Do you call people out who say bad things about your ethnicity or others'?

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  1. Mem

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    Usually I don't. It's their problem not mine. If it were someone that I liked or felt a possible friendship with I would.

    I have had some people at work (customers, usually older folks) say things bad about my own ethnicity and I just ignore them.
     
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    no. if it is said in joking i don't care, and if it is said in earnest that person's views aren't worth caring about.
     
  3. No_Strings

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    Allow me to generalise about those who are prejudiced, but if someone's unintelligent enough to be discriminatory, they're probably not intelligent enough to understand my reasoning, explanation or reprimand of what they said and why it's deemed 'wrong'. :tongue:

    I'll call out someone if I know them, be it friend or acquaintance, simply because I care about them. (Or I'm reanalysing if I should continue to associate with them or not.)
     
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    On here, I do regularly. In person... if it was someone I didn't know very well... I might roll my eyes and say "are you serious?" or something like that, and then go on my way. If it's someone I know well, then I would question them more about it, possibly reaching a better mutual understanding or making the person think a little about what they were saying. If someone is being especially ignorant or insensitive, then I will say so. I even got into a pretty big fight with my sister over this at one point. I couldn't in good conscience let something like that go completely unchallenged.
     
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    Um, yeah. I'm not very good at not responding to that kind of thing.

    Responses range from, "Are you aware you sound like a bigot when you say that?", to, "You're a sad, pathetic person, get out of my sight".

    I'm harder on people I know well because I hold the people I like to a higher standard.
     
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    i dont like the N word cause i have friends who are black.i hear it and ignore it.other than that i tend to ignore comments and just smile and walk away and think LOSERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
     
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    I don't let things like that slide. . . ever. :smile: I call them on it, on the spot. Especially in the workplace; I have spent the last 15 years working in museums and education. These are people who are allegedly educated and perhaps even liberal! WTF?!? They have influence over the minds of children and young adults. I can't have that happening on my shift. They feel comfortable making disparaging remarks about Jews, Muslims, Puerto Ricans, Mexicans etc. in my presence as if I am supposed to agree. :mad::rolleyes: If you don't stop them it hapeens again and again. You gotta nip it in the bud. :cool:

    That's cause you're just a generic white guy!:rolleyes:
     
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    Same here. And same as Gillette and NJQT as well. (Or should that be GAQT, now??)

    Lots of bigoted people in the world. And purely ignorant ones.

    I recently questioned a White woman re: why she thought "red-faced" was an acceptable synonym for "embarrassed" for everyone. (She'd said "we're all red-faced" or something in a rather mixed group of people at an HBCU.) She was red-faced, but the melanin-enhanced people weren't.

    NCbear (who is learning how to be more assertive without stepping over into assholishness) :tongue::eek:
     
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    oh come on NC. Getting on someone's case for using "red-faced" as a synonym for embarrassed? I think that's a little bit of going overboard from the PC police. Maybe worth mentioning just to get people thinking... but I hope you didn't giver her a hard time about it.

    I was referring to stuff like my grandmother saying she didn't understand why the niggers at the grocery store didn't like her because she always treated them nicely. Or my sister sending out essays about how Hispanic immigrants are destroying "American" culture.
     
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    I call them on it. It's grotesque and I will say as much. Ages ago some girl at work used the phrase, "Jew you down," and I just snapped and ripped her a new one. All she said in return was, "I didn't know you were Jewish. What's your last name?" :banghead:

    I was shocked at my behavior but I felt it was the right thing to do and I didn't regret it.
     
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    I definitely say something. I'll just let them know that I feel they said something offensive/inappropriate.

    I notice in Miami, people will say things in Spanish about you, just assuming that you don't speak the language. I've been insulted that way many, many times over the years.
     
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    NIC, I started with "we WHO?" and went from there after she didn't get the point. I tend to think claims about "all of us" are automatically suspect.

    NCbear (who isn't nearly as PC as he may sound on this thread)
     
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    It is considered very unprofessional and rarely ever comes up in my work. If it does it is the death bell for any further business with that person or organization. People may give a person a strange look or pregnant pause but it is rarely challenged and confronted. The payback is just passively aggressively done with withholding promotions, blackballing, or a pink slip at the next round of layoffs. Being labeled a bigot or a racist is not good for your career or business.

    Of course racism is alive and well in the business world, no one can deny that but as almost everything in that world what is most important is not what you actually are but what you are perceived to be. Bigots if they are smart, are tight lipped about their racist views.
     
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    I don't call everyone out, we have to choose our battles and we also have to work out if it's true racism or just joking, I worked with a Scottish woman, I'm Welsh, we'd often snipe at one anothers country of origin in a bitchy way, but it wasn't racism, it was just friends joking and being able to have a laugh together.
     
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    I am hispanic/Jewish. I used to feel really uncomfortable as a kid when kids in my town looked at me different. I never found it in myself as a child to call anyone out. There were kids who weren't WASPY either, in my class, but I was unusually sensative.
    I noticed that as we grew up, there was a divide between the white najority and the other kids. This was the reason for the formation of underworld cliques and gangs.
    The mexican kids I had shared something in common with ended up going off in their little clique.
    I was alone.
    Not white.
    Not Mexican.
    Alone.
    It sucked at the time.
    Now I see that the grass is greener, and we are all similar. But at the same time, I am a little prejudiced, and prefer the company of NON-WASPY people, if I am to choose.
    Especially people of mixed backgrounds who didn't fit in anywhere growing up. They usually developed interesting personalities as a survival skill.
    For the longest time I found myself swayed towards groups of misfits because of the prejudice I felt as a kid.
    Funny thing is, I tell off color jokes about peoples backgrounds,
    I do it to push buttons. It is mostly sarcastic.
    But if I hear someone really saying shit, I'll call them out, If it is not going to get me killed.
     
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    Ahh ya fucking sheep shagger :biggrin1:

    English straight white guy here. No insults me about my nationality or religious views since I'm athetist. The most it comes down to is "Your country is full of drunken yobs". "I know, I'm one of them".
     
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    On a serious note, I could chose to take offence at that, I don't because I know it was intended as a joke but how many people chose to take offence just to make a point? Life's really too short to look for slights as if there was a prize in it.

    Now piss off, isn't it about time you cashed your giro and nipped down to Netto for some Special brew :)
     
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    Basically there are racist idiots everywhere so I don't give them the satisfaction of painting me the stereotype anger ridden black man. I usually laugh it off and tell them that 1830 called and wants it's antiquated view back.

    I do get on black people who call themselves derogatory things and then get pissed when others do it.
     
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    I generally do not let it go without comment, but my response depends upon the situation.

    Any bigotry is too much; letting it go without any comment at all is complicity.
     
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    I dont mind if they say I have black man's cock lol
     
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