do you find dirty talk degrading?

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  1. D_Maurice Mountlilly

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    is it too much for you to hear your partner talk dirty to you?
    or are you freaky enough to enjoy it and talk back with your own nasty talk?
     
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    I think it depends on the person you're with, and also what you're both saying....
     
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    Potentially. I suppose it depends on 1. how aroused I am, and 2. how ridiculous my partner's dirty talk were to be. If I were very horny (and possibly had had a drink - just one though) then dirty talk would be just fine; hearing something whispered in your ear that pushes the right buttons is hot. Doing it back would be fine too; for example, telling a partner how they "feel" and the like. That said, ridiculous dirty talk is an enormous turn off for me. Being told (or telling someone) "Oh baby you're so tight, I just love plunging myself deep into your warm, wet (insert orifice here)" would probably seem a little corny for me. Any thoughts?
     
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    crookedhalo is right on the head .....
     
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    If delivered properly, fuck NO.
     
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    Some of it's fun.. really depends in the delivery.

    "I am going to rub my vagina all over you until you look like a glazed donut!"

    :eek::biggrin1: haha, good laughs!
     
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    No. . .unless it's done in such an inartful way that makes me think "who is this inane skank I'm schtupping?"
     
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    Why would it be?....unless someone is using words that you see in some of those degrading interracial pornos, where the guy calls the female the N-word or something. Otherwise in imo, dirty talk gets my me more excited when I am starting to go limp.
     
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    In theory I would like it. In reality, odds are almost a sure thing the psychology the other guy reveals about himself, when he talks dirty to me, will not be alluring to my psychology, just as if I were to talk dirty to him, he would not respond as I wished.

    I think it’s going to be really specific and getting a good match is against the odds.

    Not only that, allowing I think it is tempting, I’m not clear what would be the dirty talk that turns me on. Whatever it might be, it would be too embarrassing for me to post it here.

    When I have gotten hot, and we got into it, there’s lots of moaning and groans and the words are hardly what I think people mean when they say “dirty.” They will be “I love you” “God, I love you” “don’t stop” “you’re amazing” “fuck, don’t stop” “holy shit” “you’re fucking amazing” “I am so fucking in love with you.”

    I don’t think my words hack it as dirty talk.
     
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    ha!ha!ha!ha!
     
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    I am very verbal and love sharing my dirty thoughts. It usually feels like a struggle to get women to indulge me with some dirty talk of their own.

    Do any guys ever ask women to STOP dirty talk?
     
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    If it felt forced or rehearsed DEFINITE turn off.....if it just came out natural, heck go for it!
     
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    I find it a turn on and usually, not degrading.

    I understand that it's only really good when the person knows how to deliver it, but everyone's gotta start somewhere. I've had men use either too lame, or too degrading and helped them refine their dirty talk, if I can say it that way. It's sometimes been a good point of fun to mock them about it and have a laugh after the deed or the next day, and that helped my partners to not be afraid to try some new lines and see how I'd respond to them.

    When it's bad, it's ear crunching. When it's good, a bout of dirty talk can get my panties soaked through and my clit ready to burst as his touch.
     
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    Knee jerk reaction: Of course not!!!

    More considered response: I absolutely love it. My FB is possessed of an amazing ability to use his voice on me - he gives me multiple hands free orgasms just from phone sex. And during sex it raises my arousal levels significantly. I think there may actually be a hint of humiliation or embarrassment for me. But that's part of why I love it. I've enjoyed it with other partners as well, but my FB happens to be particularly good at it. He taps into my brain in a way no one else has ever managed to do.

    Unfortunately, I seem to be completely incapable of returning the favour. I find it almost impossible to verbalise, or even write about, sexually explicit stuff.
     
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    My dirty talk resembles what Chase1600 wrote, but like him, I also don't think that's what the OP is talking about. I mostly say things like, "God, I love fucking you!"

    A lot of the dirty talk in pron turns both of us off. We usually turn off the sound and there's been more than once when we've both been turned on by a particular porn scene, only to make the catastrophic mistake of turning the sound on and both of us getting turned off. The last time that happened, I turned it on mute again, but TheBF and I agreed, it was too late, the sexiness was gone! We could both still hear it in our heads and it ruined the fun of watching it.
     
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    Most porn dirty talk just makes me giggle. It all sounds so fake!
     
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    Much of the audio in porn (gay and straight) turns me off - it is usually done by someone other than the peformers. Too much "ohhhhhhh baby" and "ahhhhhhhs" are annoying. I'd just as soon do like some other posters here and turn the sound off.

    Off the subject...but I also hate "canned laughter" on TV sitcoms.
     
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    See I don't really know what dirty talk is outside of the context of the bullshit formulas you hear in porn.

    In real life I love it when a guy I'm fucking has plenty to say for himself while we're fucking, if that counts as dirty talk then I suppose I enjoy dirty talk. I think communication during sex is the key to having a good time, I don't enjoy it when its rehearsed or clearly lifted from pornography but if it's spontaneous and genuine then I'm into it.
     
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    porn dirty talk is just funny and not particularly erotic
    but who doesn't enjoy some good dirty talk?
     
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    This.

    I like a guy that verbalizes when I'm blowing him or he's fucking me. I want to hear him.

    I've always liked hearing a man's reactions....I think this is why I've liked phone sex as well.
     
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