Do you ever wonder??

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I had one really great relationship in my life that lasted for 6 years. I loved the guy madly. We were best friends, party buddies, athletic competitors, and synergetic lovers. He ended up getting married and we lost touch for a while. A few years later, he got divorced and we were back to being great friends. He's still one of my best friends. He remarried 2 years ago and I get along famously with his wife. Of course, he never told her how we were connected in the past. This July marks 30 years ago that we became lovers. I've played around a little here and there but have yet to meet someone that I like as much who likes me back. If it happens, great; if not, my right hand still does the job. I have a good social life and love my friends. Who knows? Maybe lightning can strike twice. I'm more relationship material than a one night stand.
 

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I found her.

It was a late afternoon of november and I saw her sitting nex to me. A thunderbul hit me and I felt all my body shaking.

Than we met and knew ourselves, day by day, little by little, we opened un our secret places to the other. We discovered much., and nothing has disappointed me or her, nothing.

It is just destiny, and you have to help it: destiny is like the wind blowing in your hand. You have less than one second to trap it, or it will be gone.
 

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If you will that "special someone" who will accept you for all your faults and your perks?

I was thinking about this the other day. It kinda ties into a soulmate theory I may have mentioned here once upon a time... Basically, my thought was... is there just one person in the world who will accept you completely, unconditionally, and without any regrets that they have done so? If so, would losing the person mean you are SOL or is it possible to find another who will love you as much?

(Wow, considering I haven't slept in 3 days, I think that is pretty darned profound):rolleyes: :tongue:

Discuss, my little children.:biggrin1:

Yes it is VERY profound.

and, unfortunately, I DON'T think I'll ever find my so called soulmate-let's just say I'm really jaded.
I know everybody has been through bad relationships, traumatic breakups , and I'm no exception.
My difference is that the one person I would have EVER called a soulmate lied to me , cheated on me,and tried to have me killed.

Oh, by the way, I was married to this person for 8 years!

(Okay, I think that would be construed as "damaged goods", but read on.)


In the following relationships, I had a good number of FWB's and one niters.
I tried to form more solid relationships 4 times in the 9 years since my divorce-
1 was a pathological liar and compulsive gambler;
1 lied to me and said she was pregnant - and WAS, but not by me;
1 was a selfish, narcistic party-girl;
and the other was a selfish little prude who was... um.. a bit on the scared side of my endowment and only had sex with me 3 times in the year we were together (and, I'll admit forthrightly, I cheated on her 3 times and filled in the gaps with masturbation, which she (the ex-gf) was into watching... odd!)

At any rate, I've kinda gotten burned out on the hope of finding a woman I can trust, because , around here, it seem women don't appreciate a man with somewhat old fashioned values; chivalry, respect, devotion;
It seems a modern woman wants (albeit stereotypically) a jerk who's going to lie cheat steal and do anything he wants because he can .. essentially, the life of a dog.

Like I said... I'm just jaded.:mad: