Do you get hit on at the gym?

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  1. eastbaydude

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    I trust I'm not the only one who gets hit on in the gym lockerroom - am I?

    When I'm in the lockerrom, I get hit on by guys. I'm hoping its not a gay vibe or anything. Some guys just make comments about my dick size, another offered to go down on me in the handicapped stall. I've seen guys masturbating. One guy in the shower bent over and showed my his asshole.

    Don't get me wrong, I've had sex guys before, so I'm not freaked out or anything, just still surprised. I prefer typically girls. Now, if I could get girls to hit on me like that....

    What do you do? Are you surprised? Put off? Shocked? Flattered?
     
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    Good timing- I was actually going to post this as a topic and saw yours.
    I've been hit on a few times at the gym, but in a more subtle manner than what you've experienced- mostly eye contact, stares in the shower, etc. Doesn't bother me at all- I'm a bi guy- but I'd never do anything at a gym. I figure it's a public space and I want to respect others- not to mention the health issues.
    However, two days ago the following happened: I was in the shower after my workout and minding my own business. There was another guy in the showers and I thought he was glancing my way but I really wasn't paying attention. Then, he stopped taking a shower, walked over to me and said:"I just want you to know that you have a beautiful dick"... Wish I could say I had some retort to handle the situation, but I was so taken aback by his being so forward that I stopped dead in my tracks. I finally just finished my shower- quickly- and left.
    Anybody have ideas on what the right response would have been?
     
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    The scariest thing that can happen to a straight guy?

    Accidentally dropping his soap in a crowded shower room.
     
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    I could never be so...er...forward in a lockerroom situation like that, hungniceguy! But that being said, there are a couple of guys at my gym who I'd LIKE to say something like that to. One guy in particular. He's employed by the facility and I would say is in his mid forties and has one of the most gorgeous bodies I've seen in person. Totally smooth (EVERYwhere), is a speed skater (so has huge legs) and least I forget has one of the largest penises I've ever seen (soft)!
     
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    hungniceguy, a good response would be: thanks, that took courage to say that and smile.
    East Bay dude, I live about 100 miles south of you on the Monterey Bay, and I see and experience the same thing you do. This is California, land of sexual expression. As a gay Latino
    male, I enjoy looking and being hit on. the handicapped stall does come in handy(as long as the shower room isnt busy and no physically disabled man needs to use it). Some of the best head I have ever received has happened there, from men I know (regulars).

    the manager of the gym where I go is aware of it, and does not make an issue of it as long as no one complains.

    whatever your sexuality, men do look at other men in the shower. It is not perverted, just natural curiosity. If an adult female entered the locker room, I would be glad to show off for her too. the human form is wonderful in its many forms. you are alive. enjoy your body while you can.
     
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    I never have been hit on a the gym, but then I usually work out at home. Part of it is probably because I'm built like a linebacker, so it probably scares some guys off. Not that I would hurt them if they did, of course, but I can see how they might imagine that.

    I've only been hit on by a guy twice, not counting adult bookstores. Once was a salesman at a department store who seemed to have a knack for saying the wrong thing. The other was a newly-out guy who mistakenly thought he was in a gay bar.
     
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    Great post, Aloofman. I've been out to straight clubs with my g/f & have had both guys & girls come on to me. Sometimes I'm so naive about it that my g/f has to tell me what's happening. I think I'm a mellow enough person that it doesn't bother me. I don't have a real serious looking face, so I think people just assume that I'm not wanting to fuck their brains out...as in "on the prowl". I put that same vibe out in public showering places. Mostly guys will smile at me & I smile back. I think that energy dissapates intense sexual vibrations. My g/f always says that I'm "overly friendly." B)
     
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    more women than men hit on me at the gym. especially at the one I currently use, because it's full of bored middle-class housewives. one of them actually pinched my ass a few weeks ago x(
     
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    This is *exactly* the reason I don't shower in the gym.

    Anyways, outside the shower, here's a tip:
    Wear your Ipod at the gym. Repels any kind of unwanted advances....at least for me it does. I get hit on ALL THE TIME, mostly by macho guys and guys with gf's
    ( does that really suprise anyone -_- ) and all that has completely stopped once I started bringing my Ipod along and tuning out the rest of the world.

