think all women (including myself) are fascinated by big cocks (hence, their face lighting up), there is a certain reality to the mechanics. I know for a fact that I can't take any bigger than 8x5 and I know I'm not alone. I've had enough sex partners to know that there are men with big cocks that couldn't use them if their life depended on it and there are men with 5 inchers that can fuck so well that women have to be peeled off the ceiling after the experience. Size (or lack thereof) will never be an excuse for being a lazy, inattentive lover and that will always be the deciding factor in the long run. So I'm sorry to say that having a big dick is not a fail safe in the bedroom or life in general.
-Finally, I applaud your honesty. I do believe that your attitude will change eventually, though. As we grow and change, so does our ideas about beauty. A breast cancer survivored scarred by her masectomy is just as beautiful as a woman with youthful, healthy breasts...maybe even more so. There's something to be said for battle scars.
I agree with most of what you said, but I'm going south myself. I'm 46. I'm not as attractive as I was when I was younger, and I'm aware of that. If I were single and shopping, my options would be more limited now. I know that there would be many women not attracted to me, and I accept that. It doesn't mean they're shallow, it just means they're not attracted.
I've been married for 20 years, and my wife's changes in appearance don't matter to me in the least. She is still as beautiful to me now as she was on our wedding day. That said, if something were to happen, I could not start a new relationship with someone I didn't find attractive. Now my definition of attractive has changed as the years have passed, but I still have standards. That may be shallow, but I bet you have standards too. You may think you don't, but if you think hard and really evaluate the kinds of people you have relationships with and the kind you don't, you'll see that you also cull people based on some measure of physical accceptability. If you don't, you are a very rare person indeed.