Do you feel hopeless in finding love or a monogamous relationship whenever you're on a dating app and you see so many gay guys who are "married", "in a relationship" or "open relationship"?
Just curious.
Just curious.
Do you feel hopeless in finding love or a monogamous relationship whenever you're on a dating app and you see so many gay guys who are "married", "in a relationship" or "open relationship"?
Just curious.
50% of straight marriages fall apart. It's not gay men being slutty or any other sex panic based concern.
Good question.Do you feel hopeless in finding love or a monogamous relationship whenever you're on a dating app and you see so many gay guys who are "married", "in a relationship" or "open relationship"?
Just curious.
I agree. I suspect that gay men are just more open/honest about the nature of their relationships than straight people are. I know I'm oversimplifying, but you get my point, I hope.
My boyfriend made very clear before we became serious that he regards love and sex as being separate. I play around on occasion but I always make clear that I've no interest in dating/romance/love because I've already found that. Even my Grindr profile says that.
I know a lot of couples like that. An example would be on guy is an exclusive bottom and his partner is 90% top and the top has been told to go out and have fun when he wants his 10% itch scratched.
Good question.
Personally, as someone who would only engage in a monogamous relationship, I can answer yes to the part about finding a monogamous relationship.
I don’t judge those who do open relationships but the idea of knowing my boyfriend/partner has been out sucking, fucking, rimming etc another guy and then coming home to kiss and lay with me makes my skin crawl. It’s not for me.
I am noticing that more and more open relationships are appearing online these days as it seems to be becoming quite the norm amongst gay men.
Do you feel hopeless in finding love or a monogamous relationship whenever you're on a dating app and you see so many gay guys who are "married", "in a relationship" or "open relationship"?
Just curious.
My gay roommate who is in his late 40’s doesn’t believe that gay men can have a monogamous relationships. He is the kindest person I know so it’s hard to discredit him.
I want to believe but it’s hard when I’ve had so many guys hit on me that are in relationships, open or not. And then the single men don’t want relationships.
Anyways I’d decided that I’m gonna be celibate until I find a relationship.
I’ll be honest that I often fantasize about having a husband I get to have sed with regularly. I’m such a love suck bottom but that’s just me. I know what love it about. My parents have been married for almost 40 years now. I’ve seen them fight and argue and work things out. And I didn’t realize until I was older that I’m happy my parents have an active sex life. I found my dads viagra once. Lol I want what they found in each other but maybe there is truth to what my roommate said. Idk
You and he are both right. Gay men like him can't. Jewish men like you can, because your culture supports it and has for millenia as a matter of life and death for the people. Gay men from the revolution have strong cultural reasons to eschew Judaeo Christian monogamy. But here's the thing. You are not only one of the two, but both. You have decided that the traditions of the faith and your parent's exemplar as well as the many rituals that you were ignorant of. You are certain you are right. But what about your partner to be? If he isn't a gay Jew with simple needs and like you how to move in the traditions and maintain them.
You are having trouble dating because you want to hold every single man you meet to the standard of your mother and are taking their interest in a date or sex as a corruption of a wedding that isn't even with bride in car yet? Those in relationships are sacrilege against the ideals you have never yourself had to enact or even contemplate beyond romantic fantasy or they are not taking things seriously enough (because not having a relationship of any kind is how you get seriously distorted ideas about relationships). Recap, all those married or in relationships are morally deficient, and those who are single (wait for it) don't want relationships, which in this short answer you have defined as rigid and eternal committment from the beginning and since they aren't serious about the wedding they are not worth putting any effort into at all, something you learned and no need to meet them half way damaged goods.
You are bailing on the teenage years and young adulthood and dating as well as gay sex because your parents fell in love and have kids. You say single men don't want relationships and all the interest is married. You don't have a clue about romantic and sexual relationships because you don't have the experience. Not having it as a resolution. You completely disallowed any work on existing men without the scarlet letter of A because they all fail and you get off the hook.
You don't find a relationship. You build one with someone.Relationships take time and effort. put in the work. There is pre gun.
Omfg who the hell said I was Jewish! You wrote all that, thinking you know who I am but you don’t. looking mad dumb.