Do you attract your type?

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When I was younger and first came out, I was very "Don't judge him for looks, get to know him". Done with that crap. I let guys who I wasn't attracted to...disrespect me. It's a tricky situation. If they're insecure, they'll accuse you of things/gaslight, try to make you feel less than so you stay with them. I got over that and decided if I'm going to get done dirty by a guy, he at least needs to be worth an erection.

I personally like guys bigger than me with average meat. I'm short and on the average/leaner side. I only get skinny tall twinks with massive meat. And people seem to not realize since I'm short, average to most is big to me. I'm not remotely a size queen and refuse to end up in a nursing home in a diaper.

I want guys who are bulkier, beefier. And those guys..usually are not into other Black guys or are into transwomen/non-genderconforming, etc Or married. Or have a girlfriend. Or are so insecure they sabotage themselves and cut me off on some "they don't deserve me" nonsense.

I can confidently say if I like a guy's face/body he will find cis gay men repulsive and be only into crossdressers, transwomen, transmen or femboys or say if he can't find a white guy, then he'll settle for me. Overall I think I'm attracted because they look strong. When I see a guy leaner than me I feel like if I throw it back, I'll shatter his pelvis. Like he'd lose in a fight. Guys like Snoop Dogg can have an attractive personality but when they get naked it's like "Wow, the fattest thing on you is your D". And maybe that's hot to somebody else, but I want to be cuddled, held, protected. (Very heteronormative I know) I can't do that with Jack Skellington(yes yes body shaming, oh well.)


What about you? Do you attract who ya want?

If this guy that went viral from a Fenty Underwear ad messaged me, I'd be set for life lol
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No, I don't attract my type. I have a tendency to attract really high-strung types, which counterbalances my slow, chill, often quiet energy. I guess it's natural to attract what counterbalances you, but I'm tired from all the spazzy types i wind up in relationships with. I feel like Diane from Bojack Horseman and I keep winding up with Mr. Peanutbutter types.
 

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No. I dress somewhat formally (always wear at least as blazer) and have rather highbrow tastes. As such, I generally attract much older men. It took until I was in my 40s to meet someone my age that was interested … and I married him.
 
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When I was younger and first came out, I was very "Don't judge him for looks, get to know him". Done with that crap. I let guys who I wasn't attracted to...disrespect me. It's a tricky situation. If they're insecure, they'll accuse you of things/gaslight, try to make you feel less than so you stay with them. I got over that and decided if I'm going to get done dirty by a guy, he at least needs to be worth an erection.

I personally like guys bigger than me with average meat. I'm short and on the average/leaner side. I only get skinny tall twinks with massive meat. And people seem to not realize since I'm short, average to most is big to me. I'm not remotely a size queen and refuse to end up in a nursing home in a diaper.

I want guys who are bulkier, beefier. And those guys..usually are not into other Black guys or are into transwomen/non-genderconforming, etc Or married. Or have a girlfriend. Or are so insecure they sabotage themselves and cut me off on some "they don't deserve me" nonsense.

I can confidently say if I like a guy's face/body he will find cis gay men repulsive and be only into crossdressers, transwomen, transmen or femboys or say if he can't find a white guy, then he'll settle for me. Overall I think I'm attracted because they look strong. When I see a guy leaner than me I feel like if I throw it back, I'll shatter his pelvis. Like he'd lose in a fight. Guys like Snoop Dogg can have an attractive personality but when they get naked it's like "Wow, the fattest thing on you is your D". And maybe that's hot to somebody else, but I want to be cuddled, held, protected. (Very heteronormative I know) I can't do that with Jack Skellington(yes yes body shaming, oh well.)


What about you? Do you attract who ya want?

If this guy that went viral from a Fenty Underwear ad messaged me, I'd be set for life lol
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This is not a personal ad. Please don't message me saying you know a guy for me.
I usually do attract my type. But, I feel like I don’t have just one type. I have many. Also, I don’t really base my partner on looks. I like a smart man that makes me think. But, don’t get me wrong, a nice looking handsome man is a plus. That man in the Fenty ad is beautiful.
 
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I really don’t have a type .. I have the attitude — a cock is a cock…

But I noticed to be honest .. when thinking about it .. when I was younger I was with guys my age but attracted older guys more than anything … but as I got older I was still with guys my age but attracted younger ..

