Do you announce your goals to people around you?

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I'd definitely keep those sorta things under my hat - less easy to get distracted and less outside pressure. It's usually time to go public when it starts becoming obvious to everybody what your plans are, ie: when you're almost there. :)

Otherwise - they start criticising cos it's taking you longer than they think it should, etc.

Yes and no. Big goals often require a lot of time and personal dedication/sacrifice - a diet means you can't always join friends and family for birthday cake ("Oh come on, one teeny slice won't hurt!"), and things like study, research, writing, gym training, running etc all take up loads of time, which can interrupt time spent with loved ones.

But yes - personally I'm the type to keep stuff under wraps until I've reached a milestone of some type.

-VernalTiger, who's currently procrastinating finishing the essay that's due tomorrow.
 

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I have always been one to keep my goals to myself. Interestingly though I am going through a period in my life that I may achieve a goal that I never considered. When it first presented itself my thoughts were "no I can't do this". After further discussions with a select few that understand the dynamics my outlook has changed.
 

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Oh, you nailed it -- the fence. Mmmm, so goals. I've learned to talk about my goals with people who I think are going to give me some feedback that I can A)trust, B)respect and C) know will be without some kind of negative throw back on themselves...like, if you say you're going to run in the next half marathon to a friend who keeps talking about running, but never does....I've kinda learned they can get kinda bitchy about themselves not doing it, and focus on downing your ambition. That kind of thing.

But, I do think goals are great. And having goals, mini goals I guess, for me, really works. Even if it's like, 'do the dishes' I feel like 'wow, I did that and that and that...might not have gotten to write next novel, but hey look at what I did!' :biggrin1:

lol That's my psychology in a nut shell. Choose things you can do, and feel successful at and feel good about you -- then push for those harder goals.
 

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I tend to stay quiet on both desires and achievements. If I announce and then it doesn't go well or as expected people are demented and won't ever forget. If I have a great accomplishment it isn't right to gloat especially when there are people that try much harder and don't have the success.. With both, I talk to a few friends and leave it at that. Occasionally though since I am human I will post about things on the Internet where it's a little more private since I don't tell most people what websites I visit and I never give my screen name on sites not even to my closest friends.
 

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Surface ones yes, tell anyone who is interested ha
More serious Goals, only to the trusted until they have happened
Has worked for me, saved much badgering of .. i thought you said you were going to......
fr inst
when planning several overseas trips, refrained from mentioning such, till all was booked and confirmed,then those who asked,was easy to give them the departure date
 

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Joll's question about why that ex of mine was so good at motivating me occupied my mind for a few days, which was really good. I wrote out a loooong post about me and why I believe what he said so strongly affected me, then realized it's length and deleted it because I figured that no one was probably that interested. :tongue:

dfellow, I love your attitude! I need to think like that all the time.

I have been impressed in my life by those friends who announced their ambitious plans decades ago, then made them happen. That says a lot about a person.

Sometimes a goal might be more easily attained by telling as many people as possible what you hope to accomplish, as long as your ego and focus is strong enough to withstand negative pressures. One friend of mine managed to make her dreams come true by talking about her goals all the time with everyone who would listen as she worked tirelessly towards attaining her goal. She blogged and Facebooked and tweeted. She kept everyone updated about the latest development, every step along the way. I think that not only provided her with constant encouragement, I don't believe she could have actually accomplished her dream if she had not done that. Being so open about every step along the way and including everyone who would listen was essential to making her dreams come true because she was able to network and meet people whom she would not have if she kept her goals private. Lots of people offered to help her, which they couldn't do if she wasn't an open book.

That is something to consider: No one can help you if no one knows that you could use their help.
 
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If they're serious goals, like "I need to find a better job" then I tend to keep them to myself because I don't want people to know if I've failed.
 

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Some of my goals are very personal and private and those I do not announce. I do not announce my successes or failures with them either.

I am sure it depends on the situation and the goals which have been set. My husband knows my goals and is always there to support/encourage me, and celebrate the successes.

Very rarely do I ever talk about goals to other people. (but that is just me.) I am much like Hoss, and by announcing goals, I have automatically put added pressure on myself. I don't see it as "motivation" but rather a sense of urgency and pressure/stress.
 
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