Do You Choose A Masseur Or Masseuse

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If a straight man wants a massage (not a sports massage but a relaxing massage) would you prefer a male or female? Would you be more secure being naked in front of the masseur or masseuse? Would it enter your mind that masseur could be gay and admiring your body or would it not bother you? Would you feel more comfortable with a male as you would know getting aroused would not occur? If a masseur was rubbing close to your groin area would you feel anxious? How would you respond if he brushed his hand around that area several times - would you say or do something?
 

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Are you planning to loose your license on your firt day of work? Porn is not the real life if you start non consensual activities you can end with legal consequences no means no.

I have a lot of massage from several different people never got the chance to choose gender they were all woman. Never needed to get fully naked, they could move the boxer to reach a little bit or even with jeans on when it was an upper part massage only.

I old enough to take my choices so when I pay a massage I want I massage if I wanted a hooker I would have get one I never would use the leverage of the customer to push a situation over other I prefer people that chooses me freely for what I am.
 

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I've had several full body massages. I'm usually naked. They can put a sheet over me or they can put a towel over my butt. 9/10 times I'm going to be laying face down to start.

I'm paying for a full body massage. I'm a good tipper too. I've already discussed with them what I want. Depending on their rates I'm probably going for the 90 min session.

I had one guy give me a message that left me more tense when I left than when I arrived. Needless to say he did not get a tip. He kept going on about how tired he was. Worst massage I've had so far.
 

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This seems like a topic perfectly created for my weird ass. Nope. No. Neither. I have body issues when it comes to people i'm not in a relationship with. Those issues being noping the nope right out of nope or never needing to nope in this particular nope because the nope is large enough to be existential.

I'll admit though that i have imagined it. For sexual reasons of course. And only a woman was involved. Some of those massage videos on porn sites (men or women massaging women) are too good to pass up. But i would never. Neither with a man or a woman.

Probably should though. Since it would only be me making it sexual. And i probably need to work on that.
 

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Are you planning to loose your license on your firt day of work? Porn is not the real life if you start non consensual activities you can end with legal consequences no means no.

I have a lot of massage from several different people never got the chance to choose gender they were all woman. Never needed to get fully naked, they could move the boxer to reach a little bit or even with jeans on when it was an upper part massage only.

I old enough to take my choices so when I pay a massage I want I massage if I wanted a hooker I would have get one I never would use the leverage of the customer to push a situation over other I prefer people that chooses me freely for what I am.

I could not have said that better myself
 
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Massage isn't clinical- it's one person giving some form of nurturing touch to another- either in a sports arena, a professional office- or a hotel room. Even two straight men with no sexual attraction whatsoever are in the same model- one receiving care/therapy that has a purpose of physical benefits- relaxation, muscle or tissue improvement, posture/alignment and stretching, etc. This does not have to be a sexual exchange. Once you realize that, you can fully relax and put yourselves in the hands of the driver, and let him/her steer you towards healthytown.

Rather than giving an absolute no to either gender, I'd prefer to chose who to whom I will entrust the healing power of touch. I would prefer to choose the therapist, just like choosing a tattoo artist, or a doctor, or my repeat barber. And any therapist, male or female, who is experienced, isn't going to be offended by a bare butt- that comes with the territory. Instead, its about the creation of a safe place and safe space where the client can most benefit.

If I am the paying customer I would like to not be limited in the scope of the work. I have had massages before where the therapist will skip the glutes, for example, or see the lower abdomen and groin as the DMZ - which kills the energy flow, and can create a spot where toxins and stress will flow into the muscle pockets, rather than being driven down the limbs (arms and legs) and out of the body. Equally as bad is when the energy (or pain, or tightened muscles, or strain) is moving, but stops at a different place. Sadly, in western culture men have become socialized to all but eliminate male-male touch.

I would prefer the therapist to use his/her best skill- meaning not being made to feel uncomfortable about incidental touch, or unintentional arousal. I would prefer to not be draped with a towel or a sheet due to modesty or state statutes. And I don't want to incite some sort of incident by my body responding to increased blood flow in the tissues, which is the whole goal of the massage. Ground rules would normally be established before we start, but for my comfort I would usually prefer another man- because then I can fully relax and not be preoccupied by my body's natural function.

If some guys are just more comfortable with a masseuse, I think he should be encouraged to hire a woman, because he will be less stressed about being intimately touched by a man. And vice-versa. But moreover i'd say to remember that the hands on you are connected to another person who has feelings and should be treated with respect and consideration. Bottom line is that the massage is gonna be much more useful and fulfilling when skilled hands brings healing and relaxation, and the pent-up stress can be released.
 
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I only go to male therapists. First I hate draping. Second I know I'll get an erection and I'm far more comfortable having one on the table in a male environment.
 
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All but one of my massage therapists have been women, strictly by chance. In all cases I was naked under the sheet and they moved the sheet around as needed to massage the various areas of my body. None of them, male or female, ever "brushed his hand around that area several times". If any of them had I would have said something. These were all licensed Massage Therapists, working in legitimate spas, so I would expect nothing other than professional behavior.

I did get the same drop-dead-gorgeous therapist on 2 occasions. In the fantasy world of my imagination I would have loved the massage sessions turn into hot sex sessions, but she was a professional, very thorough, and extremely skilled massage therapist, and that was what I was there for.

Oh, and the one male massage therapist? He was good at his job as well, and never crossed any lines in any way.
 
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I've only had one a few times but I prefer female. I enjoy their presence and their hands. Plus, I can fantasize in my head of something sensual happening even though it won't lol.

However, I just remembered I once got a sensual massage on work travel once where she rubbed her whole naked oiled body on me and stroked me off but that's a different kind of massage ;)
 
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Most of my massages have been female. Had a couple from a male. In my experience the females tend to know where my muscles are all knotted up and have a gentle way of releasing that. The males were ok..very professional but i enjoy a womans softer touch. Far more relaxing.
 
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Definitely masseuse. I’m always naked.

There was one I saw a year ago at one of those “sensory deprivation” tank places, where you can get a massage before the float. She was in her late 30’s and wasn’t attractive in my book. But she put me into the most blissful state of zen when she was halfway done. She said I was in great shape, while she was working her way up my inner thigh...and got pretty damn close to the danger zone. I flipped over and she asked if I minded her doing that, and I told her that she could do anything she wanted.

I’ve also had hardcore sports massages with masseuses. When I was being treated for muscle strain, I’d end a massage feeling like I was beaten with a crowbar, yet relaxed at the same time.

Just my preference, regardless of whether she looks like Sofia Vergara or Large Marge.
 
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