Do You Find It Easy To Pick Up Guys In The Gay Clubs?

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I’m curious about other people’s experiences… how often do you find yourself in a situation when you are dying to put out the vibe and get physical with a guy you lust after. What do you tend to do in that kind of situation? How do you go about striking up an acquaintance?
 

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The problem is that I don't particularly like drunk sex, so I don't usually take home or go home with guys from the bar. Alcohol makes me more mental and less physical. However picking up dudes on the dance floor is pretty fun, that can start with playful touching then seeing if there's a vibe. I prefer to do that at raves or festivals instead of bars though, because at a rave or festie they're usually on molly or mushrooms, and its way funner to have sex on those substances than it is alcohol, alcohol ruins sex.
 

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I’m curious about other people’s experiences… how often do you find yourself in a situation when you are dying to put out the vibe and get physical with a guy you lust after. What do you tend to do in that kind of situation? How do you go about striking up an acquaintance?

Hello XXX,

When I did go to gay bars/clubs I was extremely bold. If I seen a man or men I was interested in and felt those vibes I usually walked over to them and said, "my cum would look great in your mouth." It told me where I stood with them immediately and usually I had sex multiple times before going home. Just do it, if you feel it. Walk up to that man and tell him what you want in your own words. Put the phone down, unbutton that shirt, zip down your fly (yes I said down) and go for it.

Hugs, tugs, rubs and hopefully allot of loves.
 
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For me I just chill dance and drink, I think if ur confidence is high u send the vibes. Have a good time and someone will notice. Just dance on some one ask them if they want a drink or something and try to talk to them.
 
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i've found that when i 'want' to hook up with a guy in a club its like i have 'loser' or 'desperate' plastered on my forehead but if i'm just out to enjoy myself, or even more likely when i'm in a relationship and happy/contented then i get more guys come on to me (annoys the bf lots lol but he gets super turned on).

i think its much easier in general if you're happy, secure and content in yourself, that creates a good vibe from you, and you're more likely to be able to pull.

good luck, go and enjoy
 

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Haven’t done it in years since phone apps come out, which are much more efficient if looking for a quick hook up. In a gay bar everyone knows the drill. Just say hi, and if he’s interested you’ll know pretty quickly. If not, move on to the next one.
 

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With apps, there is not a lot of incentive to go out with the intention of picking up. But if it's there for the taking then of course.

The signal at the bar is the stare down. If you are interested, you stare back. A smile doesn't hurt.

Men are mostly visual, you can tell if they like you by watching their eyes breaking you down into body parts and ticking their mental checklist as they go. It doesn't mean they are available but you know they will require less pursuading.
 
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Honestly it’s different now.
From late 90s Up until maybe like 2015 it was really easy to walk in a bar or club and meet people from all walks of life and have a good chance at friendship or a quick nsa fling…or both. Nowadays if people are out it’s really only to be social with their own group they are out with. More than likely nowadays you’ll be met with awkward glances if you approach someone random cause people kinda don’t trust anyone nowadays. Hookup apps have definitely changed the game as well.
 

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It can be tricky. I'm a guy with high confidence which actually makes me feel like I 'intimidate' people. Hence,
I feel like the best resolution is usually to go up and say something that you genuinely like about the person. Guys are not usually told they're attractive, but everyone wants to feel attractive and desired. From there you can read vibes. I think it's usually fine to be open about what you want if you and the person on the level. Fortune favors the bold. If you lose, learn to take those hits until they don't bother you. Flirting and seduction are skills that you can train if you are brave and willing to learn from yourself and others.
 

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If you’re attractive, and by that, I mean you look like the typical hunk in the gay party circuit, you can literally be a dead fish laying on the floor with shit-personality, you’ll still have hot guys literally throwing themselves on top of you.

If you’re unattractive, and by that, you look nothing like the hunks on those gay posters. You can be as friendly, intelligent or flirty as you like. The next person you look at will call the cops on you for assaulting their eyesight and being such a creep for facing your head in their direction. That’s the reality!
 
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Clubs are definitely much easier than bars I would say, but a lot of it depends on the vibe of the place, my mood etc. I also prefer festivals to clubs for picking up guys.

Oddly enough, my highest success rates were picking up men in lesbian bars.
 

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I agree, clubs are better. Especially if it’s a dance club where most guys will have their shirts off. Then I think there’s a more sexually charged atmosphere anyway, lots of guys definitely open to a bit of fun. It might be just a feel or a snog on the dance floor or it might lead to something more. But if a guy has his shirt off I think you’re being invited to take a look and give approval or a compliment and see where it goes. I’ve enjoyed picking up guys for a one night stand this way.