    Once they see you constantly wearing earphones everytime your at the gym, they realize you must not be looking for any action.

    But its weird how some guys seem to be at the gym soley for a hook-up. Theres even this guy from this soap opera thats following me around..... :wacko:
     
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    This is *exactly* the reason I don't shower in the gym.

    Anyways, outside the shower, here's a tip:
    Wear your Ipod at the gym. Repels any kind of unwanted advances....at least for me it does. I get hit on ALL THE TIME, mostly by macho guys and guys with gf's
    ( does that really suprise anyone -_- ) and all that has completely stopped once I started bringing my Ipod along and tuning out the rest of the world.

    Once they see you constantly wearing earphones everytime your at the gym, they realize you must not be looking for any action.

    But its weird how some guys seem to be at the gym soley for a hook-up. Theres even this guy from this soap opera thats following me around..... :wacko:
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    What's wrong with telling someone they have a beautiful dick? Shouldn't it be the same as telling someone they have pretty eyes, nice hair or other distinguishing features? It seems like some people get offended by compliments. Now, if they continue to press for sex or more that is different. Why don't people just learn to say thank you and walk away?
     
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    I agree w/allyblu...I workout at the gym like 5 times a week and I get more stares or some guy tries to undress or stand naked near me...I keep my ipod on from the time I walk in the gym and look straight ahead...My gym is probably over 50% gay males but I am never rude and will talk to your or say hello in between sets but I only have about a hour or a little more to work out and I do a lot in that hour so that is one reason I like to keep it about the work out...And I live right by my gym so I go home to shower...Sex at the gym is not a fantasy of mine but more power to anyone else who it is a fantasy for...
     
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    My feelings exactly, if the attention is'nt overwhelming I can deal with it. I'll probably say a quick hello and keep it moving.

    The idea of having a stanger come up to me as I leave the shower and say "you have a nice penis" is a little forward to say the least. It would be like walking up to a guy on the subway and saying "wow, you have a nice ass".

    Comments like these could be taken the wrong way.......especially if you don't even know the person......
     
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    Totally agree...There is way to flatter someone w/o being offensive to someone...Dick size comments can be flattering to some but also can be embarassing to others and I usual like to take others feelings in consideration...
     
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    Whenever possible I shower at home. I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm not comfortable being naked around a large group of people. And I don't care if a guy hits on me when I'm fully clothed, but please keep your distance in the showers / locker room. I don't think that's too much to ask.



    I just changed gyms, and seem to be having the same problem. I wish there were a separate weight room, because quite frankly, gay guys are much less of an annoyance than middle-aged women. Generally speaking, of course.
     
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    I thought I was the only one that was shy about that! :blush:
     
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    Maybe next time some stranger tells me "Nice dick." I can remember to stutter, "Thanks." I am so shocked when this happens that the brain and vocal cords shut down.

    I guess for some that is like saying, "Nice pecs."

    I seldom go to the gym without friends so I can avoid being hit on.

    jay
     
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    I kind of like the attention if someone is staring at me in the gym. Its kind of a turn on and i just store up the horniness and take it home with me. If someone says "nice dick" I just say thanks.

    Interesting to me is that many of the men doing the staring and oggling in gyms, as well as popping boners or gently massaging their crotches are, for all intents and purpose, straight. In fact, I think most of the guys who engage in public cruising or tea rooms tend to be straight men on the way home to their wives or girlfiends.
     
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    I think you definitely have the right adea, indianaman_04. A compliment should be accepted as such and thanks given, regardless of what part of the body is appreciated. I think, usually, eye contact will be made and in more times than not words exchanged, but even if these connections haven't been made, a thank you is necessary.

    I've had a couple of strangers at the gym ask me how thick my dick is, I think because I'm a short guy and at times it's noticeable. It doesn't offend me and I consider their curiosity a compliment. If there happens to be an ulterior motive behind the question, I think this can be handled satisfactory without any problems.
     
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    Yes, and by the most disgusting people too, lol
     
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    Wow, insecure much?
     
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