Do you ever regret one night stands?

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I do.

I might have had one last night and I kind of feel about it. I met a girl on Craigslist last night (in the relationship side, not casual encounters) who wanted to come over to my place and watch a movie.

As soon as she got in my apartment, she wanted to fuck. Like right away we are making out. Eventually we landed in my bed and things kind of calmed down and we just talked but a lot of touching and kissing throughout. This led to me fingering her. She would also periodically grab my dick and stuff but I was doing a good job of holding out. But then at some point, she told me she had two kids. For some reason this turned me on so much cause I've never fucked a woman with kids so after holding out a couple hours I finally gave in and gave it to her.

But man do I regret it now. Why is once I get all the cum out of my system I finally start thinking clearly? I mean wtf?!? She is a nice girl and all, but she isn't what I'm looking for. I'm looking for a relationship and not one with a woman who has joint custody of her kids every other week. Plus she is 5 years my senior and frankly, I've dated my share of women who are older than me and I kind of want to try someone younger or more closer to me. I also want to see what else is out there and once you have sex with a girl, it develops this attachment that I don't quite want with someone I don't know very well.

Anyone else regret one night stands? Or do you just fuck and go with no remorse?
 

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I have no problem with one time hookups (or even fuck buds). We are hardwired for sex. Social guilt we have instilled in us from a very early age--the same that teaches us to be ashamed of our bodies--is what you are feeling. Once you realize the falsity of such "rules" you will enjoy the physical pleasure with others sex brings without the slightest hint of guilt. Just be sure to play safe.
 

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Haven't had that many ONSs but the two I regret are the ones where after the fact I found out that they were married! Made me feel awful. What can you do when they lie and deceive you? Haven't had a ONS since my 20s-30s and probably never again . . .
 

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When I was in my late teens, having a one night stand never interested me. Since then, I've allowed time to run its course and take advantages of situations as they arise. I'm glad I've had one night stands and have used safe sex every time. I wouldn't promote getting in the habit of doing it, but "everything in moderation" is a good rule of thumb.
 

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Isn't "Come over and watch a movie" code for sex?
Yes, it is. But I thought I could hold out. And I was able to for a while.

Plus, putting myself in that environment is more entertaining than doing nothing and trolling this site on a Friday night. Just thought I could keep it together, but my dick > my head
 

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Yes, it is. But I thought I could hold out. And I was able to for a while.

Plus, putting myself in that environment is more entertaining than doing nothing and trolling this site on a Friday night. Just thought I could keep it together, but my dick > my head

I know when I was younger ... I had a hard time saying no. I didn't have many ONS' but I had fuck buddies, even though what I really wanted was a relationship. In my mind, at that time, 19-23 years old, I figured any attention was better than no attention. I'm 28 now, and it's the complete opposite. I could have sex now if I wanted, but I choose not to. I want quality attention, not quantity. But, that's something I had to learn the hard way.
 

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How do you know she's looking for a relationship? Just like some guys, there are women out there just looking for a good fuck--and from what my single female friends tell me, getting a genuine good fuck isn't all that common. Perhaps, you weren't what she's looking for either--besides a pleasant roll in the hay.
 

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It gets boring after a while. I had a whole string of one night stands when I was younger. In fact my first time was a one night stand and I don't even remember her name. It's like, wake up, look beside you, "can I ring you a cab?". Sex is SOOOOO much better with someone you have feelings for. One night stands are great, but not a patch on sex in a relationship.
 

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How do you know she's looking for a relationship? Just like some guys, there are women out there just looking for a good fuck--and from what my single female friends tell me, getting a genuine good fuck isn't all that common. Perhaps, you weren't what she's looking for either--besides a pleasant roll in the hay.
No she made it clear she didn't want a strictly sexual relationship.

And frankly, I don't really want a strictly sexual relationship with her either.
 

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I loved knowing that another guy had the hots fdor me as much as I hac the hots for him, but we were in the Army and nother everhappened...but, in spite of the Army"s dim view of m2m intimacy, I do wish that we had somehow manqaged what we both desired.
 
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I had about 100 to 200 one night stands and I've not regretted them at all. If a woman wants just to have sex and I want just to have sex with her, there's no harm in it. I had a few fuck buddies and I still do (two at the moment).

I also do relationships but I don't need a relationship to have great sex, and I also know that a great relationship does not automatically result in great sex.
 

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I never feel bad about it, it's a decission that I made already before meeting them. It makes both of us feel good and as long as its safe I don't see why I would regret it.
 

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I have had a "one night stand" once with a friend that I kind of regret, but in all honesty I have never regretted having casual sex for the sake of just having sex. I have, however, regretted trying to invest some feelings or expectations in the matter. It has happened twice that I met a guy I thought was amazing, slept with him immediately while still holding on high hopes of us becoming something, and then obviously becoming nothing and being let down. I regret that. I regret not letting good sex just be good sex.

But I say, if the sex was good, maybe it was raunchy and wrong..but hey.