I don’t know why or how that is .. but things happen the way they do for a reason.. whether it’s good or bad
 
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Im lucky since I’m muscled and beefy with a big ass compared to my waist and my type is usually Arab, North African or black guys in general with huge cocks. I only find problems meeting guys because of where I am and the dating culture here
 

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Hey,
It’s my 1st time on the Forum and the 1st time I feel like there are guys out there that understand me! I’m a young black guy (Bottom) and I definitely don’t attract my type! I don’t go out much and don’t frequent Gyms… So it’s REALLY hard to even think I’ll ever bump into the kind of guys I fantasize about or would want to be in a relationship with!
I’m a short guy… 5’6. I work from home ….
So it’s very difficult to meet a single bigger older man …. I don’t think even of I went to the gym I’ll be their radar, and I’m way to shy to approach a man I find attractive, let alone let them know that I want to have the opportunity to go out on a date ! Or even less if the attraction is purely physical, that I want him to fuck my brains out! I’m just an average short young guy who like older bigger ( fit or stronger I guess…) man. I’m so jealous of the bottoms that I see out and about with the type of man that i drool over, and always wonder how they achieved that! I also live in Montréal so in winter I’m more shut in…. So that sexy daddy is not gonna magically appear on my door step! But I’m still hopeful to meet my guy and develop and relationship and hopefully get married and have a family!
Wow! I’ve never said that out loud (Or written it for that matter )
 

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I really don’t have a type .. I have the attitude — a cock is a cock…

But I noticed to be honest .. when thinking about it .. when I was younger I was with guys my age but attracted older guys more than anything … but as I got older I was still with guys my age but attracted younger ..

I don’t know why or how that is .. but things happen the way they do for a reason.. whether it’s good or bad
With me it was the sex and as long as the guy was presentable it was ok. When I was young I to tended to go looking for about my age but mostly ended up with older who presumed because of my age I was a bottom - I didn't complain and was happy to let them do me. As I got older I found they guys were now my age and then I hit a round figure I preferred my age plus it but was the youngsters I was servicing, the youngsters who wanted me. And guess what, they mainly want to be topped as they think that's the right thing, so, when offered the chance to be top - bingo, prize night.
As for attractions and types, the years pass and so do tastes but its always good not to have a type, to be experimental and push the boat out.
 

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Honestly depends on the day/ where I'm looking for me.
I'm mid 50's now - not generally attracted to much younger guys but there's always exceptions.

My ideal fella would be thick - bigger than me - nice belly, moderately hairy - muscled without being chiseled, pretty much the complete opposite of what I would have gone for when I was younger.

More of a bottom these days which is probably why I like the idea of a bigger bear type owning my arse - was a total top when I was young which is probably why I preferred a smoother tightly muscled guy when I was young.

I find that most of the types I really want are looking for smooth younger boys - which aint me - but I've also found I do really well most nights if I ever hit up the baths - in Melb at least - Sydney seems to have a whole different vibe goin on.

While I have a type - I am pretty flex - my type is what my idea of an ideal would be but - also still attracted to a bunch of other types but its just less generic and more based on that actual individual - given that's teh case, I can almost always pull a guy that I am very attracted to - for now.
 

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I wouldn’t say I have 1 specific type of guy I’m attracted to as I find lots of different things attractive, I probably could go on and on about different types of guys that do something for me. That being said, if I were given a chance to build a singular man I’d make him a bit taller than myself, stockier build with light eyes and blond hair, edgier style, some piercings, a bunch of tats, thin lips and older than me (boring ya). Have I seen that type of man in my life? Yes. Have any one of them ever shown interest in me? Hell no.

When I was younger it actually bothered me because it seemed every time I met somebody like that and I was super into them it never went farther than a kiss or something. To this day I don’t think I’ve ever “been” (sexually or romantically) with a blond guy. It’s not like it bothers me anymore, I just find it super strange? I like to chalk it down to lots of people around me look somewhat like me (brown hair, brown eyes, 6ft, some meat on my bones). Tbh reading it sounds like a coping mechanism hahaha. Oh well!

Maybe if I moved somewhere where there are less people that look like me I’d be more appealing to that type of guy. Nice to hear most people here go through a similar situation.
 

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Nope. I'm into someone who would be similar to me. In shape but not muscular. More nerdy than sporty. Guy next door/average type of person. But those tend to seek the opposite and are into big muscle guys in my experience...
 

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Generally I do. I go for guys who are fit and hung. Guys like that are attracted to other in shape guys and in my experience most of them love a fellow hung bro. They've got what I want, I've got what they want, so it makes for good attraction and chemistry.
 

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In a sense, yes, I attract my type - muscled, 30s or 40s. Can’t say it always works, though. Muscle doesn’t always go for muscle. Or else they are too obsessed and they want someone super big. Wish I was more into young guys - I get lots of attention there. I need to embrace this Daddy culture maybe, lol!