Do you believe you are Bi because of curiosity or lust?

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I have always been attracted to beautiful women and will always be on the hunt for the best package of finesse and grace..My affinity towards men happened because of curiosity .I was always curious about other male anatomy, and thoughts I guess because of the lack of male counterparts, brothers father figure friends.I have tried to have something with guys but find it such a turn off when I see the stereo typical signs of a lustful gay man. I still have a dream of just falling in love and for love sake not gender..I am confused can someone with an understanding that is greater than mine. Help define this issue?
 

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I don't have an understanding greater than yours but I do relate to your graduation to bisexuality via curiosity about the male anatomy. Like you, I grew up with very little influence from males so it was an area I wanted to understand.

Without ready access, it became a bit of an obsession. When I finally got round to engaging sexually with men, it was nowhere near as good as the fantasy and never has been. So I've been thinking recently that maybe my bisexuality is more curiosity about men than genuine attraction.

I don't know but what you said rang a bell with me.
 

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I feel the same man sex in the mind works the thought of a cut pale warm cock fills me with mmmmm until the deed is in motion... m the thought of strawberry ice-cream fills you with joy but you taste it and its the synthetic stuff!! life's tough
 

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I don't have an understanding greater than yours but I do relate to your graduation to bisexuality via curiosity about the male anatomy. Like you, I grew up with very little influence from males so it was an area I wanted to understand.

Without ready access, it became a bit of an obsession. When I finally got round to engaging sexually with men, it was nowhere near as good as the fantasy and never has been. So I've been thinking recently that maybe my bisexuality is more curiosity about men than genuine attraction.

I don't know but what you said rang a bell with me.

Do you think it is possible to fall in love with a man for just the sake of love ? I am a man true to the core, And cant settle for anything less (effeminate ways) I I have had alot of situations where friends and associates of mine not gay that I know of,but with girlfriends and kids have told me that they love me.And I know that they wanted more, But we stand stale mate because neither of us knows how to initiate a kiss,And I refuse to drop to my knees without some type of mutual understanding and compromise with another man.
 

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hi im bi I guess I love the passion love sex and closeness of a woman but the look and feel of a man oddly I some times I feel stronger for a guy and urge to have one naked other times it revolts me. I have often wondered if I could love a man but I don't think I could... strangely if I have been out for drink I pine to be gay its mad... its hard being bi really I would prefer one or the other.. it take a while to accept how you feel, at one time, I felt weird after having sex with a guy not so bad now. I still have strange feelings after sex guilty weird and think why did I do that such as life
 

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Do you think it is possible to fall in love with a man for just the sake of love ? I am a man true to the core, And cant settle for anything less (effeminate ways) I I have had alot of situations where friends and associates of mine not gay that I know of,but with girlfriends and kids have told me that they love me.And I know that they wanted more, But we stand stale mate because neither of us knows how to initiate a kiss,And I refuse to drop to my knees without some type of mutual understanding and compromise with another man.

I don't see why not and I don't think that love and sex are inextricably linked. But it depends on your individual feelings. You can love in many different ways and there certainly is a difference between platonic and sexual love.
 

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I don't see why not and I don't think that love and sex are inextricably linked. But it depends on your individual feelings. You can love in many different ways and there certainly is a difference between platonic and sexual love.

Thanks for the words of hope..
 

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Go read my post on "What Is Bisexuality". Maybe it will help.
It's neither lust or curiosity. It's hardwired in the DNA.

Curiosity and lust are tools that will only help you find what your hard wiring tells you that you like because it wants you to be happy.
 

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Wee bit confused as to your question/situation to be honest. Do you feel the possibility of loving men but without the sexual attraction?

Well no, I do want that experience: however Ive had experiences with a couple of friends of mine that have come close to something more but I couldnt properly read signals and our communication was off , We are intimate in others ways like drinking from same cups eating off same plates, picking splinters out of each others hands . but always mainly talking abouts girls,sports and such.all the signs were there to go for it but I didnt know how to make the moves. I mean eye to eye almost lip to lip, with all the appropriate signals but I didnt know how to go in without feeling that I was maybe wrong. My friend ending up getting upset with me, with out admitting what was the issue ,and called one of his girlfriends and asked could he fuck her and spent three days at her place. Leaving me confused and ashamed.I was satisfied and happy with just the bromance just out of respect for him.and didnt want to mess it up.I dont mind going all the way,as long as we can keep the brotherhood without all the feelings and loose emotions.
 

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I believe I am bisexual because I enjoy sexual escapades with both men and women. Not at all a matter of curiosity and not always lusting after an individual.