Do you focus when you're having sex

[size_is_relative]

So last week I was hanging out with my girl, on the couch, watching a movie. One thing led to another and we started having sex which all told wound up lasting ~an hour, maybe hour and a quarter. So we finish, and she tells me to rewind the movie. And I'm like...why? And she says she wants to see what she missed. And I honestly didn't know what she meant because I had still been watching the movie while we were doing it.

I mean obviously it didn't have my full intention, but I had no problem keeping track of what happened while we were having sex. The idea that while we were having sex I wasn't totally focused on the sex seemed to...irk her a little.

I mean I wasn't half assing, we're talking some damn good sex we had. I'm just always able to think about other stuff at the same time (well not so much when I cum).

Do you guys focus just on the sex, or does your mind wander?

 

[Principessa]

Of course she was irked! :irked: If you were watching the movie you weren't giving her your full attention. SHE was giving you her full attention, and expects the same in return. This is exactly why most women insist on the tv being off during sex. I don't mind a little background music; but no tv.

 

[biz4two]

Haa...no wonder you lasted an hour + during that love session. If I want to last...I think of baseball (don't like the sport much)...and the stock market. So...my mind wonders, but if it is a quickie (15min), then I focus on the sex so I can cum.


biz

 

[Wish-4-8]

Talk about multitasking!!!

Your body might of been with her, but your mind wasnt. "The body cannot live without the mind" (from The Matrix)

So in her mind, your heart wasnt. And chicks being the complicated creatures that they are, stuff like that is important for so many reasons. The only time the TV should be on is if it helps the experiance. I sometimes will have porn playing in the background. Not to neccessarily watch it, but to add to the atmosphere and add a naughty element. Besides, once an ex-GF told me that she gets turned on by hearing the sex noises and moans of a woman getting fucked.

 

[size_is_relative]

Not for nothing...it's not like I wasn't focusing on her. It's just that I never focus on anything. I wasn't trying to last, it's just the way it worked out. I don't know what she has to be irked at, she came like 4 times to my 2...

I guess it's just the way I am...I'm never thinking about just one thing. I've written computer programs in my head while riding roller coasters and scribbled haikus while taking a statistics final.

Edit: The tv was only on because we had been watching TV and kind of segued into sex. I don't recall the exact circumstances, but if I had to guess I'd say I started playing with her hair...and she jumped me (it's nice to know the tricks)

 

[AlphaMale]

So last week I was hanging out with my girl, on the couch, watching a movie. One thing led to another and we started having sex which all told wound up lasting ~an hour, maybe hour and a quarter. So we finish, and she tells me to rewind the movie. And I'm like...why? And she says she wants to see what she missed. And I honestly didn't know what she meant because I had still been watching the movie while we were doing it.

I mean obviously it didn't have my full intention, but I had no problem keeping track of what happened while we were having sex. The idea that while we were having sex I wasn't totally focused on the sex seemed to...irk her a little.

I mean I wasn't half assing, we're talking some damn good sex we had. I'm just always able to think about other stuff at the same time (well not so much when I cum).

Do you guys focus just on the sex, or does your mind wander?

Dude, that's almost slap worthy!

LOL, no but seriously why would you not want to pay extra attention to her during sex - that's got to be more fun than the movie.

Pay attention to the little things... breathe on her neck, rub her clitoris while you penetrate her, lick her nipples while you penetrate her, etc. etc.

Can't really do all that and watch the movie, know what I mean :smile:

 

[Smartalk]

I was always lead to believe that women were the best at multi-tasking not guys...so what happend here???

 

[scottmac]

I was always lead to believe that women were the best at multi-tasking not guys...so what happend here???

He forgot to put on the sub titles. :wink:

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

Lol, well if a girl is humping up and down on my dick, it would be hard to concentrate on something else then her!

 

[B_New End]

Of course I focus on the task at hand. Sex is the greatest feeling in the world. Watching a movie is like the 15th greatest feeling in the world. Why let one contaminate the other?

 

[size_is_relative]

Dude, that's almost slap worthy!
Pay attention to the little things... breathe on her neck, rub her clitoris while you penetrate her, lick her nipples while you penetrate her, etc. etc.

Done, Done & Done.

I think you guys are missing my point...it's not that I wasn't focused on the sex, it's that I can focus on something and still keep track of other things.

It's not like some scene from American Psycho with me fucking two hookers while flexing in the mirror, ignoring the goings on.

 

[Magnum10x2]

I focus on going as deep as I can... Mission... Stretch the fornix and enjoy that grip on my head. Oh, yeah... let he cum like a banshee...

 

[MickeyLee]

size is relative - which movie were you watching?

ml

 

[Wish-4-8]

Its like this. Let say you are trying to have an important conversation about something really important with someone and they are doing everything but looking at you. Yet they swear they are listening to every word you say. Maybe they are. The point is how it makes YOU feel.

 

[hud01]

So last week I was hanging out with my girl, on the couch, watching a movie. One thing led to another and we started having sex which all told wound up lasting ~an hour, maybe hour and a quarter. So we finish, and she tells me to rewind the movie. And I'm like...why? And she says she wants to see what she missed. And I honestly didn't know what she meant because I had still been watching the movie while we were doing it.

I mean obviously it didn't have my full intention, but I had no problem keeping track of what happened while we were having sex. The idea that while we were having sex I wasn't totally focused on the sex seemed to...irk her a little.

I mean I wasn't half assing, we're talking some damn good sex we had. I'm just always able to think about other stuff at the same time (well not so much when I cum).

Do you guys focus just on the sex, or does your mind wander?

If I am getting a bj yes it can wander...during sex noooooooooo. bad thing to do. Even if it happens to admit it tells me you are young and have not been in many relationships.

 

[hockeyguy741]

What were you watching.......focus on what your doing and do what she says and rewind the movie or you'll be using your hand all alone the next time

 

[MarkLondon]

Tonight, as things progressed, I grabbed the remote and fumbled for the off button. On the TV, not the person!

 

[Jovial]

Pay attention to the little things... breathe on her neck, rub her clitoris while you penetrate her, lick her nipples while you penetrate her, etc. etc.

Can't really do all that and watch the movie, know what I mean :smile:

Why can't he? Some people can focus on all those things at the same time. It doesn't sound like she was disappointed in his performance. It was only after he said he was paying attention to the movie that she got irked. I could see if he was obviously distracted during sex, but he apparently wasn't.

I don't understand why women are like this. It goes beyond sex too. They want the man to think about them 100% of the time even when not having sex. Where did they learn this as being a realistic ideal?

The bottom line is, would the girlfriend rather have someone that was completely focused but was terrible at sex or someone that was so good & in tune with her that he could also focus on other things?

 

[AlphaMale]

Why can't he? Some people can focus on all those things at the same time. It doesn't sound like she was disappointed in his performance. It was only after he said he was paying attention to the movie that she got irked. I could see if he was obviously distracted during sex, but he apparently wasn't.

The bottom line is, would the girlfriend rather have someone that was completely focused but was terrible at sex or someone that was so good & in tune with her that he could also focus on other things?

I'm only going on personal experience here... but I can tell you that during my hottest, most passionate sexual moments the last thing that was on my mind was what was on TV.

I can focus on many things at one time also. That's not a gift, that's called "multi-tasking". Most people in the working world practice it daily.

If she's thinks it's good enough for her then that's fine, definitely better that way.

However, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that 'completely focused and good at sex' is going to trump 'not completely focused and good at sex' as well as 'completely focused and not good at sex'. :wink:

 

[D_Beau Nerr]

That's why she's pissed. But dude at least pretend that you're focused on her.