Do you feel the need to introduce yourself as gay.

[umdoistressilvaquatro]

I distrust straight people and don't like how they deal with that kind of information, so no, I don't come out of the closet as part of introducing myself. But I get why he would want to do this. I think what you're missing out here is that you already introduce yourself as straight as default, because everyone think straight = normal. People will wonder if a person is gay only if he or her differs from what is normal of their gender, per example.
If a gay guy is confident on himself and expects the best from you, why would they not want to come out to you and correct false assumptions? It's not like it's an irrelevant issue: try to imagine how much of your conversations with your close friends is about girls, porn, relationships, etc, and try to imagine what an unnecessary hassle it would be if all of what you say on those topics had to be carefully faked up. And lies just demand increasingly more lies.
I've met some gay guys who were so impacted by this that they felt that even when the topic didn't envolve sexuality, they could no longer talk with expontanity because so much of their attention were turn to keeping lies, their personality was fake. Not a common thing to happen, but still almost every gay guy I know said they felt more secure to be expontaneous to someone after coming out to them.

 

[fbneros]

No I do not tell if I'm gay. Its not interesting for nobody just for gosip. What I'm doing in the bedroom its just my problem.

 

[Dickwatcherxo]

No ..

 

[phillo12345]

I just met a friend of my cousin today, and he introduced himself like " Hi my name is Mathis, I'm gay".

Like he NEEDED to express it. I was a bit take off by that declaration. It's like me saying, "hi my name is Hugues, I'm straight", I don't really care what's your orientation.

It's feel strange, and goofy. but I thought about it all day, and I thing it was more of a direct way of testing if I'm homophobic or maybe he's so use to be judged, that he wanted to remove all doubt concerning he's attitude.

Anyway, I was wondering if any of you do that when presenting yourself.

And if you do, why?

I don't, but I came out over 20 years ago. If I recall at the time I came out (which I can't mention here) it was very important that everyone know. Today, pushing 40, no, no rando or even acquaintance needs to know because it's completely irrelevant. All it tells a person is that I engage sexually with other men and even then if I tell people I am "gay" they make a whole lot of assumptions based on stereotypes that do not apply to me. I'm essentially no different from any other dude except I exclusively like dick, fantasizing about it, interacting with it, etc. Who the fuck needs to know that? Except the people that I'm doing it with.

 

[moonbeam]

I've been out and openly gay for nearly 20 years now, but a majority of the time most people I meet don't pick up on that about me unless I tell them. Worse yet, some of them that do pick up on that about me, assume that I'm some closet case, because I'm generally private about my orientation and love life to others. It's kind of a damned if you do/damned if you don't situation - if you flat out tell someone you're gay, they sometimes get all self conscious about it, wondering why you brought it up in the first place, but if you don't bring it up, they treat you like you're some sexually confused person. It also depends on your personality, some gay guys are super flamboyant, where there's no real need to tell anyone they're gay.

 

[Jalen Stegman]

it really depends...

 

[Infernal]

There is so much more to me than just my sexuality. It isn't relevant.

 

[328982]

Who, dear? Me, dear? Gay, dear? No, dear.