i guess i am different than most in this culture then.
No, that's what I was saying: promotion of the perception of casual sex as natural and fun is the standard of Gay culture, at least on the face. Your view is in line with the norm.
But perceptions are just that. They are fundamentally subjective. And they vary considerably from individual to individual, especially when it relates to feelings and values. So this standard doesn't fit all Gay men well.
i love the idea of anonymous, random sex; to me it is natural and fun. Is that not what sex is?fun? i am not judging others and their POV at all, it is just my humble opinion.
It would have made more sense if you had instead said that casual sex is fun and feels natural
for you. The way you phrased your statement was as an objective description of the character of (casual) sex. I'm pretty sure that such claims could not be soundly defended. What is and is not fun is subjective and varies individually. I can't see how that could be an objective quality. As for whether casual sex is natural (for humans)... there are reasonable arguments to be made from both sides of that question. It may even be that it is natural in one sense and not in another. What I wouldn't bother contesting would be if you restricted your claim to it feeling natural for you.
I've never had anonymous sex. However I have reason to believe that I wouldn't holistically enjoy it. As far as I can tell, the casualness of sex extends along a spectrum, with anonymous sex on one end and loving sex with a vowed partner/spouse on the other and many shades of arrangements in between (non-anonymous hookups, fwb, sex in serial dating, etc). I've recently had a few experiences with hookups with acquaintances, and I've had conflicted feelings about these experiences, as I suspected I would. The circumstances I've wholly enjoyed sex have involved some intimacy and connection, so I infer from these experiences that those conditions are necessary for me to feel truly comfortable about having sex with someone.